Honestly, I think the other three are easy to explain :))

Disclaimer

It is for fun purpose not to create any gender war and no one can judge u cuz it depends on update and downvote so be honest and I will be open to say I upvote

I completed my 25 years of life yesterday.

So, neenga experience panadha vachu, edhachu life lessons share paningana nala irukum. On anything. 😌❤️

Really went from worst to good in a year 🤣.if i want to get motivated, I will just take look at it. Anybody can become powerful if they wanted to ✌️

Na Tamil Medium la padicha oru normal paiyan dhn Engineering padichiruka but Clg time la varaikum rompa careless dhn irudha oru language learn pananum apdila but na mostly english series anime la rompa pudikum so athalam pakkanum apdinu english kadhuka start pana now I'm basic level speeker aprm na bangalore vadha enaku thirinja english vachi first company la survive pana kashtam pata aprm apdi ipdi pesa start pana ahh konja naal la Thirupa vera company vadha iga fulla ahh Kannada dhn enaku puriyum pesala vardhu 3 month iga iruka apdi ipdi konjam konjam pesa start panra but EGA problem na 3 language sendhu ena kolappudhu some time tamil pesura place la kannada pesura kannada pesura place la english pesura oru madhiri kadupa iruku ithu

Idk who will read all this but To all the fellow redditors be it singers, memers ,artists, yappers, friends u guys made many of my days without even realizing it adunala

Thank u guys for being the best so far🙂‍↕️

Was drowing in my own stuff adukeprom I kinda laughed alot in this app after a long time🤣 more than I ever did outside And if I ever hurt someone knowingly or unknowingly… manichrunga🤣

Elathukum nandri💌

Taking a short break

Stay abnormal as always and live well🤣

Sendru varugiren👩🏼‍⚖️

♥️

Spiritual worth

With Hungama, disney channel and chutti tv at my disposal. I miss the way I saw the world when I was a kid.. ( image atleed from Google for reference)

10 pm used to feel like way past mid night

I used to sleep around 10-11 hours and wake up to morning sunshine

Play cricket and watch cartoons all day and then ipl in the night

Younger and healthier mom and dad... I used to have no idea of all the efforts it takes to keep a household functioning... Somehow I miss being unaware. I miss being a 7 year old on summer vacation

I hate adulting like I'm 21 all of a sudden what am I supposed to do 😭 this is not me. Take me back home

Im 26 years old obese trying to loose weight. Loosing weight has been my number 1 priority since when i was just 7 years old. I lost so much hope now i still in that loosing weight phase and haven't done that yet.

Ipo idha yosikira apove i feel so overwhelming. I havent done in my life because of bullying.

Nan 3rd std padikira apo they shuffled the class. i remember whole class laughing at me when they shuffled the class while i was standing in the trying to hold on together myself from crying. I cried the rest of the day at home. I think that was my first bullying incident.

Then when i was in fifth std a teacher gave the boy students punishment for talking in the class. The punishment is sitting beside me. I don't know why she did that but the whole class reaction i couldn't even describe it in words. They were so much disgusted like im some kind of contagious disease.

I been bullied and fat shamed on regular basis and some of them scarred me for life. Idhellam nadanthu 18 or 19 years irukum i still get emotional thinking about these incidents.

Then when i was in 6th std a skinny boy compared my fat arms to his and made fun of it to his friends.

When i was in school i dreaded P.T. period. They usually take yearly weight and height measurements. As a girl who loves going to school will bunk only on those days to skip it. I know i will get bullied as i got every year. In later years i remember telling the teachers and convincing them to take my measurements seperately as i dont wanna do it in front of my classmates.

Nan school ku van la poven. There they used to bully me a lot. Anga iruka van driver anna kooda sernthu they used to bully me. They intentionally make the door small so it can't be opened wide with some kind of rope. So it will be difficult for me to get in. When i try to get in they just laugh at me. One day when they laugh at me they were playing thuppaki google google pani parthen song and whole van was making fun of me and vibing to that song laughing at me. Till now after many years i get emotional hearing that song.

En pakkathu veetuku paiyanuku different van but daily the whole van will look into my house to get a peak of this fat girl.

So i made my father to drive me every morning at 6.30 to avoid travellig in van even though its too early. I will leave the school at 5pm even though its way too late cuz my dad picks me after hia work.

Then comes the teacher they will always ask me why im so fat and why im like this for my whole life.

When i was 8th std i remember one girl saying i look like a pregnant woman and the whole girls washroom just laughed at me.

