r/singleph

I have resigned to the idea that I am a spinster at this age.

I am a 40 y.o woman. High achiever, successful, stable and able to have a family. However, I am exhausted in dating.

All my relationships are long term. I have explored dating apps, expanded my network outside work, opened myself and tried new things.

But all the men I was and went out with were all failed timing. Some are not capable of commitment, some were mismatch, and some were never aligned with me.

I am exhausted. I questioned myself that maybe there is something wrong with me.

Guys who are 12 years younger than me approached me , showed interest, asked me out but they just want a non - committal relationship.

I even settled to someone I know who doesn't deserve me but I gave him access to fill the void.

When all of this is settled and done. I will not be involved to anyone anymore.

I am exhausted.

Looking for a cute, matangkad (4’9 ako so lahat siguro matangkad sakin) maayos ang work, madaming side quests lol basta hindi ako sasabihang “you’re too much”, mabait, respectful, walang anger issues, SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP ONLY.

About me- nasa abroad living alone. Willing to bring you here. super cute, traveller. may decent job. walang sabit, at higit sa lahat love ako ng mama ko at ng buong family. YES I’M COOL. HAHA

Ang dami ko kasing sponty dad jokes. Kaso paano ko ie-explain kung di marunong mag-Filipino jowa ko? Lol laki ng prob5 😆

Hello, newbie sa Reddit! And isa daw to sa kuta ng mga mababait at funny na gentlemen so might as well test the waters here.

About me:

• 5'7" ik ang hirap din humanap ng pinoy na taller than me 😅
• Has a lot of time outside of my day job kaya ang daming side quests
• Side quests include: muay thai (been training on/off for 2 years now), long walks forda long-legged tita, trying to learn how to cook haha, learner driver pa, then freediving this weekend kahit di ako marunong mag-swim
• Tybe B, overall chill and kalmado even if my work is high pressure at times haha
• Probinsiya lyf >>>> City lyf
• I have a dog and malapit na sya mag-graduate sa training! Excited to finally go on hikes with her
• Values my independence and protective of my alone time pero clingy na ulit after that lol

About you:

• Ka-length (height) at ka-wavelength ko din (wit, humor mapa-kanal or aircon humor man yan)
• Sana cute din huhu I know medyo shallow
• Both interesting and interested!
• Genuinely kind yet stern when it comes to taking the lead

My 2 series (Daredevil BA, Hacks) just ended so idk what to do in my spare time kaya baka ikaw muna kulitin ko haha. If you reached this far, any series tjat you can recommend? Yung less than 1hr sana. 🤗

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GC Name: HighGrounds

We’ve got a Telegram group for young professionals who just want a solid space to vibe, talk, and actually connect — kahit saan ka pa sa world 🌐

Quick heads up — this isn’t your typical random GC. Most of us have been friends for 1+ year, and some even 3+ years, so tight-knit na talaga. Plus, marami rin sa members namin are based abroad, so halo-halo talaga perspectives and timezones 🌎

If ikaw yung:

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Tired of surface-level convos

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Down for random, deep, or kalokohan chats

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Looking for online friends na pwede mo maging constant

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Gaming buddies

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Coffee hangouts (MNL Area)

You’ll probably fit right in.

✨ The vibe:

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Safe space — we screen before adding

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Chill, no drama, walang pilitan

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Active convos + real connections

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- May occasional meetups if you’re in the Philippines 🇵🇭

📌 Open worldwide, karamihan sa GC ay OFWs

📌 can accept 26+, but trentahin preferred

📌 Just be decent & active

📌 STRICTLY SAFE FOR WORK

Malay mo, dito mo na din mameet future partner mo 🥰

If you’re interested, send a short intro + why you wanna join. We keep it lowkey, so we get to know you first before sending the link 🤝

Today is my day.

Grateful for another year of lessons and blessings. Looking forward for the better and fruitful life. Most important thing, hindi na makatagpo ng mga taoi na ungrateful and user. Hahahaha!

Being a hopeless romantic (and torpe, unfortunately hahaha), it's really tough to try and make all the moves in all physical avenues when it comes to the dating scene hahaha.

