r/twinflames

I have been on my twin flame journey for almost two years, and out of nowhere I feel like I’ve gained access to my spirit guides. I’ve been asking a lot of questions about this journey, and the insights I’ve received have been so deep that I really wanted to share them with other divine feminines, because I feel like you need to hear this.

What I’ve come to understand is that people have two parts: ego and soul. There is no “higher self” in the way people describe it—just ego and soul. And most people are operating from their ego. It’s like their soul has been pushed into the backseat, with no power over what’s happening. The ego is driving.

When you meet your twin flame, your souls recognize each other. You actually feel their soul, and that’s what you fall in love with. But the ego is still in control. It’s in the cockpit, running the show—and the ego, for whatever reason, doesn’t want you. I know my twin flame’s ego doesn’t want me.

As the journey progresses, divine feminines go through ego death and that is what is also called spiritual awakening / healing. I had mine about a year ago, but my twin flame hasn’t had his yet.

And this is why we’re always told to focus on ourselves—because he’s not going to come forward until he goes through his own ego death. And there is nothing you can do about that. That’s the healing. The ego has to fall away so the soul can take over, and he has to come to his own realizations. You cannot do that work for him.

I even asked my guides, what’s the point of all this? Why do I need to help him? And the answer I got was: are you really helping? No—you’re not. He is simply following your light.

That’s the only thing you need to do on this journey: sit in your own light.

I also asked why he hasn’t come forward, and my guides almost laughed and said, “Come forward with what?”

And that’s when it really hit me—he has nothing to offer right now. His ego is in such a broken, unhealthy state that there is simply nothing there for me. Absolutely nothing.

If he were to approach me like this, it wouldn’t bring anything good into my life—only chaos and sorrow.

The way this was shown to me was like this: me and my twin flame are in a forest full of mist. I know he’s there, but I can’t see him. I don’t know what he’s doing or what he’s experiencing. I can feel his energy, and through that I can connect to his soul, but I don’t actually know where he is in his journey. We’re in separation, and I have no visibility into what he’s going through.

So to all divine feminines: your life becomes so much easier when you stop trying to help him, especially energetically. Because you can’t. The only thing you can do is focus on your own light and, in a way, hope for the best.

There is no course, no person on this earth who can guide you through this. The only person who can help you is yourself—by leaning into your own soul and finding your own peace. That peace comes when you truly understand that his journey has nothing to do with you. They are two separate paths.

And honestly, you’re blessed that he’s not coming toward you while he’s still in his broken, ego-driven state. That version of him is toxic. You don’t want that in your life.

So be grateful he’s not knocking on your door while he’s still operating from that place.

That’s all I wanted to say. I hope this helps someone.

dream 3 yrs ago: I saw him on a flight, and it was a double-take type of situation. When he saw me, it was almost like he was inconvenienced by it. I tried waving to him like "hey! hi! omg what's up!" He looked around like he didn't want to be seen acknowledging me, he came sat next to me, and nothing was said between us, like he was waiting for me to say something, but I didn't have any words, which he was a bit annoyed by and left. (at this time I was in a relationship)
- I didn't give any deep thought to this dream upon waking up from it but I do remember thinking 'hm ok we were just saying hello to each other ig lol

dream a month ago: (I've been single for 7 months) he texted me telling me to come up and see him, so I did, but when I got there I wasn't forthright, I was nervous ig, and I just observed him for a second, but before I could enter the building he left. And it was almost like he knew I was there, and once again irritated with me.
- I woke up feeling super triggered by the dream, and I couldn't stop thinking about it so I thought hm, maybe I'll reach out and say something, debated, then felt prompted to search him up to find he's getting married in 2 months. After a lot of journaling and a lot of crying, I found peace and genuinely he stopped crossing my mind again until...

