I think my mom might be having affairs with different people for money, i don't know what to do
I don't know where to start and how to convey this without being a bad person, but I wanted to share it somewhere
I’m 16M and this has been messing with my head a lot lately.
My mom (46F) is honestly an amazing person. She’s been holding everything together for our family, especially after my dad (46M) had a really bad accident two years ago. He survived, but he’s still mostly on bed rest and can’t work. Since then, my mom has been doing everything taking care of him, managing the house, working, finances… all of it. I’ve always respected her for that. She is a ferciy and protective mom, sometimes strict and sometimes kind to me so overall I feel so much safe
We’re not struggling financially My mom and dad have a High paying job although dad doesn't work anymore, so mom is a solo provider but dad has investments that return money time to time, but a lot of money has gone into his treatment, so things definitely changed after the accident.
The reason I’m writing this is because over the past few months, I’ve noticed some changes that don’t feel normal for her.
She used to come home around 6 or 7 almost every day. Now, about once a week, she comes home around 10. When I ask, she usually just says work got late or she had something to take care of.
Also, sometimes in the evenings she gets properly dressed up like not work clothes, more like going out somewhere nice and leaves. This used to happen rarely, but now it’s like 4 - 5 times monthly
One thing that really changed with me happened recently a month ago. I was coming back from football practice one evening, and it was raining, so I stopped at a café nearby. That’s when I saw my mom there with a man. They were sitting close, talking and laughing. It didn’t look super inappropriate, but it felt… more than just formal.
After some time, she left with him in his car. That same night, she came home later than usual.
To be fair, she works in art, and she meets a lot of people, including male clients, so I keep telling myself it could be completely normal.
Another thing I noticed was about a month ago. She went to a gala event, and she was really excited about it. She spent almost a whole week planning, even asking me for my opinion on her gowns. That night, she came home around midnight and posted some Instagram stories.
A few days later, she was tagged in photos from that event. There were a couple of normal ones with her friends. But in one candid photo, there was a man standing close to her with his hand on her waist. It might be normal at events like that, I don’t really know… but it stayed in my mind.
Over the past few months, I’ve noticed her around at least two different men in situations that feel a bit more personal than just work.
My dad doesn’t really question any of this. He’s mostly focused on his recovery, and I don’t even know if he notices how often she goes out now
I haven’t asked her directly because I feel guilty even thinking like this. She’s done so much for us, especially for my dad, and she still takes care of him every day.
But at the same time, I can’t stop my mind from going to bad places. I keep wondering if she’s seeing someone. I even had thoughts like maybe she’s doing something for extra money, which I hate myself for thinking.
I don’t even know if I want to know the truth. I just feel hurt and confused. To me, she’s just my mom, and I don’t want to see her any differently
As I said, a lot of money is going toward Dad’s medication and everything else… things have changed. We still have enough money to live comfortably for now, but a huge amount has already been spent. Her job may pay well, but it’s still not enough to cover Dad’s medical expenses.
A few months ago, she was already talking about financial instability. She even considered taking on another job.
Within the span of a month, I saw her with two different men. I know women sometimes get involved with men for financial support or access to certain events and opportunities.