u/BulkyOwl3005

Story time of keep searching what you are looking for if you are not happy where you are training:

I have posted multiple times on this forum across the years, trying to understand what was going on with myself of why I hated my favorite sport. I did taekwondo all my life, in a different contintent from where I live now.. was even very good when I was younger and had my dream's wings cut by external personal circumstances in 2012.

As I grew up with old WTF style pre-sensor time, having moved country and starting taekwondo again, eroded all my liking on this sport. Combined with a lot of accumulated trauma as I grew up making it very difficult to show up and motivate, and later feel anything good/positive, I have failed at all my attempts to restart this martial art... until I finally understood what I was missing. I never understood why. I could not find why.

(fyi: If you practice a different martial art, you may know that nowadays Taekwondo is mostly front leg kicks, and became sort of a boxing with feet based on points, so it has no more need of using power.) As it became a sport and popularized so much in the last 10-15 years, the entire training focus shifted and "martial art" part got lost. Less forms, less self-defense, less history, etc. I trained for a few years on and off, waiting on the federation's minimum time to make the first dan exam... This made me really hate it in all aspects and senses. So I quit, joined, quit, joined, quit for several years being disappointed yet again like a toxic ex.

In 2024 I had this craving of taekwondo back.. and happen to have found a school where the owner not only was trained old school, but also had an entire important career in taekwondo. I started training there and was happy to have found a school that was following the same standard, quality and attention to details like my first school did. I was finally on the way, and could arrange the possibility for exam thanks to good performance and appeal. I really liked it again, but I didn't know why.

Life happened again unfortunately, and for almost a year I could not practice nor had the mental capacity for it, and then moved yet again. There I hit a brick mentally, especially not feeling any positive emotion for anything.

I became more even frustrated, because again my progress was cut. Again the promise I did to myself of becoming 1st dan delayed again, after now more than 15 years further, on top of the lost mobility, forgetting my forms, etc.

I have been now a few weeks looking for the right place to train, and went on a few trial lessons with new schools nearby until I completely exhausted myself going to these schools that are totally disconnected from the old roots. Getting told no guarantee for exam, etc and not focussed on working for a common goal. After going to the last trial lesson, I was so disappointed, so sad and so numbed out of this (on top of my shit) that I completely broke down crying and told myself "what in the world is what makes me hate taekwondo so much?" "I'll call my old school (100km away from here), or I will "retire" and quit trying".

And then it clicked:

I didn't crave the modern kicks, the modern plyo style training. I craved the old school twit-chaguis, the back leg big dolios, the jumping kicks and so on. I craved the powerful kicks, the hansonal hand techniques that can KO, etc. The attention to detail of discipline and hand position, the lessons focused on forms, the slowing down a kick to get it perfect(ish), etc.

So... I was looking at the wrong school type. I called up my old school, was invited to train again, and it felt like going back home, I have had so much fun I didn't have in years... and I finally could see the lessons from a different lens: a lens of "this is what I was looking for". The trainers and the people training there are very serious yet very accommodating, fun to be around with, etc. Open to the fact I travel so far to go train with them, coming home at midnight. I couldn't be happier to have done this choice and I can't wait to go back to train the upcoming weeks. I travel 2 hours to train 1 hour and a half, and then travel 2 hours back. 100% worth it. And it turned out, I very much remember a lot of forms!

I'm even surprised I felt happy, I haven't felt that way in years.

So yea, there you go. If you loved a sport and now don't anymore, for whatever reason that may be... explore why. In depth. Follow your inner child on this. trust it!

I would like to study and become a personal trainer/coach for the sports I practice and one day open my own gym with dojo. A lot of people probably did this as well, but so far I can only find information about the USA and USA certifications including on this subreddit wiki.

It seems like I could follow an Associate Degree at University, and somewhere I saw there was an European Certification as well. However, it sounds like many of these certificates are bs and money hungry programs, so I am quite lost on what I really should follow.

Any ideas?

I need to do some SEO work and I have no time (no DMs please). I see people doing stuff via Fiverr, but I’m concerned about the security… how ?
I obviously wouldn’t give the password of my website and so on. How do they do SEO then?

I never outsourced this, so please forgive my complete ignorance

Last year I moved city, and here there are no taekwondo schools. There is one for ITF, but I’m WT, old school style…

I’m a student and travelling to the nearest city would be over two hours away from here by train, and usually here you train in the evenings so it would mean that I’d not be home before midnight which is incompatible with my studies. Monthly budget is as low as almost none unless it’s my birthday.

I’m already stuck with my belt, having changed country my WT federation obligates you to wait 3 years from 1 geup to 1st Dan actively practicing at a school affiliated, the exams are only twice a year, I’m quite done waiting tbh… I have waited much more than 3 years in between breaks and everything. If I start again officially I have to wait again 3 years.

I’m going to ask the worst question but considering the circumstances: is there a way to somehow get graded somehow online with an official institution like kukkiwon or travel to some recognized examination center to do the exam?

For as technique, poomsae and everything required everything is still there so it would not be a matter of learning anything anymore, just get the 1st Dan and as soon as I’m done with my studies move somewhere closer to a school, but get over this endless stuck waiting time.

It’s probably the worst idea ever but does anyone pack in the military?

(Im not in the USA, the trans ban does not affect me but not wanting to get outed)

I plan to go hiking a few days in Salzburg, I have to be there for something else and after that I want to go hiking. I read that camping is not legal in Austria, and considering that I will be fully dependent of the public transportation I don't think I will be able to go very far anyways.

I'm on a budget almost as low as 0, so hotel is basically already too expensive.

Wondering if such shelters exist around there?

