r/SwipeHelper

It’s extremely unfair and my dating life is now nonexistent because these worthless, scum assholes at hinge (I was very very nice for long enough) decided to ban me.

I’m always very polite and respectful when i interact with my matches. I truly have no idea why they did this to me. I’m now completely alone

I just needed to vent 😔

It’s like the company made a single decision that you will be forever single. I got unbanned once before. Although, I recently deleted my account like a dummy and recreated it which resulted in another auto ban from the bot master.

I’m a 22 year old male, been out of school since December, so I’ve been at my hometown trying to date for the past 5 months. However, the dating apps have proven to be poop.

Even when I had a game plan to get results, it still flopped. I’m moving to a new city for grad school next month so I’ve already written off my hometown.

Essentially, I’ve recreated account and fresh started a couple times, to the point where I’ve ended up swiping on the same 600 or so girls over the span of 3 months. All I got back was 15 matches, and none of them were from repeated likes. I thought being selective would be a better signal, but I’ve come to terms that there’s something wrong with me.

I do have hobbies, am physically built more than people try to brag, music, martial arts, early business career path, etc. but none of that success is translating to dating success. The matches I did get were either not that interested in me or I wasn’t very excited about them. Besides having post inflammatory hyperpigmentation, I’m visually a guy with a great physique and presence.

I’m a selective guy, and in real life, I have been working to set up a date with one girl I met at the gym. But it’s been a week since we saw each other and chatted and I fear I’m losing momentum with her.

My hometown pool on the apps id say is not very dense. I’d search 50 miles for women 20-26. You have the girls either downtown, or in the next college town over, next few counties, or across the border up north in another state.

I do think I poisoned the well in my hometown and that there’s no reason to bother dating there especially online, as I’ve already liked these chicks 3-5 times with no results. The ones who are clearly attractive and list LTR as their goals are the most competitive to get after and I suspect they’re only filtering for men online who are older and can instantly prove they’re uber attractive and providers and such. I understand that, to them, a great guy of the same age is nothing but a peer, even with the great qualities I have, so they have luxury to pick out the best obvious option. It is what it is. I consider my hometown a lost cause.

Enough context, back to the question. Some of these I already tested or at least have an idea of, but need second opinion on what actually works.

Do comments even matter? If I’m attractive enough, will liking while saying nothing work? I’ve always sent thoughtful comments that are short enough, but as the failure kept going, I’ve stopped doing so. Is a 22 yo guy wanting LTR seen as desperate or should I bite the bullet? What first photo actually stops the scroll? What are the 6 photos women my age like the most? What should my 6 photos have?Should I X and Block girls who clearly are too attractive and be more fair to girls I’m not attracted to? Blocking I heard helps prevent them from X’ing me and pushing me down the algorithm. What type of guy are women my age even looking for? Does her profile content even matter? What type of profile do women respond to most; ultra attractive guy with selfies and nothing else thought out, somewhat attractive guy with prompts and stuff crafted short but precise, older men with clear signs of scarce resources and wealth, or men who lean hard into fun energy and potential hookup? What prompts exactly can increase match rate rather than just conserve it?

I know this is long but Im tired of losing online and need to know all to do so I can have an actual reason to bother dating when I do move to my new city.

Once I got banned permanently banned but I made another account with different phone number and email but in couple hours my account got deleted again. What's the issue? Because I tried again on the same phone or because I had the same name and age as the bann,ed account?

And how can I make another account without it getting deleted?

Title basically. I think there was a point many years ago where I was desperate and deleted an re-created my account way too much and I think tinder hated that and flagged it. Now it just doesn't matter what I do. Every single time I give it a new chance it goes like this. And before you ask, no, it didn't use to be like this. The results were never amazing, but there was a time where I got way more likes and about half of them were attractive profiles. And I know I'm attractive enough to get better results than this because this is humiliating. I'm convinced it was my desperation all those years ago that has ruined everything and now Tinder hates me. Is there anything I can do about this or is all hope lost? I've had over a years break and it didn't matter in the slightest, so time doesn't seem to do anything.

