r/trans

On the Internet I have seem some, not most but some people talking about transgender stuff. Then I saw some specific comments saying "how trans people rambling on about their pride is annoying."

Personally I feel attacked and offended, however I didn't want to pointlessly start a fight with em so I left em alone. Is there anyone who could educate me on this? Incase I do encounter this in person, thanks!

I’ve been on spirolactone for like three years. It’s time for my refill but my doctors won’t refill it! I have one pill left and it’s getting crazy because they say they will and never do it. My legal name change was the excuse for them before but now they have no excuse. I just don’t know what to do because I just want to get my fucking meds. Like what. Should I just DIY at this point like?

She says I go through a lot of phases, such as wearing a lot of makeup, being goth, or learning Japanese. That I need more experience to know if I'm really a boy. She says I may change my mind and that this is too young to make a lifelong decision. I told her I have known this is who I am since I was 16, I just only recently decided I had to do something about it. I'm just super upset and in need of support. She is a liberal, and was absolutely fine with me coming out as a lesbian. This has all been a real shock.

Edit: also she wants to talk to my therapist...
& I would say "accept it or we can't talk", but I still live with her (I'm a mechanical engineering student so I can't work more than part time during the school year)

Recently I was talking to my mom (LDS) about that church's trans policies and how I was planning on starting HRT and she said that supposedly she saw a study they shows that "males taking estrogen" have increased suicide rates compared to those that don't, and also that this study was "from a church member's perspective".

All I've been able to find on that topic is a study that shows that AMAB people who want and have estrogen have higher suicide rates than those who don't want or have it, however those who do want and don't have it have the highest rates, and an article from The Heritage Foundation that I wouldn't trust as they're a far-right organization who also claims climate change isn't real.

This honestly doesn't make any sense to me. Do these studies even exist?

to all my later in life 30+ cracked eggs out there with heavy facial hair:

how do you cope with excessive grow back and shadow.

do yall honestly go clean shaven and full make up every day?? i have sensitive skin and going clean shaven everyday irritates my skin and cause razor burn and makes me look like i got pimples.

mainly just finding a hard time with my transition because of the heavy facial hair growth... are their many other trans women who have dealt with being a heavy haired individual??

keep in mind im on disability and affording laser treatment is pretty much not an option....

for context im about 2 years out of the closet and only started hrt in march, so i know i have a long way to go with changes etc but just looking for maybe reassurances or advice i guess.

I was waiting to get on bus and some dude started asking me all these offensive questions. I told them to f off and cool down. When the bus got there I blocked the door and told the bus driver that he was being belligerent. Then they tried pushing me and called me transgender. The bus driver wouldn't let him on and then he pulled a knife out. Luckily the door shut and she left. Be careful out there people. This was in a blue state too.. I worry how it could be in other states when even the bus driver wouldn't be cool

Hi I’m nonbinary (21) and getting top surgery!! I haven’t gotten a date yet but I’m signed up with a local clinic and all my paperwork has been sent though. I’m just waiting for an appointment :) I live in Canada as well so the fee isn’t insane.

I was wondering if there are any kinds of resources or hacks that anyone can give me!! I’m looking for anything and everything that I can do to make the experience more accessible and euphoric! I’m lucky enough to have a partner who’s going to help take care of me and we’re planning on ways to make the healing process smoother. We’re going to meal prep and buy a bidet before hand but that’s kind of as far as we’ve gotten!

I dont know anyone irl who’s gotten top surgery that I can reach out to for advice or what to expect, so hopefully you all can help me out!

I'm trans MtF (33) and am going to be homeless as of July 6. I lost my job and will need to fly into Boston, MA to pick up my car from storage. After that I will be homeless with nowhere to go. I need to find a safe place to stay in a blue state. I have no income at this time and also need a job, but I have a PhD in physics and work experience working in plasma physics as a research physicist working on fusion and heliophysics work.

Can anybody help me?

Nothing more to add, I am just happy 😊 Terrified because I live in a very red state, but at least now I get to start stabbing girl juice in my ass! 🥰

I've just recently heard a take about how hormones are "experimental", and as a person who will soon get on hrt, it's important for me to hear the takes of people who don't have a right wing bias Thank you for all the responses.

Cis people are allies until you call them out, that's it.

