Funnily enough she actually slid into my DMs on Reddit where we were anonymous for 2 weeks before revealing ourselves. She was beautiful, but by this point I was already hooked on her vibe. We quickly moved to IG where we continued to talk for 3 weeks before we began to do calls.
I've never done this long distance thing before btw so this was all new to me. For an entire week after our first call she basically went silent on me, or went really cold and short with her replies. We eventually reconnected with caution. After a couple of weeks of texting and voice notes again, I started hinting at coming down to meet her on the train. She sidestepped it. At first I was like "hmm, maybe she's not comfortable yet".
So for the next 2 weeks I hinted once again, before she sidestepped it again. Then one day she finished work and told me she is moving to Spain for 2 years in August, and she's also out in Thailand in July. At this point, it's now or never. A few days later I give her the most direct "I'd like to meet up". She sidestepped once more. So I laid out my thoughts to her and asked why she's sidestepping meeting up.
She admitted that she isn't scared of meeting up but said meeting up before leaving for 2 years probably isn't the best idea. I agreed with her logic. But because we had such a good connection, I couldn't just discard her... of course I carried on chatting with her for the next 2 weeks.
Then yesterday she came out with something random, she said "You intrigue me so much", basically coming up with a way to test my outlook on life. She asked a question, I answered, and explained why this is my answer. She said "maybe my outlook on life is just bad on my part", I explained why I don't think her mindset is bad and that I like her ambition and drive.
She said: I think you may find it exciting now, but it wouldn’t be continuous. I’d need something that would want something so much more
I said: I know what u mean for sure. And ur saying u don't think I'm the type to "want something so much more"
She said: I didn't say that. Talking about me has no directional meaning towards you.
I said: Fair Enough
She said: Thank you
And I log onto IG today to find out she's blocked me after the end of our chat. 3 months of building a connection, and hoping to meet with her. Just for her to block me. I tried picking this girl up every time she was down or sick. I reassured her whenever she showed signs of insecurity. I complimented not just her looks but her character and her soul. For most of those 3 months we basically shared most of our world with each other. Family info, secrets, philosophy on romance/life, random updates about our day. Everything u could think of, we shared.
Yeah, I'm done with trusting people when it comes to dating tbh.
To clarify, we are a 4 hour train journey away. This wasn't a catfish like one person suggested. She never asked for money or gifts. She is the type of girl that doesn't like thirsty comments regarding her physical looks. She doesn’t like the superficial side of dating due to people preferring her looks over her actual personality and vibe.