u/CIRNO9000

So I've known my friend for many years now, she's easily one of my all time best friends. We met through a mutual friend over a decade ago, and I was immediately attracted to her. As our friendship matured, so did my feelings get stronger until it was obvious to me I was full-on in love with her. She is, to my eyes, perfect in every way. We share so many laughs, and have so much in common you would think we were clones of each other.

Fast forward to a few years back. I finally worked up the courage to ask her on a date. It was one of the most stressful things I've ever had to do. Sadly she said no, not because of me, but because she was afraid of what would happen to our friendship(s) if we started dating.

Some time after that I worked up the courage to fully confess my feelings. I hid a love letter in a Christmas present I got her and waited. She became distant for a bit after that. Eventually she said we needed to talk this over. We met and I laid it all bare. She said she wasn't looking to start a relationship with anyone yet, but did say that I was very brave to admit this to her. I respected her decision, we hugged, and carried on.

I'm still close friends with her--and still have deep feelings for her. I've never felt like this for anyone in my life. And I'm still not sure how to move on from this...

Anyone here ever had a “pseudo date” with someone before?

What I mean by that is a hangout that is basically a date in all but name, with none of the strings attached that a full on date might have, typically with a friend or someone you know well.

I’ve been doing these with my friend and to be honest they’re better than any real date I’ve ever been on. Sure there’s no kissing or anything overtly sexual or any of that, but I have such a fun time that I don’t feel I need any of it.

Full disclosure, I’ve had feelings for this friend for some time (and she knows it) but she doesn’t reciprocate (she doesn’t want to commit to any kind of relationship at the moment or risk losing our friendship). But we’ve had so much fun on the pseudo dates. It’s been better than all the lousy dead end first dates I’ve been on.

Anyone else done this? What’s been your experience? Am I onto something or just fooling myself?

So on Saturday I was driving normally and the "check IMA system" light and warning came on, I parked at my destination and switched off the car. Several hours later as I was going home, the light did not come back on. On Sunday, I drove it again and no light came on. Then on Monday I didn't drive at all. Today I was driving to work and the light came back on.

I've had the cooling fan issue in the past and got it replaced, and there's no red battery light coming on, so I don't think it'll be either of those issues. I'm planning to take it into the dealer probably next Monday (only day I'll have off) but does anyone have any ideas what could be causing this?

Posting this question to the experts as I can't seem to find good consensus on this, surprisingly.

I have a VoPo Wachtmeister uniform I'm finishing up, and I'm confused as to which belt (if any) is worn with it. Right now I have a brown leather belt with matching Makarov holster, which I've seen in some pictures, but others show a black leather belt with square buckle, and still others show no belt at all. What's the regulation for a late 80s VoPo belt for the everyday patrol uniform?

Have any of you had a situation in dating; be it unrequited love, being dumped, an unresolved crush, etc, that you've had trouble getting over or moving on from?

In my case, it's my the romantic love I feel for my best friend, and have been feeling for years. I've shared these feelings with her, and she sadly doesn't feel the same way about me. Her words were that she's not looking for a relationship at the moment, but also that she really didn't want to risk ruining the friendship.

I've had a lot of trouble getting over this. I feel like the best way for me to move on is to find someone else, and I've gotten close on several occasions, but sadly those didn't work out. I'm wondering if anyone else is going (or has gone) through something similar.

I ask because mine is pretty trash, lol. I live in southern Florida, and the dating pool here is terrible. Most are rich women looking for rich men, or they're conservatives or very religious (no disrespect if you are, but I'm not). In the apps I just get a ton of really generic people with no standouts. I was curious how everyone else's areas fared. Maybe I'll move, haha.