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I feel like I look so oily and dirty whenever I try to do dewy makeup so I pack on powder in all my makeup looks. I want that glow but I just end up looking like a grease monkey. How can I fix this? I also feel like I don’t have the right products.

I don’t mean from like older Asian people cuz duh they’re super colorist still. I mean like gen Z Asians. I feel like I can see their colorist views with the makeup they wear that’s 20 shades lighter or the filters they put or js looking down on tanner Asians.

When I was 5 I wanted to be a doctor, sounds like the regular path every pre med goes through right? That was the case until I got into my teen years. I hated being Asian and in my area a lot of first gen asians were becoming nurses. I didn’t want to fit into that box of being “that type of Asian.” So I basically tried to get as far as medicine as I could. I had no idea what I wanted to be so I went into the major of business. After a couple semesters of that bullshit I realized medicine actually meant something to me and I didn’t need to be afraid of being my own race. So after 75 credits I buckled up to be a pre-med but all I see now is people with doubtful expressions. I feel like they don’t think I’ll make it cuz I didn’t choose medicine earlier.

Karate is such a beautiful sport in the sense with kata and even kumite but it wasn’t for me. I have trouble moving my body aesthetically for kata and my reflexes for kumite. I was never fully in love with the sport but I admire everyone who was and was fully committed to it. I hope everyone has a wonderful journey with karate!

Your day might’ve been hard or nice today but you MADE IT!

I took a really bad professor but I passed with a 84!!

Me and my bf have been dating for 1 year and 4 months. I definitely think around the one year mark issues started but we keep trying to make it work. I want to improve our relationship so understand this is just my POV. Abt a week ago my bf let me know he was texting a girl a lot talking abt prom and school. I said okay I was cool with it and appreciated that he let me know. Let’s call her J

A few days ago we went to the mall and he started talking abt his ex. He dated her when he was like 15 and His ex was like 2-3 years older than him (ik it’s bad 😭😭) he told me “my ex would buy me anything I wanted and would pay for everything.” This is not the first time he’s said this to me. It honestly makes me feel bad because I cannot provide him with what his ex did for him. I would love to shower him with gifts.

This situation was already making me tense when maybe 2 days ago I told him “I’m gonna get ready and just take pictures of myself.” He told me no u should only do it when you go out like J. This made me really upset because it felt like he was saying I wasn’t good enough. Maybe it was my own insecurity as well because J is actually very beautiful.

As we continued to call he brought up another girl from his past. It was his former crush he used to play soccer with. A week and a half ago he also had let me know she came with his friends to play together and how “she saved his ass every-time on the felid.” At that time I was chill with it but now he was bringing her up again every thing just boiled up.

That night I asked to let me see his texts between him and J. I know it was a bit immature of me but I would let him see my phone in a heartbeat. He denied letting me and got angry at me. This js made me feel worse

Today I explained my feelings to him and he defended himself. He let me know those were not his intentions and I believed him but things still exclated into an argument. In the end he said “okay I won’t bring them up and now I won’t tell you when I interact with them.” I hated this.

Am I crazy? I understand his pov but at the same time I would never.

So me(f18) and my bf(m18) have been dating for maybe a year and a half and everything’s been alright except this one problem, he never tells me names. Whenever he’s going out with friends he’ll say something like “I’m going out with friends” which is fine but I’m a little nosey and want to know so I ask “who.” He’ll usually answer except sometimes for no reason. For example today he told me “oh I heard (insert girl’s name) is talking to a guy” and I asked him who? He didn’t reply and said “you don’t know him” I said I still wanted to know and that’s when he started getting angry. I couldn’t understand why it’s so hard to tell me a single name and it’s not like he promised that friend he wasn’t gonna tell anybody either. Later throughout the night he was talking abt an another girl and I started to feel a bit uncomfortable so I asked him “can I see ur texts with her?” For some reason he HATES me looking or going through his phone. We had a fight abt it and I asked him “is it a privacy preference? Cuz I get that” he didn’t answer and it js made me more upset and uncomfortable. In the end he didn’t show the texts and we kept arguing so I js ended the call. He also said to me “I bet you never did this with ur ex” which is correct and that’s how he cheated on me. I know my ex and my current partners are different people but ig I still carry that wound and insecurity. I don’t ask him to show his phone a lot either maybe once every 2 months if he feels like it. I’m always welcome to share my phone with him. I just can’t Understand his POV.

TL;DR- my bf of 1 and a year doesn’t like sharing simple info about who’s he’s with. He also dislikes sharing his chats. I asked him “is it privacy he didn’t answer.

I’m the oldest child and my parents divorced when I was 11. I moved in with my mom and our new apartment was in the same place as my aunt. My aunt has never liked me, she says I’m lazy and good for nothing. She’s hit me multiple times and even recently after I turned 18 (an adult) Even though she hates me I’ve been forced to take care of her young children ever since I moved in with my mom. Whenever I tell my mom about my issues she does not want to listen because my aunt is “family.” I spent ages 11-17 taking care of my aunt’s children and never being appreciated. At the same time I was not allowed to go out with friends or really just enjoy life. I wasn’t allowed to join sports until my junior year of high school (I’ll always feel bad abt this because that was the only times I felt true happiness).

Both my parents also remarried and had children. My brother from my mom was born when I was 17 and I have to take care of him now. I haven’t spent a single day since the moment I came to this apartment not taking care of children. Plans have to be made around babysitting times or when they need me and if they’re not I can’t go out or go out feeling immense guilt.

I’m a freshmen in college now and my plan was always leave this city for college. but when time came I got rejected from the only out of city university my mom would remotely even agree to let me go to. For the other universities my mom said “no one has money to let you go to school outside of here.” I was 17 and also felt guilt leaving my poor parents with a newborn baby. I decided to stay. I’m so miserable. I still have no freedom, I’m still home most of my days with my 1 and a half year old brother. I still get criticized by my aunt. I haven’t joined clubs because I fear they’ll need me. I’m so trapped but maybe it’s because I’m too weak to.

I’m so afraid I’ll spend my next 5-10 years stuck like this. I already wasted 7 years.

For one of my classes, I had an assignment to interview a community partner. I reached out to two people, and both of them initially replied.

After I sent them my availability, neither of them responded for about a week. I followed up, and still no response.

Then today, I checked my email and realized that one of them had actually emailed me yesterday saying they were available for an interview today—but I completely missed it. Now it’s already past that time, so I missed the opportunity.

I sent an apology and asked if they’d still be open to scheduling another time.

Did I mess up really badly here, or is this something that happens?

Do you remember the time when everyone got in except you? It sucks so hard. Now I hear abt the new graduating class getting into schools I wanted to go to.