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So I don't even know where to begin with this.

Ever since we had my daughter, my sex drive has fallen off. Hard. I'm basically running three lives here. His, our daughter's and my own (barely). and it leaves me really tired. So tired I have little interest in even my hobbies.

During the day we'll flirt and stuff but when it comes time after our kid goes to bed..........nothing. On my end I'm tired from the day and just want to relax, and for him I'm assuming its the same considering he falls asleep on the couch every night until it's time to go upstairs for bed.

Sometimes, yes I do initiate, before anyone gets on me about that. And it's great when we do finally bang. But we only do it once a month with everything going on.

But his type of initiation has been a huge fucking problem that he just either cannot control or just does not want to work on. At this point idk.

There's no romance when he tries to initiate. No seduction or anything-I'm treated like a fucking pinata. Poke at me enough and maybe I'll burst. Like it's bad guys...he's like a teenager trying to sneak his hands into his dates pants at the movies...

But the worst of it is he only does this when I'm trying to sleep.

We've had many talk about this before. My change in sex drive and when I'm okay being initiated with. I have a hard 'pleass for the love of fuck let me sleep' because I have a hard time sleeping. Some nights take me like 30-60 minutes to fall asleep! So when he wakes me up poking at me like that, it resets everything and now I'm not falling asleep until like 1-1:30am. Which sucks.

And I've told him this. And begged for him to leave me alone.

I don't mind cuddles but it always turns into him playing with my pants hem or rubbing my stomach or whatever, just slowly pushing thay boundary, which wakes me back up.

Like if he initiated in bed as soon as we got into bed this would all be a different story but guys it will quite literally be in the middle of the night sometimes.

I just wish he carried over the energy he had during the day, the flirting and whatnot, into the evening. Because when he rolls over and does that shit and I tell him to back off I know it upsets him but come on I'm trying to sleep and I've asked you before to not do this! We have hours in between when our kids go to bed and when we go to bed. Like wtffff

I'm going crazy. Would a sex therapist even help with this because I swear to fuck I'm like this close to sleeping on the couch. It's gotten hard because now when I go to sleep I get anxious he's gonna wake me up and it makes the whole process of falling asleep even longer.

And yes. We have had multiple conversations about all of this but ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

Like idk. idk what to do.

Edit: to add because this might factor into it, he does have ADHD or something. Not officially diagnosed but it's definitely there. So idk if it's like something he just cannot remember or forgets, idk. Like how can I make this stick?

Hey all! So we just got our 3 year old her very first Big Girl Bed (a full bed).

Our set up is just the mattress on the floor, no box spring or anything and we're considering leaving it like that so she can get in and out of bed easily. I know a lot of parents of littles do this, but like what do you put in between the floor and the mattress? Anything? Or is it like, just the mattress?

EDIT: I didnt know floor bed frames were a thing lmfao god I'm dumb

EDIT EDIT: got a low bed frame. Thanks guys!

So with my 3F growing little bub I'm starting to try to work on finding myself again and it's....been rough. There was a post here about hobbies the other day and that got me thinking.

How do you guys fit in things like exercise? I'm so sick of my mommy pouch and want to make a change. I've tried working out around my toddler but we don't have a lot of space and it more or less turns into me not being able to focus because I'm scared I'm going to accidentally slap her in the face.

Doesn't help she has to be right on top of me constantly.

She *does* start PreK this coming school year but I'm trying to break out of survival mode *now*. Waiting until night sucks too because I then have like 2 hours to do it all and sometimes I get so worn out/stressed from the day that I just wind up doing *nothing*.

Gyms aren't an option because memberships are pricey and annoying to cancel.

Taking her out with me on walks isn't an option either because then she'll whine if we don't go to the park/whichever way she likes to go. Going for walks used to be a very sacred space for me. Alone time and listening to music-a chance to focus on ME. That's why I'm kinda sensitive to having to battle my toddler during those moments.

Even weekends are rough because I work.

Idk I just feel like I'm in a constant state of exhaustion/lack of motivation. I can't even find it in me to do the exercises even for my ankle (I hurt my ankle and need to do PT at home and I just dont have the time for that).

Idk if I even want to fight the idiots for the 10$ anyway. I think throughout the entire month or so it ran, I only got it automatically twice?

I fucking hate this company and cannot wait for the day where I don't have to rely on them for work anymore...