And, damn, I just miss being loved and supported as I continue to build and love myself completely while I support their career by providing love that's warm, full of sincerity, and support.

So... Ayun! Let me shoot my shot hahahaha

• Physically? I'm lean, I guess. Normal BMI pa rin naman. Not fat or anything but I've been going to the gym for quite some time.
• I respect your time and space. I can't be your universe, but I'm willing to be a planet in your universe. Me time and hanging out with friends pa rin is important.
• I am about to work soon in the tech industry again. I've been out and around in different industries and I can tell you more about that naman.
• No. I'm not catfishing hahaha. I am a legitimate person naman, so I hope that gives you ease.
• Full disclosure. I have my vices (drinking and vaping) but they're not too hardcore. I have a hobby tho and I hope you respect why I'm taking up this hobby (more when we discuss naman hahaha)

And for you naman:

• Hopefully we share the same goals in staying fit! That's what I strive to do, and even if you've accomplished your fitness goals, I'm more than willing to learn everything that you can provide para I can keep up so that we can look good together hahaha
• Good looking din! We can exchange photos naman, and you can outright tell me if hindi mo ko type. Honesty is cool.
• Working professional din. Hopefully aligned tax bracket natin? HAHAHAHA Mine’s not that high ah just to set expectations.
• PLEASE BE SINGLE! AYOKO NG SABIT JUSKO HAHAHAHA

I know baka we might not fit each other's preferences, but it's best na we gave it our shot hahaha. Hoping to finally be with someone again.

I’m on summer vacation with way too much time and barely anyone to talk to 🥱 (at that point na ako na friends and family na lang ang nabibigyan ng update, put me (and them) out of this misery !!!! )

I also feel like I don’t put myself out there enough so I’m looking for… you 🫵 (a constant and genuine connection!)

Here’s some information about me:

‣ 5’4, Morena
‣ Wears specs
‣ Kanal humor pero kaya sumabay sa aircon
‣ Still a student (yes, pabigat pa sa magulang)
‣ NBSB (Naloko nung kasabihan na marami pipila after college pero nag p-post grad studies na siya wala pa rin)
‣ I try to keep myself fit by walking
‣ The rest ay gawin nating topics of conversation HAHAHAHA u can ask questions sa dm

About you:

‣ 20-25 decades ago… 😆 max 25 for age!
‣ SINGLE, NOT married, NO kids (my tag is friendship first but if all goes well tapos pamilyado pala… 🤠)
‣ Passionate about what they do (studies or work)
‣ 5’7+
‣ Can carry a conversation

Let me know if you want to exchange pictures pala. Let’s take things slow (no meet-ups agad and SFW please) and see where the conversation takes us? :)

Spending 50k+ on vet bills is not fun nor very practical in today’s economy, pero wala eh, you’ll do absolutely anything and everything for your pets; so ayun na nga, what if I just handed that amount to you? Or at the very least mabawasan sana yung pag consult? Practical sa pera and sa lovelife 😅

About me
5’8
Staying at Mandaluyong
Loves animals and my pets
Owns the cutest pets
Physically fit and active. Main sports are boxing and muay thai
Works in tech, 6 digits pero nauubos din lol
No baggage; just need to accept my pets

About you
Vet

I finally got my driver’s license! Previously pampered and spoiled passenger princess pero 2yrs after a failed relationship, i decided to learn how to drive on my own. Strong independent na! I’m just happy to share itong achievement ko today. Ano, tara?

Hello!

I want something intentional.

I want to meet someone who also wants something serious. Ofc we're also gonna have fun pero hindi fun lang, hindi casual lang ang intention talaga. Hindi intimacy without commitment. But also wants it to be a committed relationship in the future if magkasundo tayo ofc and mag-align on what matters for both of us. 😄 We're just gonna have fun getting to know each other pero both of us must have intention to see if we're gonna be fit for a relationship.

EDIT: By "FUN", I didn't mean it in sexual context 🥲 grabe naman may friendship with benefits pa talagang DMs lols.