Whenever some trans person makes comments on the oppression they face in a so called left leaning space, they're flooded by cis people to tell them to "touch grass". Because apparently bigotry is a made up online behavior or something.

It's literally unironically "not all cis" for those people. Because they personally have no need to live in fear so they can ignore how other people may face harassment/violence or even threat of death on a daily basis. It makes my blood boil and I'm so depressed.

Firstly I wanna say I'm sorry if this is disrespectiful and that I am really ashamed of this thoughts and i want to stop thinking this

So i'm non-binary and i've noticed that i am into guys who are social socially considered "feminine" (cis or trans I don't care) and also i'm t4t and i prefer to date trans guys than cis guys (i just feel a connection with them since we have a similar experience). And the worst part is that i'm grossed out by penises and can't bring myself to like it (in fiction i can like it but irl i really can't) and i can only think that i just have some sort of fetish and that i am gross and i want to change this but i can't and don't know how to stop it

I(ftm) just booked my consult for my top surgery🥳

And I was telling my parents and they were asking if that's something I really need. I tried explaining that my chest has caused a lot of dysphoria and I'm sick of marks from binding, rashes from tape and not feeling like myself in my body or in my clothes.

But they don't get it and think I'm wasting money on what's the equivalent of getting a boob job or BBL.

Ok so this one is for film nerds lowkey, it isn’t that big of a deal I think but it’s bugging me a little.

I recently got to bond with a friend of my wife who doesn’t know I’m a trans woman. I spent some days with her in another city cause my wife was working there for a few days and she offered to host me so I could explore her area a little. We spent a lot of time together and specifically watched a lot of movies together.

Since we ended up talking about the fact that she hasn’t seen a lot of movies directed my women, she asked me to help with that cause I have tons in stock. So we watched a couple of these and at some point ended up on Bound from The Wachowskis, which I completely forgot was made before they transitioned. I realized that when the credits started and it was signed “Directed by The Wachowski Brothers”.

She instantly was like “what????” And I said “oh yeah they’re trans women” to which she chuckled and said “oh well you didn’t tell me that”. After that the conversation was super ok, she didn’t make it a big deal at all and was actually happy to have discovered that there’s top notch trans women directors out there. She’s a safe person and I might tell her I’m trans eventually but this reaction made me push it for a little bit.

My point is : when you present a trans artist to a cis friend or whatever, is it really that important to disclose they’re trans ? In some cases I guess it can be but in others I don’t really see why I would disclose that information, it’s not really important. It just feels like she didn’t consider them 100% female directors but “trans directors” instead and I kinda hate saying of an artist that they’re “trans” before what they actually do, I feel like it reduces us to our transness when there’s so much more to our identity.

I hope this is clear enough, I don’t post on Reddit very often.

Hello,

I recently started to socially transition as possibly non-binary to my friends and have been heavily considering starting estrogen (i even made the appointment recently). However, I have one nagging feeling that comes up every once in a while and it upsets me because I feel like it throws a wrench into what I already know. I do kinda like the thought of being a guy who is into other guys. I get the sense that this is more of a sexual thing than it is a romantic thing, but I still don’t know what to make of this. It feels like I really REALLY want to be trans but I can’t because of this one feeling. This thought comes and goes, but whenever it does it is so confusing and it makes me scared and doubtful.

finally started doing diy hrt (estradiol enanthate injection) today and im having worries(?) about my weed intake with it, i smoke daily for stress relief but only about 0.5g and dont wish to quit but will reduce intake if need be

has anyone had any issues with smoking or experience around the matter id lovr to hear your advice xx

I live in Idaho, and they recently passed a law that criminalizes trans people using bathrooms that align with their gender identity. It goes into effect on July 1st and applies to both government buildings and any private businesses open to the public (so basically, anywhere that I might need to piss other than my house).

I usually pass very well as male, and fortunately there is a gender neutral restroom where I work. That being said, it's a single stall and I can definitely see myself needing to choose between the men's and women's in the future. Many of the people I work with know that I'm trans so if any of them have an issue with me, I can see it becoming a problem. I would pretty much 100% be using the men's if I had to choose, despite the fact that it will be illegal (unless the ACLU wins the lawsuit they've got surrounding this bill).

