This is one of many areas of my home I wanted to UF while on maternity leave. The process was a bit chaotic but I am very happy with the results and feeling motivated to keep going!
Not yet a month postpartum with baby #2. Our oldest is 3. My husband is in class for his electrician license and has to take a quiz to make up the class he missed while I was in the hospital. He originally said yesterday was the deadline, but didn't get it done despite having hours to himself with no responsibilities while the toddler was at preschool and I was napping with the baby. He said he found out he could do it today. So by myself, I made dinner, got the toddler fed, got the baby fed, took both outside so toddler could get some energy out, bathed both, and got both asleep almost two hours earlier than he got our toddler down last night. It was not easy. My toddler wanted my attention any time the baby cried, it was a lot to juggle, and I had to put aside other things I wanted to get done tonight (like straightening up my tornado of a house) in order to do this so my husband could do his quiz. Well when I finally came down, guess who hadn't even started his quiz? He decided to take advantage of that time to vape and argue with randos on twitter, like he did late into the night last night, and til 3 AM the night before. He then opened the quiz and said the link is closed. If he had done that when I originally took over with the kids, maybe he could have helped. He is refusing to acknowledge that this was shitty, and is refusing to offer a genuine apology. Now I'm going to be up later than everyone else getting things ready for mother's day tomorrow. FML. Also, he could get fired from his job for failing this class, which he will if he doesn't do the make-up quiz.
This comment was infuriating to me. Our second is a few days shy of three weeks old. When she was about five days old, she had lost 9.5% of her body weight so doctors suggested we supplement with formula after every breastfeed. She has more than gained back her birth weight by now but they want us to keep doing it. It is so exhausting, especially at night, nursing, changing diaper, getting bottle ready, feeding bottle, holding upright for 20-30 mins after because otherwise she spits up, etc. For every hour of broken sleep I get, I'm up for two. My husband offered to do some of the bottle feeds overnight to help, so last night I tried twice to take him up on that because I couldn't keep my eyes open, and he could not wake up to help because he had taken his sleeping medication.
Today, I was trying to express to him how hard this has all been on me and how exhausted I am, because he kept insisting that he understood and he just doesn't. I was trying to get him to understand that it's difficult having a tiny human attached to your body most of the day, and how helpful it would be to have support with making meals, coffee, getting water, etc. so that my own needs aren't constantly neglected when I'm taking care of hers. He told me that if I "can't handle it (breastfeeding)" then I should fully transition to formula. I don't know why, but that comment hurt so bad. I have been trying so hard to keep up breastfeeding, even though I feel like supplementing with formula has negatively impacted my supply and now she never seems satisfied unless she gets a bottle after nursing. I feel alone, unsupported, and like I'm failing in so many regards.