Being intentional for me means having consistent communication, making time and effort to really get to know one another. Ayoko nung dynamics na kung kailan lang matripan mag-usap or magkita, if we don't workout, at least we tried genuinely di ba? 🙂

So I think before that happens, apparently it's necessary for us to have mutual attraction towards each other para genuine talaga na gusto nating mas makilala pa ang isa't isa. 😅 I guess that's where physical attraction enters the picture. So hopefully I meet someone I'll feel attracted with and ofc you too to me. 😄 Physically, personal preference, I don't really get attracted with chubby guys.

Here are some details about me:

• 4'10 slim, average looks, cute type (i feel kinda shy to include that 😆)

• people usually say I sound and look younger (23-24 my guy friend told me) than my age

• financially responsible (I spend within my means, I don't like being in debt)

• I have goals and working on it even though progress might be slow, I will always try and do my best. So I want someone supportive and I'll be the same to yours.

• from Cavite (I want someone whom I can meet in person regularly like weekly or few times a month, I feel like we'll get to know each other better in person so I don't prefer online comms lang but I want someone I can also talk with regularly online)

• my hobbies are mostly indoors (moreon watching, listening to music and YouTube). I'd say I'm a homebody but I do like going out, making new experiences time to time. I go on hikes 2-3x a year. I like walking too especially around nature, that's why I enjoy hiking! It'll be nice if you have other hobbies that I'll be interested to try too! Maybe you can teach me haha

• I just started going to the gym, medj inconsistent lately but I wanna do better and consistently for my fitness goals 😄 (I want someone na may fitness goals din and also working on it!)

• no vices (I don't smoke. And I don't drink. So I want someone without vices too. If you drink occasionally, that's fine for me.)

• believes in God, Catholic faith (I'm not religious, not perfect, actually a sinner, but I want someone I can grow with in faith too)

I feel like it's hard to meet someone I'd want here but just also wanna give it a try maybe one last time.

Btw, just to add and reiterate something important, am not looking to connect with someone who:

• only wants casual

• just came from a breakup, in the process of moving on (i think you need friends, not landi)

• taken, committed (this must be obvious pero reminder na lang din 😆)

Aside from those I mentioned above, I want to connect with someone around my age, +3 or -2; with someone not very far, too long distance. I want someone I can meet regularly in person.

Hope to meet someone interesting and looking for the same thing here!

See yah!

Will wait for your message. :)

When you do, tell me what you want and what made you reach out. Haha. This will serve as a filter for those who really want the same, since there's an outpour of messages coming in.

For sale

• Only used once
• 100% fully functional
• Customizable (can be a yapper or a listener)
• 5'5 but stretchable 🤣
• Working professional
• Lots of hobbies (playing guitar, piano, drums, reading books, drawing, painting, etc,.)
• Working professional
• Around manila
• Actively working out
• Confident naman sa looks, we can exchange photos agad

About you

• Please be around manila din (mabilis kasi ako makamiss ee, dapat yung mapupuntahan ko ng biglaan)
• Younger than me or till 28
• Shorter or same height, baka ako pa kasi forehead kiss mo
• Working din sana, but open naman sa nag aaral pa 😁

Bente pesos nalang po bilhin nyo na, with grahams na kasama 🫶

Currently accepting applications for platonic chill friendships kasi apparently character development is expensive and i’m in the middle of a personal crisis.

Honestly, i think sometimes all we really need is a friend, not a partner. someone to call randomly, rant to, laugh with, or just exist alongside while life is actively beating everyone up.

About me:

• certified jack of all trades, master of random hyperfixations
• can talk about coffee, music, business ideas, life philosophies, weird internet lore, interiors, films, existential dread, or why pancit canton hits different at 2am
• emotionally unstable but entertaining
• BIG on calls > chats. i like hearing people ramble while we both pretend we have our lives together

Please don’t just send “hi” or “hello po” give me SOMETHING 😭
tell me:

• your current fixation
• your weirdest take
• what’s ruining your life lately
• your comfort food
• your lore

I need material to reply to because i genuinely do not know what to do with highs and lows anymore. Strictly platonic btw. just looking for people to chikahan with while surviving adulthood one mental breakdown at a time.

