I realized I think I still make friends like a 5 year old. I will be like “do you wanna be my friend?” (But then ask if they have space for friends even if they like me cause friend saturation is a thing). Anyone else?
Controversial and vulnerable post warning. Please proceed with softness and an open mind.
Hi all. I have been on this sub for YEARS and admittedly, it’s been my main source of learning. I’m a therapist, and I am poly but with very little dating experience. I’ve never been monogamous in my life (I’m 40 now), but not lots of poly experience either, and only out of my very long term ENM relationship a few year back. Anyways, I have heard on here about some harm therapists have caused, and I’d like to one day position myself as a poly-competent therapist rather than a “poly friendly” one, but I actually have heard some negative things about this sub from other poly specializing therapists, and from some poly folks. So this is a controversial post here. But it makes me wonder if I have gotten overly familiarized with the very commonly peddled concepts on here and if I should be a little more open to diversifying my knowledge. Obviously I would need to get more familiarized with the books and podcasts and whatnot if I were to offer my services as a therapist who “specializes” in poly. But in the meantime, if anyone is willing to share some personal anecdotes that challenge some of the common advice given in this sub, I’d be grateful to expose myself to those views. I’d like to request that by the nature of this post, we don’t get into any debates or yuck other peoples yums! I would love to make this a safe space to hear maybe less popular points of view. I, of course, have been operating under the idea that the words of wisdom are here for a reason, but admittedly I’ve found myself offering advice on these threads that is just some form of regurgitation of things I’ve learned on here. And those comments get upvoted. And I’m wondering how much of that might be happening across the board, and perhaps we’ve created a bit of an echo chamber. Thank you all in advance for entertaining this. May curiosity probable here :)
Hi all. I just wanted commissary and or tips and or encouragement. I had a date with somebody last week that I thought went really well. I was very excited to meet her and I know she was too. But after our in person lunch date, she expressed not wanting to move forward. I started to wonder if it was related to monopolizing conversations, giving too much context or oversharing. I asked if she would be so kind to let me know if it was related to that so that I can be more self-aware and continue to work on it. I just got a text back confirming that she felt the conversation felt one-sided. I feel pretty sheepish right now and I’m sorry for her experience. And something I’ve been made aware of a few years ago, and I’ve been working on it. But clearly, I have a long way to go.
Hi! I asked my Dr to prescribe me ivermectin. She did. We didn’t have a conversation about it or how to use. I’ve been scared to try it, but I’m ready now! Please advise how to use it! Before or after location? Night time? Wash it off? Leave it on? Where to apply? someone on this sub scared me in a comment about notes migrating if you don’t do a large enough area??? How close to my eyes??
Thanks in advance!
Backstory: Unfortunately we have a situation here where we can’t make the decisions but are trying to mitigate harm. Long story short, we have small “Christmas tree” type trees planted at the foundation of our rental house that the landlord has now been made aware of is not safe for the foundation or the well pipe nearby. She wants the trees gone. She was kind enough to allow us to take the time to dig them up and replant them elsewhere. However, we discovered cardinals trying to make a nest in one of them. We moved the cardinal nest to a lilac tree next to the bush that we fortified with cut branches from the Christmas tree (it’s a juniper for those that care) in hopes they would resume their nest building activities there. They did not. NOW, we had a pair of robins pillaging the abandoned nest we moved and making a nest IN THE SAME CONDEMNED TREE!!! 😫😫😫
I called the landlord to ask if we could wait till the fall, and she said sorry but no. She’s nervous to let it go any longer. So… we moved the Robin nest that looked almost completed to the spot they were pillaging from, and are hoping they use it. It made me sooooo sad to see them go back to find their best gone. They have not yet discovered their relocated master piece. What are the odds they will? And if not, will they have enough time to make another nest before she lays eggs??? I live in New England.
TLDR: I had to stop robins from making a nest in a tree we have to move (per landlord). Will the robins likely use the moved nest? Or if not, will they have time to rebuild elsewhere before she lays eggs? I feel heartbroken.