last night: this time he showed up at my door, I was shocked and guarded. He just said hello, and saw I was around and wanted to come by. It more so felt like he was inviting me to talk to him, that he knew I wanted to talk and was giving me space to. The whole time it felt like he was a mix of happy to see me again, but also slightly annoyed the more I spoke, but also like he was obligated to come. I was working up to say a lot more, and asked if we could go on a walk, to which he reluctantly obliged. I started saying some real shit, I was telling him how unfairly he treated me, and how he has issues, and how deeply he hurt me. The whole time I knew he was getting married and was wondering exactly what his intentions were, and finally I said "You know I know you're getting married why are you even here?" and he said "I just wanted to talk," and I said "and you're fiancé allowed this? yeah right." and he laughed. Then he started to leave and I followed him and continued to talk, getting louder and louder because he wasn't listening to me. Then a huge giant shadow formed behind him with glowing eyes and started dragging me by my foot, and I was able to escape and get back to my house.

I don’t know how to move forward from something that felt so intense, so real. We live in different countries, and the distance makes it all feel even more final.

My letter:

Thank you for coming into my life. You felt like a breath of fresh air, reviving, awakening something in me I didn’t even realize had gone quiet. When I think of you, my heart feels stronger, louder… as if its beat echoes through my entire body. It reaches for air, for movement, it wants to leap, to dance, to paint the sky in colors no one could ever imagine. Bright colors, shifting, alive, moving to their own rhythm.

How is it possible to feel so much, so quickly? So deeply, so powerfully, so intensely, and with such joy?

If you only knew what that moment felt like, I would have given anything to stay there, just watching you, listening to you, touching you, caring for you, feeling you. And yet, when I return to my reality, I realize it was all beautiful… but fleeting. I feel a quiet shame for having become so attached, so quickly, to someone who was, in many ways, still a stranger.

What lives within me that is so thirsty, so urgent, that it can leave such a vast emptiness from one moment to the next? What is it that I don’t yet understand about myself… something so uncontrollable, so overwhelming, so frightening?

I ran through spring fields where everything smelled of roses, jasmine, peonies, morning dew… everything felt fresh, alive. And suddenly, I found myself at the edge of a cliff so deep it froze me in place. I went cold. Terrified. The blood drained from my head, and all that remained was a gray cloud… just emptiness.

I would love to tell you everything I wish I could experience with you. But returning to that meadow feels dangerous now. If I turn back, I fear that the cold abyss behind me will pull me in. It terrifies me to think I can’t go back…that I can only let myself fall, trusting that at some point the pain will soften, the pressure will ease, and I’ll land on something steady.

A neutral ground. Warm, but not comforting. Solid, but without color. A place that doesn’t hold you, but keeps you standing. The kind of ground that helps you forget, and when you notice it, it hurts.

I will never forget you. Not your scent, not your eyes, not your smile, not your calm. I will carry you with me always… and I will keep dreaming of seeing you again.

Its like, when I feel his energy of course i want to be with him, to be just so close, as a big hug wouldnt still be enough. I want we 2 turn into only one. I want to merge with him.

But, this hurts too bad. I mean, not saying with him hurts and its anguish. These days this anguish is very less that months ago.

But a thing I think i know is that I dont want to be in union with him. Even If its not the point of the journey, but just a consequence. I dont want this consequence. I mean, i want just to take care of myself and be the best person possible to me. I want to heal myself from traumas. But I dont want to stay with him.

Passion is alive, very alive. I still feel the sexual tension. I still want him physically. But I dont want him in my life.

I know no one will ever compares to him when talking about connection. But, It hurts. I dont want this.

I want to end this connection, this energy.

First time i met my tf when i turned around after our litts chat , time stopped and he had a white bright light around him . He said I had it too . I read somewhere that it’s more a sign of a soulmate but I don’t know .

Did that happen to you ? What interesting thing happened to you the first time you met your tf?