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I grew up in the overseas and moved here 4 years ago, and connecting with peers has been hard at uni, so I thought I'd try with reddit.

About me:

• 6ft tall
• ComSci student
• Nerdy vibes
• I've been confused by my peers as half jp/cn, or sometimes a complete foreigner, but I'm fully filipino
• Confident in my looks (idm swapping photos if you'd like)
• Will message you the second I see a notif
• I can yap about my interests, but I may be nervous at first around new people

What I'm looking for:

• Non-Avoidant Attachment style, been down that road before
• Passionate about your interests! I don't mind if ours don't line up, I just love listening to people talk about things they're into
• Around the Batangas area
• Any height or age range
• Willing to communicate directly if we have issues/disagreements
• Either into anime/gaming, so we have that in common
• Won't ghost, if you don't find me interesting, please don't be afraid to tell me upfront! :)
• Preferably have either discord or insta

Feel free to dm me if you're interested!

Hello! single for a few years na dahil madami akong inuna sa life. But this time, sarili ko naman uunahin ko.

I'm 5'4, medyo overweight, no kids pero furmom, hindi marunong mag drive pero ako mag gguide sayo :)

Actually I am scared to be 30 and still loveless. Baka andito na yung soulmate ko hehe

I love listening to music, lalo na old and classical music. I also love horror movies, games and I have a great sense of humor.

Tara date?

Birthday ko today, and ang birthday wish ko lang ay maranasan ma-baby kahit saglit 😌

31, chinita, plus size girly, maputi, and single na ready na ulit lumandi responsibly.

Pagod na maging strong independent woman na alipin ng salapi 24/7.

Hanap ko? Good conversation, soft treatment, and someone na kayang sumabay sa kalog at clingy energy ko.

Kung constant, why not. Kung today lang, edi happy birthday to me 🎂

Ako po ay isang MD (matandang dalaga or magandang dalaga) pick one na lang. I recently passed the PLE (🎉) and I’m just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love me (ay) HAHAH tbh di ko alam bat umabot na ako sa pag ppost here but might as well give it a shot, right?

In all seriousness, Do you ever feel like you’re just tired of the small talk and wish people were just more intentional or direct when it comes to dating and what they want? I hope to meet someone who is equally or even funnier than me. Someone on the same wavelength and someone who I come home to after a long duty day (pls guys fantasy ko to, masundo sa duty waaaah) I’ve dated a few guys in the past pero wala talaga yung match yung energy (sad)

About me:
- MD
- 5’3
- midsize (?) but working on it gained weight while reviewing for the PLE eh
- kanal humor >>
- BIG on respest and boundaries
- moms, titas and lolas love me (I swear)
- I like going on long walks and talking
- I think I give off makulit na tita vibes
- An extrovert most of the time but values alone and quiet time too

Send me your funniest joke or a song that’s been stuck in your head. or bahala ka na hahaha See you my DMs?? HAHA

Hi! I am looking for new people to become friends with. I prefer hanging out to calls and chatting! I'm open to join groups as well. Travel, tambay, count me in!

about me:

28, 5'11, introvert, working, I don't drink, I don't smoke, single

I am very into music and guitar. Medyo LSS ako now sa Mahika ni TJ Monterde haha

I love traveling. I've been to Cebu, Bangkok, Hong Kong, and Japan. I enjoy outdoor and extreme activities sa Cebu pero more on chill, strolling and taking pictures of places talaga ako. Tikim tikim din ng food kung saan man mapunta. If you'll ask me kung anong favorite chinese food ko, sasagutin kita ng siomai.

I love movies about life, love, relationships, romcom, or anything I find interesting. Before trilogy, Her, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, 500 days of summer, 50 first dates, prisoners, dami pa.

I love romanticizing road trips, city lights. Usually hindi mo ako makakausap kasi naka-earphones ako. But don't get me wrong, I love having conversations lalo na kapag interested ako sa iyo. I ask a lot of questions pero minsan I just listen din. Depende talaga.

I try to push myself to run every now and then lalo na kapag may iniisip. Helps me clear my mind.

I'm not that maligalig type of person but I guess it depends on the chemistry. I almost forgot the most important thing, I love iced coffee.