u/Ambitious_Coach8078

Hi I think I’m 4 weeks 4 days idk
Well my hcg was 22, 3 days later was 72. 2 days later (today) it’s 131.
Is that bad? It didn’t fully double and it’s exactly 48hrs between those two labs

Thought this would be a fitting sub to join.
A year ago I had my 4th pregnancy but 3rd child. And had lots of postpartum complications with ashermans and postpartum endometritis. So we decided no more kids 2 months ago so I started a fitness journey to lose weight and gain muscle and prepare for diastasis recti surgery. I’ve taken up Zumba 4x a week, running, and doing elliptical and weight machines at the gym.
Well now I’m 4w2d pregnant and I feel horrible. Cramping, tired etc. it is what it is and I have a lot of emotions about it right now but it’ll work out.
can I still do Zumba and intense exercise? I was in the beginning stages of training for a 5k for November.
Any tips? Is it still ok to run a 5k?
I really want to stay on top of my fitness before I get too far behind. Looking for any and all advice. I also get way too loosey goosey and my hips and pelvis don’t stay in place later in pregnancy, also need tips on working out when that gets worse!

I am 31,
I wake every 30m-1hr or less. I have a 1yr old that some nights will do the same, Or like the past few nights she will only wake 3 times. But my body is stuck waking up often without her waking. I’m exhausted. But I can’t stay asleep. I do have sleep apnea (although an at home one was negative and waiting on an in person one) but I haven’t been waking up out of breath lately at all. I’ve tried melatonin, l theanine, antihistamines, cyclobenzaprine, etc. what is wrong with me? And how do I fix it? And will I survive lol

I’m scheduled for surgery in 6m with an abdominal wall specialist and he will use dissolvable mesh. (That’s good, right?)
And I have the option to either have him for free cut off as much skin and soft fat as possible to give a sort of tummy tuck as best as he can but no guarantees, or to pay for plastic surgery to come in and do that part. Did anyone have their non plastic surgeon do the skin and fat removal (not lipo) part and are happy with it? And the mons pubis area, did you get that done too?
Also any tips for recovery? I’ve been losing weight as best as I can prior to surgery and gaining muscle and I’m going to attempt to find daycare for my kids for a few months while I heal.
I can’t wait not to have a pot belly and this hanging soft fat. I’ve been wearing maternity clothes because my belly is larger than my legs by far.

OH ONE MORE QUESTION: did anyone have pelvic organ prolapse surgery at the same time OR after?

I don’t know if I’ll actually post this. But I just realized why I developed a very intense all in my head crush on my new therapist. I’m a female he’s a male. So, I was daydreaming of sex with him and a relationship and all sorts of things, and thinking often of our next appt. And I googled “crush on my therapist” and learned about transference and that makes so much sense. I thought so much tonight and I realized I do this often with anyone who makes me feel heard and supported and seen. It’s literally because my husband is cold, dull, unaffectionate and my dad was always sort of disappointed in me if I had emotions or problems. Even to this day, my parents seem somewhat dismissive if I need to talk about anything, as if I’m supposed to keep it inside. They don’t really.. respond? Or like today my son had an emergency and I was very calm but tearful and my dad told me “calm down, don’t get nutty”. Twice. And I literally was calm and collected and not very emotive. My dad and my husband have both been verbally and emotionally abusive to me and I didn’t realize how starved I was for real connection outside of female friends. I’m crying as I write this. I felt this way in high school as well which lead me to be promiscuous. And as an adult I’m always daydreaming of people I had known in high school but are still local, to see me somewhere and think I’m beautiful or really want to talk to me etc. for validation, I guess? I explained this horribly, I’m not good at putting my thoughts into sentences but I get now why I’m like this.
Just wanted to get that off my chest. Please don’t bully me lol

Suggest me a really good novel about a wife starved for love and touch, who has a cold and distant husband, who is shown love and touch by someone else.

So.. I have a bump on the top of my labia minora it started off a few weeks of being tiny and non painful. I only noticed it when washing and couldn’t actually see it in the mirror. Then today it’s a larger bump and very very tender and is now irritated and painful because I touched it. I looked in the mirror it’s skin colored but a bit shiny.

It’s the weekend so of course I can’t call an obgyn, would this be something I can go to a walk in for? Or best left for an obgyn?

Okay so I’m about to start this. What should I know? All the dermatologist said was work my way up to daily over 8 months

I have young children and I’m looking to get a degree in something while I’m home with them so that when they are all in school I can go to work.

Not sure where to start. What is a worthwhile degree in something that will give me flexibility to work from home? My skills are understanding people, connecting with people, organizing (other peoples) lives and homes, and I’m imaginative and an optimist, somewhat creative. I am not good with math.