Uh yo.my twin tends to visit me in the night. like sexually. i think it's astral projection? i feel her lips or I've felt her doing explicit things. It's at a point I try to not think of her when I'm with other women or look at media we have together cause it always ends up with a 5d interaction. i suppose the vulnerable part is. i like it? it makes me miss her? idk. the only reason I know she's my twin is cause of things like this and stuff. idk I just didn't want to be alone in this aspect nor do I know how she does it. it's wild.

I dont understand but even when - intrusive thoughts - about we kissing and cuddling comes to my mind, even If i try to think about another things, i feel very relaxed and wanting to close my eyes and sleep

Im going into month 10 of separation with my twin flame and over the last few days Ive found myself missing her more than other days. the gifts she gave me make me cry every time i see them like I used to be able to wear the watch she gave me for Christmas in 2024 but now just considering selling 😔 This hurts too much

Would this be a good idea to do to remove myself from this feeling??

Is it normal that I don’t necessarily need sexual tension with them? but I’m totally fine if they want to. But I feel shame on myself when I crave their touch even pure affection like holding hands. They have partner for over a year right now. I decided to separate them 8 months ago because I feel very guilty to think about them while they’re in the relationship. 2 days ago, I made small chat with them because I already heal most of the things that they forced me to heal and thought ready to connect with them back. Turn out I do still crave energetic resonance from them and can’t stop thinking about them after immediately I reconnect with them back.

[hey hi. how's it going. so I just messed up. my twin been calling to me and manifesting me big time since retrograde this year. i decided to disappear in response to it. my life was in shambles (we've been split for 5 years now with off n on texts) she's the runner so I say haha two can play that game slick.

fast-forward to April first her birthday. i get THE BIGGEST HEADACHE OF MY LIFE. I'm use to it I'm getting manifested that's what happens when I stand 10 toes on a im not reaching out. (use to lol chaser amirite??) so anyway today I went to a place I shouldn't have and it confirmed a lot of energy I had in question. i felt her energy pulling me to her. I looked. I'm stupid duh. she's in a relationship, looks like she's suffering. cool. now I have her trying to pull me in to save her. i say no. feel the headache in effect to reach out along with the tangling feeling of adrenaline that lets me know she knows I'm near. two energies trying to become one. i feel very...manic and annoyed.

i been getting signs of "a toxic relationship is happing near you" on top of someone has been messaging me on a anonymous question app asking shit like "how would you want an ex to return to you? if someone did you wrong how would you deal with it? how do you get out of toxic relationships?" imma empath and remember how energy tastes. same feel. man this is pointless I just wanted to talk to people that have been on my spritual job. thank you.]

update: I tried to meditate to get answers and she sent me a headache to block me then started sending me images of her when we first started dated to which I looked at on my phone. also been a lot sexual energy from her. 🤷🏾‍♂️.

My twin flame and I are both polyamorous. He is in an open marriage and been seeing me for 3 years (he hides me from his wife because he is scared but his wife knows he has other partners she also has other partners there marriage wasnt working out anyway and giving each other the freedom to see other people is how they stayed together for the kids) but I also have other partners, karmics and soulmates that go in an out, new partners. I have a lot of casual relationships. He does too. But we both keep coming back to each other because we are deeply in love and obsessed with each other. I dont want to hear that this is not my twin flame because I know deep down with my BEING he is. And the journey and the spiritual awakenings and ego deaths and seperations nearly killed me.

what I am wondering is do I walk away from him (block delete ignore) to manifest that quote on quote white picket fence monogamous committed long term partnership that my friends and family tell me I should want. I have always been polyamorous. I do not even care if at the end of my life I do not have a partner and die alone. But should I walk away from my twin flame relationship because it is never gonna be a traditional relationship? he might always wanna be open and so may I. His children and baby mama are always gonna be in the picture.

I only say this cause part of me dreams of a monogamous traditional relationship and not one I have to keep secret. My twin benefits from this too much. And I want a relationship I can be loud and proud about. But his fear of his wife and his need for options may never allow that. I can obviously have other partners. But I am wondering if I should walk away from him just to get that monogamous ideal . Sounds soulless even to me.