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Me (21F) and my gf (21F) been together for 3 years. My gf is pretty closed off and I’m a open book. I think my gf believes that her feelings are a problem and a burden. I try to get her to open up to me more and I want to just comfort her and help her. Sometimes it works, but for the most part she doesn’t like talking about her feelings/problems. She always tells me she’s okay when I know she’s not. I don’t want to pressure her. I know that will completely shut her down. I want to feel more emotional connection to her and I want to feel needed by her too. What do I do

Me and my gf have been long distance for 3 years. We met in high school then I moved away. We may close the gap at the end of the year with getting an apartment so I’m trying my best to wait it out. My gf is so busy between work and school full time. (School is online but it’s still a lot of her time). I feel so lonely most days bc of it, I try to feel the gap with odd jobs, school, hobbies, or stuff I enjoy but I’m always thinking about her. I don’t really have much family or a lot of friends either. If she’s not working or doing school she sleeps because she’s so exhausted. She told me how depressed and anxious she feels and how bad she wants to work less. I really want her too as well. I don’t wanna put more pressure on her then she already has but I’m so sad she’s not around. I wanna be there for her but I can’t because she doesn’t text that much. I feel so selfish and like a burden for wanting her attention more. I try telling her how much I miss her and she told me she wants to try harder for me. Nothing changes though, she’s just so busy that I think she can’t. I never felt this way before with her. I don’t know what to do. Should I just bite my tongue until we break the gap?

Me and my gf have been long distance for 3 years. We met in high school then I moved away. We may close the gap at the end of the year with getting an apartment so I’m trying my best to wait it out. My gf is so busy between work and school full time. (School is online but it’s still a lot of her time). I feel so lonely most days bc of it, I try to feel the gap with odd jobs, school, hobbies, or stuff I enjoy but I’m always thinking about her. I don’t really have much family or a lot of friends either. If she’s not working or doing school she sleeps because she’s so exhausted. She told me how depressed and anxious she feels and how bad she wants to work less. I really want her too as well. I don’t wanna put more pressure on her then she already has but I’m so sad she’s not around. I wanna be there for her but I can’t because she doesn’t text that much. I just want her so bad but I feel so selfish and like a burden. I try telling her how much I miss her and just want her more and she told me she wants to try harder for me. Nothing changes though, she’s just so busy that I think she can’t. I never felt this way before with her. I don’t know what to do. Should I just bite my tongue until we break the gap?

Me and my gf have been long distance for 3 years. We may close the gap at the end of the year with getting an apartment so I’m trying my best to wait it out. My gf is so busy between work and school full time. (School is online but it’s still a lot of her time). I feel so lonely most days bc of it, I try to feel the gap with odd jobs, school, hobbies, or stuff I enjoy but I’m always thinking about her. I don’t really have much family or a lot of friends either. If she’s not working or doing school she sleeps because she’s so exhausted. She told me how depressed and anxious she feels and how bad she wants to work less. I really want her too as well. I don’t wanna put more pressure on her then she already has but I’m so sad she’s not around. I wanna be there for her but I can’t because she doesn’t text that much. I just want her so bad but I feel so selfish and like a burden. I try telling her how much I miss her and just want her more and she told me she wants to try harder for me. Nothing changes though, she’s just so busy that she can’t. I never felt this way before with her. I don’t know what to do. Should I just bite my tongue until we break the gap?