The main concern with the bill is that it would be difficult to enforce the law and difficult to discern someone's gender without "inappropriate or invasive questions and searching". For that reason, I want to know what exactly my rights are in the event that someone sees me in the men's room, decides to call the cops, and has an officer show up. I don't think it's a likely scenario but I obviously don't want to risk going to jail. I don't know much about my rights in that sort of situation. Would I be required to answer certain questions, and if I lied in any way about my gender, would they need to verify that/would I get in more trouble? To what extent can a cop search me in that situation before it's illegal and grounds for *me* to seek legal action? More importantly, how should I act to convince any suspecting cop that I'm definitely in the right place? I'd prefer to avoid a confrontation entirely if I can, but I want to be prepared.

Hi, I'm 24 man, at least how I lived to this age, and I started to feel there is something wrong. I started to crave to be much more feminine than I used to be, started to feel happy when I'm doing for societal standard feminine things.

It's actually not my first time this is happening to me. The same thing started even as early as in my 10s years. I've had something in me, that wanted to be really feminine, even full woman. But then some major life events happened and I stopped thinking about it too much. From my 15 years I let my hair grow long and often find myself doing something odd for my sex or felt really dysforic about my body.

Another big time for me was in my 19 years when I started to think about myself again deeply, not just my social life, but truly myself alone and I had so deep desire to be a girl. I shaved my beard, let my hair being loose, wear my clothes in a way so I can seem to be more woman-like. And I really enjoyed it. But again, a lot has happened and I let it sink.

Now I'm in college, finishing my master study program of chemistry and I find myself again thinking about me. And I have the same feeling as before. I'm happy, even slightly euphoric when I percept myself at least slightly feminine, started doing skin care to look even better. But a lit of changed. I'm older than before, obviously, and not so girl-like as before. I have reduced hair count, my forehead is big, my skin seems much older and I'm even slightly overweight.

There are two problem. One is that I have a full desire to be much much more feminine, sometimes even full woman, but I don't know if it's just a phase, or I'm just suppressing something that was there from the beginning, or whoever am I.

Second problem is, that I feel really dysphoric right now, sometimes glad that I still see some feminity in me, but I don't know what I am on about. I have a strong desire to be as feminine as possible, but at the same time I'm unsure, if it's gonna be worth it. I am very sensitive about my appearance and I want to look natural and decently pretty. But I seem to be really far from my wish.

Does anyone have some tips, advice or just can talk to me about this topic as a supportive and listening human being? I feel lost.

I’m non-binary transmasc and my sister is also trans. We’ve both been out since our early teens. Now I’m 21 and she’s 22. I’ve always noticed that our parents don’t really expect anything from her. I know a lot of it stems from them not wanting to deal with her autism. So they just let her do whatever. But as our parents have gotten older and we’ve started having to think about what they’ll do when/if they can’t care for themselves, I’ve noticed a difference in expectations that feels more gendered.

My mom has always talked about moving in with me when she’s old. It used to be more of a joke, but it’s not so much any more. Recently, my dad gave me power of attorney, so that I won’t have to fight his sisters for authority if he dies/becomes incapacitated before them. He also gave me a not insignificant amount of money. He said that my sister wouldn’t get either of these things yet specifically because he doesn’t think she’s responsible enough.

I can’t help but feel like we’re being treated like I’m the daughter and she’s the son. In that I’m the one who is expected to care for the family and be responsible. While my sister spends her time doing drugs, being irresponsible with money, and having to take a year off from college due to bad grades with no real repercussions.

But also, I know that our parents don’t really know how to interact with her. And they definitely had no idea how to raise an autistic child. Whatever it is, there’s a big imbalance in our expectations that I cant stand but don’t know how to approach.

I don’t know what I wanted to get out of this. But it feels nice to write it down somewhere.

So I don't know if I'm just a weird outlier, but I changed so much mentally and in terms of my personality from HRT, and its not something I see discussed a whole lot, so many things about me changed I've never seen anyone mention.

The big one that jumped out at me, I turned from a night owl into a morning person. I used to stay up till 1-2am every night, waking up at 11-12pm every day, since HRT I now go to sleep usually at 11pm, and wake up at 7-8am, I have no idea why this changed but I really appreciate that it did, honestly being up in the morning is great.

Also a more foreseeable change, I went from being the horniest animal on the planet to literally zero sex drive, when I'm not in a relationship now it sometimes feels like I'm bordering on asexual with how little my sex drive is.