u/ArbiterOfChoice

I have a best friend, we will call Derek, who I believe is being taken advantage of monetarily by his family member. As far as I know, Derek does not have much money, and works hard 10-hour days in the food industry as a waiter to get by. Derek's father, we will call Ralph, seems to me like he is taking advantage of Derek. Over the past few years, Derek has lent Ralph >$10,000 to cover his rent. Ralph asks Derek for money all the time, and always says he'll give it back soon, but he never has. Additionally, as far as I can tell from online social media posts, Ralph is living a somewhat lavish lifestyle. He was a young dad, and is currently 42 and going clubbing every weekend, owns a boat, and golfs multiple times a week etc. Derek does not live this kind of lifestyle, and in fact has never been on vacation or left the country we live in.

Ralph has dreams of owning a restaurant, and in the past when we were kids he had a pub for 2 years that went belly up pretty badly. Recently, Ralph has begun a grand idea of this unique kind of bar + franchise chains (I wont share much details but its kind of out there, its a cool idea I guess). Recently, he's been asking Derek for a lot of money to help him get set up. Derek always says yes, he's a generous guy, and Ralph always asks. Ralph has promised Derek "millions of dollars in return" once his business takes off.

Heres the thing, I don't trust Ralph at all since he has never paid Derek back in the past, and who knows how this this new thing will work out. The other week I was getting dinner with Derek and he told me he didnt have enough for food, so I bought his. I asked him where all his money is going and he said Ralph's restaurant. This really frustrated me and has been something I've been watching unfold for years. Derek barely does anything and lives in a studio apartment, while it seems Ralph does as he pleases with Derek's money. I told Derek he needs to stop investing ASAP, and if anything demand some of the money back, and that he needs to focus on himself finally.

This caused a fight between Derek and I, as he insisted he has to help Ralph and in the end this will work out great for him. He insisted that he'd get his money back, plus everything he lent over the years, and then he'll use it to make moves in his life. I told him I dont think thats actually ever going to happen, and that he's giving away money. While Derek continued to claim that everything is okay, eventually, this escalated and I told Derek his dad is a thief and a liar and is untrustworthy. This made Derek very very upset, and we havent spoken in a couple weeks. I've mentioned my opinion more nicely to Derek in the past, but I can't keep watching this unfold, I needed to say something more extreme I felt. Am i wrong?

Not sure if this is the correct subreddit for this but thought I'd ask cause I've been dealing with this for 2 or 3 years. Its very infrequent and inconsistent, and im not sure if its even an an allergic reaction cause I cannot pinpoint any cause and I do not have any other allergies.

Once every couple months, I'll wake up in the middle of the night with mucus pouring out of my nose. I mean, literally pouring like a stream. When this happens, my day is pretty much over. I have to walk around with kleenex stuffed up my nose because it never stops. I've used 7 kleenex boxes in a day. While this happens, my eyes will also non-stop water, theres essentially liquid spewing out of my face all day. During these episodes, theres a persistent non-stop itch in my upper nose. Out of curiosity I tried standing over a shot glass and half filled it up in 10 mins with mucus from my nose.

I've tried all kinds of allergy meds, seen doctors who suggested different meds to try, I try to use saline and steroid nasal sprays during these episodes but they barely help. They last around a day and then just stop randomly.

When these episodes occur, I cant pinpoint any cause. No food exposure, no change in detergent or anything. Its not restricted to a specific month or season. Could this be something besides an allergy?

I (28M) have an older brother (35M). I rent a condo in a downtown core for around $2500 a month. Its rough, and especially in our country right now living at home is typical, but I chose to do this for my own development, going to school for a longtime and now starting a job with my degree. I have very little savings. My brother has lived at home since graduating high school and working. He pays $100 a month in rent and has a decent job working construction.

My parents are not wealthy at all, and live paycheque to paycheque, and the way things have gone these past few years, I'm unsure when my father will be able to retire his blue collar job. He is currently 70. I was recently having a conversation with my brother regarding our parents selling the house to make some money and focusing on their retirement. He told me he's set up well for when that happens, and currently has approximately $225,000 dollars in his savings for wherever he moves next. I'm happy he's been able to do this for himself, but it shocked me a little bit considering the amount. I didn't realize how cheap his lifestyle was and considering the little rent he pays, I guess he's been able to save a lot.

I told him, considering he's lived at home so long paying very little rent and saving such an amount while my parents financially struggle, he should backpay some rent over the years. He asked me what I meant by this, and I told him my parents supported him throughout his early adult years letting him live at home for so cheap, and the way the economy has gone over the past decade, my parents never increased his rent and he should consider helping them out. I suggested something like 5-10k to my parents. He absolutely flipped out saying im a mooch and he should have never told me about his savings. He said just cause I moved out and pay rent doesnt mean he needs to be the one supporting my parents. I understood what he meant, I wish I could be in his position to help my parents out, but I right now I kind of see him as benefiting from my parents generosity while they struggle. I'm not even sure if they'd accept his money of course, but I only suggested it. He hasnt spoken to me in 2 weeks and last thing he said to me was something like "money and family never mix, and you and I wont ever communicate like this moving forward". I didnt push him, I want to reiterate I only suggested this. AITB?

Posting on behalf of a friend. I am a single mom and am 30 years old. When I had my kid 6 years ago I was forced to move back home. My parents were planning on downsizing at the time but when I moved home that went on pause.

Recently I've been quiet depressed at home, and started looking around for places to rent. I can afford it now. I found a place and am in the process of signing a lease. When I told my parents they pretty much begged me to stay and said I sprung this change on them. I pay them 700 a month to live in the basement as my own unit. They said they held onto the house during what would have been the best time to sell, and now the market is very bad and they need to wait a couple years, and that they cant really afford such a big house without me. I am pretty adamant about leaving. WIBTA?

Had a dream about a much darker, longer story lol. Aang dies by Azula's lightning strike. Ozai uses the comet to annihilate the Earth Kingdom. Book 3 establishes a truly dominant rule of the Fire Nation, producing an absolute dystopian world.

The Fire Nation engulfs the water tribes, discovering the next avatar early on, and indoctrinates this Avatar, who has no connection to the Avatar state or past lives and knows nothing besides a world where Fire Nation dominance is balance. There's a 20 year time jump, this Avatar believes they were born Fire Nation, and acts to continue dominance of Fire over the other elements. Zuko is now the firelrd, and the Avatar rules alongside him. Katara and Sokka are 30-something year olds who lead a scattered, tiny, underground resistance.

Then I woke up. Wanted my brain to keep going but sadly the dream was over lol. I guess at some point this avatar would have to meet adult Katara and Sokka, restablish spiritual connection for Aangs return to the series.