Then when i was in 11th all small kids in 6th and 7th std kids would legit laugh at me when i walk by. One small girl when passing by our corridor to use restroom she legit got scared and looked at me like i was a alien from another planet. She got so disgusted and she will run away from me everyday.

Nan indha mathiri incidents sollanumna solite pogalam. I faced humiliation in every phase of my life.

Idhu school la mattum illa veetla kooda apdi than. My parents tried medical support and hospital they stressed me even from my young age. They tried everything they did their best but its difficult for me to loose weight. Enakaga they spent so much money. Sometimes i wonder nan porakame irunthale avanga happy ah nimathiya irunthurupanga. Ennala enaku mattum illa avangalukum mana ulachal. Im not a good daughter for them and i never will be.

My mom tried to be supportive. But one time she just shamed me directly. I went to a wedding of a relative when i was in 9th i guess. Apo some other guests passed comments about me it seems. Nan atha gavanikala but she told me that they did that at home. Unna pathi than pesunanga nee gunda irukanu. Nee ipdi iruka apdi irukanu sonnanga. That words coming from my own mother at at stage i think a piece of me died there.

In my sister's wedding a random aunty called me and lectured me about my weight and i cried for the rest of the day.

These and many similar situations like these scarred me for life. I strongly believe my experiences and what i have gone through made me introverted. Im a people person. I like people. I like talking with people i like going out with people but i got more and more reserved.

Idhanala i didnt make that much friends. I protected myself from getting hurt during my college days. I have only one friend now. Im lonely too. But i choose this lonliness because people hurt me and im protecting myself.

These incidents and experiences you have when you are a literal child whill mess you up and scar you for life. It did scar me as im still crying while typing this out.

I believe im a good human being. Most of the time when i look back and think about it i try to look it in a positive way. I believe it made me more empathetic. Im more sensitive about people's feelings and i wont make fun of anyone.

But today when i try to calorie count as usual and still a obese 26 year old i got sudden epiphany that loosing weight has been my priority as long as i can remember. I got overwhelmed and strong urge to just leave this earth thinking about my past 26 yrs and now im writing this here venting it out.

Note :- Title ah patha odane cmts la vandhu adipeenga,adhuku munnadi idha ketutu vandhu adinga....

So my mom is vwry strict from beginning itself,like since i am studying prekg...sapdalena adipanga,pesna adipanga,veliya pona adipanga,frnds kuda vlanda adipanga,Avungaluku pidikkadha edha pannalum adipanga...

Idhula ore advamtage ennnana andha bayathulaiya na padichuruven....prekg la irundhu maximum na ella subject layum full mark dhan vamguven,ena 1 mark.kronjalum annaiku kalaila yenda enthiruchen ndra alavuku onnu pannuvanga.Idhuve 2 -3 Mark koranchuna avlodhan annaiku yen soli mudinchu😂...Bed la thoonga koodadhu,Tv paaka koodathu,sapadu ootum bodhu thittuvanga adippanga...knjm nalaiku pesa matanga..Idhalam nan kandukka maten.Palagiruchu😂.

ENn class la mathavunga evlo nu kepanga...en mark ku ku close ah irundhuchuna...Aduthu innom rmba strict ah padikka vappanga.

Mark la koranja enna asingapaduthuvanga,Veliya ellar munnadiyum adikradhu...indhamaari,Idha yentaye solluvanga "unnalam asingapaduthunadhan aduthu nalla mark edupanh"

Idhu ellame prekg la irundhu oru 8th varaikum.

Ana enakku andha padikradha thavira,oru Bundaiyum theriyadhu,Veliya vlada vida matanga...Yartaiyum pesa vida matanga...sondha karanga pesa vidamatanga...Edho manguni maari iruppen...oru 5th ku mela knjm knjama Ellathaiyum change...Direct ah vo indirect ah vo Yen frnds dhan karanam.Innom sila vishayam yem normal life la affect pannum,like relatives ta pesradhu.

9th appo corona vandhu 1 year relative veetla irundhen,adhukaprm dhan knjm na veliya vandhen.

Mothathula en childhood ahye mudichu vittanga,adhu enna ippo affect pannudhu

Engamma vuku ego rmba adhigam,En amma ellathukum kathuvanga..Ippolam avunga pesradha kettale kaduppaguthu.knjm overa irundhalum sila neram poi moonjilaye naalu ethu vittu vandhu ukkandhukalama ndra alvuku thonudhu,Enna irundhalum avunga en amma dhan..ana mudila nanbargaley...