After years of helping businesses close regulatory findings, start up, get certified, etc. today for the first time in 13 years I said to a client that I couldn’t help them.
Client been non responsive for months, even after multiple email reminders or follow up. They only had 1 visit where I told them what to do, and then of course they didn’t… months went by and now they are in a chess mate situation. I was supposed to draft them a contract but while doing so, realized they are basically fucked, I can’t do my job like this and decided to say then I couldn’t work with them like this.

I’ll be honest, I’m just here for support.. I never had such a situation and I’m quite scared of getting in trouble, although this should actually give me rest I actually feel very uneasy.

Running a business (in consultancy) it’s been quite a challenge as someone who is severely traumatized with PTSD, and this feels very much like a walking on eggshells and am avoiding triggers like the plague. It’s very triggering to say the least as it’s related with my abuser, when I ended up getting PTSD

After years of helping businesses close regulatory findings, start up, get certified, etc. today for the first time in 13 years of my career, I said to a client that I couldn’t help them.
Client been non responsive for months, even after multiple email reminders or follow up. They only had 1 visit where I told them what to do, and then of course they didn’t… months went by and now they are in a chess mate situation. I was supposed to draft them a contract but while doing so, realized they are basically fucked, I can’t do my job like this and decided to say then I couldn’t work with them like this.

I’ll be honest, I’m just here for support.. I never had such a situation and I’m quite scared of getting in trouble, although this should actually give me rest I actually feel very uneasy.

Running a business (in consultancy-freelancing) it’s been quite a challenge as someone who is severely traumatized with PTSD, and this feels very much like a walking on eggshells and am avoiding triggers like the plague.

I loved taekwondo, every single part of it.. to be honest I still do. But most schools nowadays (at least where I live) are focused on the modern aspects only: sport, front leg lead techniques, HIIT style training and neglet of poomsae/breaking/self-defence, etc. unless it's for exams. No discipline, no ancient ties anymore. Was lucky to find a more traditionally aligned school, but unfortunately I moved and therefore now looking what to do.

This led me to pursue other martial arts... I fell in love with Kendo, but it is a very different discipline. So I am trying MMA and kickboxing (there is no specialized Muay Thai in my area) these upcoming weeks. The idea of starting from white belt again is a bit demotivating at the moment.

I was wondering, if you were in a similar position, what martial art did you switch/begin/start to practice?

Does anyone have concrete information about the intake-assessment and the sportmedischekeuring?

I wonder what do they test during the intake-assessment, their description is very vague and there is no other information. I signed up but I’m waiting instructions and was wondering what it was all about.

Also, does the sport medischekeuring only imply an ECG while at rest or also an extensive Vo2 max test? I can run somewhere on stage 2 but don’t think I can run half an hour at 14km/h lol. If someone could describe what the keuring tests are would be grateful 🙏

I don't understand why I now have less PTSD symptoms... I don't think it is right

Hi everyone, I want to enroll in the army but just came to know about rumors that you have to give up one of your nationality if you have double nationality? I’m talking specifically about European-European, not outside EU. Both nationalities were given to me from birth (long to explain).

I never knew this and now I’m on a waiting list to start and I of course don’t want to give up the other passport.. especially when both are European countries this makes few sense in the modern world.

Could anyone confirm if this is true or is there a way to conserve the other?

Dreaming since a kid to open my own gym. I'm an amateur gymrat and had two regional titles in taekwondo before stopping. So my knowledge relies there. I have previous experience with businesses.

what is your experience opening and growing one? what was your process?

things like becoming a coach (do you need certifications by law? other than the required federation?), growing ,etc.

What is your

So since a few months already my libido has been quite stable but I became bored of the videos with porn. This is a follow up post.

Summarized:

I do notice I get aroused for both men (most recent and increasing) and women, but I struggle feeling my sexuality. I struggle so much understanding what is going on that I feel numb for anything.

I was only exclusively into women, but figured that I found some men attractive in a jealous way pre T. More like “goal” looks, or just it looks good. I’m mostly a top but don’t mind being a switch from time to time.

I feel numb, I don’t know how to describe it. And then the only thing that makes me feel aroused that “new” kink, and then now I notice it became boring, recently my top to bottom has been switching too.

My next issue is that I have been in a difficult situationship with someone for 5 years. It’s difficult because we were both victims of a crime that happened and from friendship it became more. We broke off contact a few times due to really stupid misunderstandings related to not having had important conversations regarding what happened and the damage thereof, as we struggled both to talk. she has always been my biggest love and the prettiest woman I have ever met, my attraction to her has been wild and burning for over 5 years. I am quite confused because recently I don’t really feel much turned on by her, and I don’t know if it’s because of my sexuality crisis or because the last misunderstanding was so shocking and painfully unexpected that I simply lost interest.

So issues summarized:

1. Desensitised af.
2. Loss of attraction or sexuality crisis ?
3. Attraction to men fear of suppressing attraction to women

This is such a big issue I don’t feel like myself anymore.

I decided to take a complete break from porn, which is very difficult. I have a libido that needs attention every other day, and it’s also being too much for me.

I should have my shot today but instead I won’t take it. I’ll take a break for a month from T. But I wonder if this is reversible if I stop T?

Is there a way to stop this madness on T? Someone suggested DHT, any experiences?

It’s the only side effect I don’t like that I can’t cope with it in such a way that it makes me feel worse.

I can choose either France or Italy. I wish I could do both…

I’d like to get into these air force (civil experience here), aeronautical navy, or alpine infantry troops (family were all alpines)

Anyone in this group has any idea which one is more trans friendly?

I heard the French has A LOT of discrimination and severe cases between cis people. I wonder if the Italians are better (?