r/ufyh

Every week I try to get my kitchen under control and every week it comes back to this. Few/no clean dishes so I order delivery. Recyclables all over the place because I hate the gross feeling of cleaning them out. Rotting food in the sink and fridge. I have loaves of bread in bags in the fridge that are completely green with mold and pumpkins that have been in there since Halloween.

I try to make a dent in it but I just look at it and despair. At most I do a load or two of dishes and then it gets awful again. I don't know what's wrong with me other than just being exhausted and worn out from work and daily mundane stress.

I ordered a little filing cabinet for all the paperwork spilling off my desk (not pictured) but it's just sat there in pieces for a week unassembled.

Fuck, it's past 6 p.m. and I haven't even changed or gotten out of bed except briefly.

I'm tired of feeling like an incompetent worthless human being. It has to be able to get better than this, right?

I wasn’t feeling well and the kids got a head start on trashing the place this weekend. Sunday PM, and I finally got it back to a habitable condition..

EDIT TO ADD: up until recently we all had our own bedrooms, in an almost too comfortable house. On April 7th, of this year, we fled a DV situation. We have a full, no contact protective order against their father. Kids are 10, 8, and 2. We were high school sweethearts and no one could have guessed this would happen. He fell off the deep end just in the last year. I didn’t just have a bunch of kids, back to back, while living in a space the size of a hotel room. This isn’t our normal. I didn’t realize this needed to be said 🙄

Last I posted i had just tackled my depression pit room and decided I was too triggered by my clothes hoarding and had to just remove EVERYTHING and sort it at the laundromat.

I took black and white trash bags and black was to keep and white was to donate. Cut out about 50%, go me!

Then had what was left sorted into summer/spring white bags and fall/winter black bags. The plastic grocery bags are socks, undies, etc.

Now I just need to find homes for them in my dressers and my under the bed storage!

Sleeping in fully laundered bedding and in hog heaven.

I removed a board from the house bed because I gave myself a goose egg sized bump trying to get in the bed a few days ago lol.

Bonus: I got asked out on a date at the laundromat! Don't know if im interested but flattered as he'll and feel less like a depression goblin.

The bad: apparently a rat or a mouse moved into my car while I had the dirty clothes in there waiting for laundromat. Now have to detail car to not die a hentavirus/smell rodent pee. Win some lose some lol.

Cleaned up my entry way! The actual work didn’t take that long but it’s been messy for a good three months. Still have a bag to donate and a bathroom shelf to assemble, but it looks and feels so much better!

I get bulk buying, prepping, etc with grocery prices and such. But we are literally out of places to put it. Pictured are the entryway, living room, dining room, guest bedroom, fridge in kitchen obv, basement pantry, and my office, not to mention cabinets are all full and other piles not pictured. In the winter months the garage and back patio are used to store even more food as well. And my parent brings a new SUV load every other week. Any ideas?

UPDATE 2: The cleaner came back and spent about 1.5 hours to clean the areas included in the additional 20 photos I sent. I had asked the company for a different cleaner and that I’d leave the key under the mat. They insisted on using the same cleaner and asked if I could be there so I could direct the cleaner to what needed cleaning. I agreed to having the same cleaner, but I did not want to be there so I sent a bullet point list of things missed per their own checklist.

She got it done, and I’m honestly just glad it’s all over with.

UPDATE: cleaner is coming back today and I sent them 20 photos and a list of what was missed per their own checklist. Will make a separate post of after possibly.

I’ve been decluttering for the past month in preparation for this deep clean. Paid almost $400 total for their “heavy duty” option, and I’m deeply upset with the results.

I’m torn because I feel bad and guilty that it took this one cleaner 4 hours and still she missed so many things. The cleaning company’s website has a checklist of all the things they promise to clean such as light switches, hood vent, front of kitchen cabinets, light fixtures, baseboards, etc. All of these were missed, and I can’t help but feel bad asking for a reclean. They do offer complimentary recleans if unhappy with the cleaning, so at least there’s that.

It took a lot of mental energy to even do the declutter, especially with how much I did. I’ve been so depressed this week and was hoping that this deep clean would finally relieve some of the anxiety I’ve been carrying.

I included some photos of things missed. She didn’t even vacuum under the couch😭😭

We recently moved into a new place (military move) and the movers fully unpacked all the boxes. It was super helpful because I'm very pregnant. They can unpack, but aren't allowed to organize/put away items (which makes sense for liability and time reasons) so they left everything in big piles. My MIL and I spent a whole day on this playroom and I'm very grateful my kids can have a space to call their own for the first time 💜

COVID ruined my life and I lost my house, my job, and pretty much my whole life. Finally have a new job i love and a place of stability and getting myself together! Feels good! All clothing in bags until I launder them and my goal is to reduce my closet size by about 75% so it fits in everything. Recovering clothes hoarder woof

Finished up another semester and I am desperately in need of a home reset. I'm going to roughly follow along to the UFYH emergency cleaning guide. Feel free to comment your own tasks and/or check where I'm at!

This is one of many areas of my home I wanted to UF while on maternity leave. The process was a bit chaotic but I am very happy with the results and feeling motivated to keep going!