Chinna vayasula nadandhatha vachu nandhan over ah yosikirena nu therla

Avunga mela irundha oru affection eh poiruchu

My humor is broken or am i mentally ill or this shii is really funny🥀 cant figure it out.

Nan(ba/bi) drop your favourite series/movies and suggest me something 🙏🏻

Enga paathalum ore relationships post-a iruku, athan oru doubt ketkanum nu thonuchu.....

So Oru kutty story.....about me and my friend...we both are male and in our late 20s.

So naanga meet paninathu college la than and enga rendu per kulla nalla oru vibe irunthuchu, ipo varaikum close frnds-a irukom , more than a decade...

When I was 16, my family lost everything because of my father's financial mistakes, kadaisila na engineering padikurathe periya vishayama irunthuchu.. epdiyo kadan vaangi college la sernthaachu, college life fulla financial-a neraya struggles ,so kidacha opportunities-a engalala full-a utilise panika mudiala...en friend oda family background poor than, even oru semester apo kooda crowd funding maathiri amount collect Pani than avanuku fees pay paninom.Intha financial problems naala relationship kulla pogura mindset varala apo, it doesn't mean that we don't know how to talk to girls, ponunga frnds irunthanga, ipovum irukaanga(college/office) athula oru silar ku interest irukunu therinjum, na avungala avoid Paninen.

Na degree mudichapo,my salary was around 24000,but family had a debt of 30 lakhs and we don't have any properties as well, verum 24000 salary-a vechu, 30 lakhs kadan-a epdi adaikurathu....na atha pathi than yosichene thavira, relationships kulla pora mindset suthama ila...

And that frnd ,he lost his father (cardiac arrest), we both were 21 at that time....after that avan family situation-a avanaala manage pana mudiala, Athuku apuram he moved to dubai and now he is making around 1.5 lakhs a month and also he is the sole bread winner of his family...yen yarayum approach panna thonalaina, date pananum apdingara mindset suthama ila coz mentally and financially we were not ready for another commitment,apuram paathukalaam nu vitaachu...so single-a ve irunthutom, but marriage panikanum apdingara oru aasai irukum la....

And neraya per arranged marriage is transactional, 2026 la kooda arranged marriages-a ? nu neraya per intha sub la ketrukaanga....apuram social medias la kooda(insta,youtube), Love marriage/dating vs arranged marriage nu varum bothu neraya ponunga love marriage/dating than choose paninanga, avunga point of view la athu correct than, because they can able to know a person..

So neenga soldra maathiriye arranged marriage-a ban panitanganu vechukalaam, apdi oru system-e ila...

Apo engala maathiri pasangaluku ena solution? Kadaisi varaikum thaniyaave irukanuma? And also recent-a oru ponnu 25(F), past relationships pathi oru post potrunthanga,...ena maathiri ,yen frnd maathiri irukura Pasanga past relationships ilama irukura oru ponna ethir paakurathu thappu ilaye?

Male loneliness is real but nobody wants to talk honestly about why it happens...

A lot of men are raised with outdated ideas about women and relationships. They grow up around 0 healthy interaction with women then suddenly expect a girlfriend or wife to magically understand them

Some common problems are

treating women like a “reward” instead of actual people

thinking controlling behavior is masculinity

obsessing over a woman’s “past” while ignoring their own flaws

expecting emotional support while offering none back

learning relationships from sigma edits, brainded influencer and toxic comment sections

not knowing how to communicate without ego, anger or insecurity

seeing basic respect as “simping” recent ah kuda idha pathi indha subla oru post pathen

wanting traditional women while bringing nothing traditional themselves

never developing emotional intelligence or confidence outside male friend groups

A lot of men are lonely not because women are evil or “modern”
but because they genuinely don’t know how to connect with women normally 😮‍💨

And instead of improving themselves many retreat deeper into resentment, gender wars, and seek online validation

well not every man is like this but pretending this mindset doesn’t exist is part of the problem

i decided to talk about this after seeing a lot of posts about love and relationship and the shit takes in the comments in this sub

AND IK IM GONNA GET RAILED IN THE COMMENT SECTION BUT GUESS WHAT IDC YOU PATHETIC TRUTH HATING DELUSIONAL INCEL GO DO YOUR WORST

NEE LONER AH IRUKURADHUKU KARANAM NEE DHAAN DA

NOTE : this is NOT about every man there are plenty of good men who are emotionally mature, respectful, and self aware. This is directed at the group that blames women for their loneliness while refusing to reflect on their own behavior