So a little while back I got banned from Hinge out of nowhere. No warning, no explanation — just locked out. Like a lot of you, I went down the rabbit hole trying to figure out how to get back on. After a lot of trial and error, I actually figured it out and got myself fully reinstated. AND THIS IS WITH THE FACIAL VERIFICATION (FV) update.

Since then I have helped two other people do the exact same thing, and both of them are back on the app. Now I am opening this up as a service because I know I need money ngl.

Here is how it works:

• I personally hop on a FaceTime or video call with you show you my situation and tell you what you need and walk you through the entire process step by step
• You pay half upfront and the other half once you are back on Hinge
• Pricing is $25
• If it does not work, the second half is never charged — period

I am not some random person selling false hope. I have been through this myself and I know it works.

Interested? Send me a DM and we will get you sorted.

It's not like I say anything weird to my matches. I keep things normal and nice, a little humour, ask about them, tell them about me and answer their questions, keep things light and don't say anything to freak them out or anything questionable. I'm good at texting I believe, certainly not struggling to find anything to say.

But many girls stop texting after 3-4 messages it seems. Trying to work out why.

I do question specifically if they are taking my photos and running them through Google images as a standard thing they do to check out more of who their matches are? If so, I know at least one of my Hinge photos links to Google that has more photos of me, one site in specific showing a photo shoot of me at a film festival, and onwards from that my name is found on Google linking me to my Instagram, my website, my profile on job sites etc.

But though I don't like the photos of me at the film festival and think maybe the girls think I look bad there, there is nothing weird or scary, freaky etc. about me. Nothing personal online, mostly it's my work, which is a good job too.

What do you guys think? Do girls standardly check out their matches on Google after just a few messages? Are there other reasons why they stop talking? Or if they even UNMATCH too?

Got banned on hinge and bumble from probably a disgruntled lady I dated. Was killing it with matches and convos but the algo probably thought I was match farming. Kinda frustrated as I moved to a new city alone and don’t know a soul. Haven’t had time to date outside of work and the only dating apps I have are Tinder and Chispa. Might be screwed here going into my mid 30s. Oh well. Bye bye wife and kids.

As someone who’s been on since 2021, the same pattern emerges with almost every platform (FB is shit, AirBnB is inflated, etc.)

Things are great early on. But after a certain point, the experience starts declining fast as you reach a critical mass of users.

At this stage, I honestly wonder how many profiles are inactive, dead, fake, or heavily throttled in the backend. The ratio probably 10:1 Men:Women, and Match Group will never fully disclose that information.

And they have the balls to keep increasing their premium tiers. What a clown app

Feels like the only real strategy is getting onto newer platforms early, before they become overcrowded and overly optimized.

Anyone found a better app lately?

I have been banned by Hinge twice and both appeals were sucessful.

I can't say what you guys are doing to get banned, and really I can't say why I was banned. Both said terms for bullying. I will admit I can be abrasive, but I am never hateful. I am matter of fact. If someone says to leave them alone I leave them alone. I have said many sexual things, but only with explicit consent. Both times my appeal was the truth and amounted to, "I didn't intend to offend anyone, but if I did I am sorry. I am honest and trying to find a meaningful relationship." Nothing long winded. No long response. No anger or excuses. No accusations.

One ban was at the end of March one was at the end of April.

I have used Hinge on and off for years. I have never been banned before. I suspect its because I moved to a different state where the culture is different and there are perhaps misunderstandings.

I will note my first ban said it was based on "reports by users", and my second ban simply said "based on review by moderators".

I also wasn't shadow banned. Both times I resumed receiving matched regularly.

There is no way to get around the facial verification I tried and banned instantly I know as soon as it says something went wrong that means you’re banned nothing I can do. If anyone has a solution let me know

Hi having been off hinge for about 2/3 months was wondering how the experience has been for guys , is it going well for you? As in getting numbers and dates ? Or more just getting ghosted after a few messages, just checking in with the community 🤔

Not sure why but seems like both times worked, deleted it the first time cus I freaked out when I wasn’t getting likes but this time seems normal and both times didn’t get banned