r/sextips

Im F and he’s M. We’re in a longterm monogamous relationship. We’ve been together since college. We’re now in our 30s. He’s always been an “@$$ guy,” but in the last few years, he’s expressed more and more interest in anal. He and I explored this for his sake. I was never too crazy about it, but every now and then, I’d be okay to do it. But now within the last year or so, it seems that’s ALL he ever wants. He’s not interested in foreplay, regular intercourse, or anything. Sex has become a chore for me because I know what he wants. It doesn’t seem revolved around pleasuring me anymore. It’s a complete 180 from how he used to be. There’s legitimately times where if I don’t give him anal, he doesn’t even want sex.

We’ve had many discussions about my discomfort with anal sex and how I really don’t want to explore it anymore. I don’t find it pleasurable anymore. In fact, the more he pushes for it, the more I’ve come to hate it.

Thoughts?

Usually when my gf gives me a blowjob/handjob i feel super tired and just want to go to sleep after cumming. How can I stay horny or just have more energy after finishing? (Just want to say I lift hevy weights at the gym because i read it usually helps but I still got this problem)

I’ve experienced this from a few guys and I’m not sure why they do it and if I should be saying something? Or if it’s because I’m bad at it and I need to get better? It’s confusing bc I’ve heard all the feeling is in the tip so why would they push my head down on it? I just gag and it doesn’t feel good. What should I do ?

I had sex with three people.. what counts as a gangbang? What was that?…

My wife in I are in our 30’s and have been together since our early 20’s. We have had the same since we met and it’s getting boring and she refuses to try new things. I brought it up and she threw a big ole fit about it saying if it’s so boring then I should find someone else to fuck. Obviously I can’t do that or it would cause way bigger problems. So what do I do? Am I suppose to be bored the rest of my life with sex?

I’m 26M and this has happened multiple times with my girlfriend (29F). During kissing and foreplay everything feels normal, but when it comes to sex or when she gives me a BJ, I lose my erection or can’t stay hard.

Yesterday it happened again and she got irritated because it keeps happening. Now I’m overthinking it a lot.

Why could this be happening and what should I do?

What to do after creampie

Hey! My gf and I are having sex since a few weeks but we are struggling with sth.

After the sex we don’t know how to handle the sperm coming out of her pussy. What do you guys, run to the toilet. Let it drip on his belly, sth else.

Thanks already!

i am younger and so is my bf, i am aware this is his first time but it isn’t mine (i had only did it once other then that just oral with my previous partner) but im having a hard time getting his cum out of my pubes without getting a bath or shower and as someone with a skin condition i can’t get a shower everyday only every-other day or my body products will give me a rash. it sounds odd but it was a recommendation from my derma, i have used a wet cloth with a bar soap and that works but it’s embarrassing to do everytime we have sex, and i think he notices that i go to the bathroom right after anytime we have sex. can someone tell me im not the only young girl going through this 🫰 EDIT; thank you so much for the advice it’s much appreciated as i am fairly new to sex and sexual intimacy that has actually worked (i have bpd and hyper-sexuality so sometimes it’s rly hard to be sure of safe ways to do things) i hope you all have a nice day/night 💋

So I kind like tuck my upper lip over my teeth to avoid grazing my bf when I'm giving him head. If I'm doing it for a longer period of time (my jaw be getting tired sometimes n I start slacking) my teeth dig into my lip and it starts hurting. Anything I can do to prevent this or?

Morning folks, got a question/need to express some feelings.

First off, let me say that I love my girlfriend. Shes the most amazing partner a guy could ask for. Shes kind, smart, funny, pretty, you name it. I really do see myself spending the rest of my life with her.

The only thing is that when it comes to our sex lives, I feel like there’s a disconnect. I do all of the initiating. I make the first move, I plan the dates, I set up everything if we want to have a romantic/sexy night in.

There’s never any initiation and little effort on her part when it comes to being intimate and I cant help but feel unwanted/unattractive. We have discussed this many times. I have expressed to her (politely & respectfully) that I would like her to initiate some of the times and reciprocate some of the effort. She is receptive to this and says she will make an effort. Sometimes she does and it lasts a day or two, sometimes she doesn’t. We made a promise to each other at the start of the year to actually date each other, not just live in the same apartment and coexist through the mundane tasks of everyday life. I feel like I have kept my promise and she hasn’t really.

We have talked extensively about what each person wants/gets turned on by. I even gave her examples of stuff that I would interpret as her initiating. I have also expressed how her lack of initiation has made me feel and she has reassured me multiple times that she does love/find me attractive/want to have sex with me.

I don’t want her to feel objectified or used, but a healthy sex life is something I would like to have as part of a long term relationship. I feel like we have talked in circles about this and gotten nowhere. A lot of times when she puts a hand on me or goes me a kiss I have to ask if she’s initiating something or not. She usually responds with “it’s up to you” or something of a similar theme. It just makes sex feel clunky and unnatural.

What do you recommend to get past this? We’ve been together for 4 years. I don’t want to leave, but also I don’t want our intimate lives to fizzle out this quickly.

31F and always had so much trouble with orgasms, I’m starting to feel like I’m broken!

I never masturbated as a kid/teen and honestly thought that the female orgasm was a myth until I had already been having sex with men for 3 years. My friends started telling me that they were having orgasms and I finally sat down to try and learned how to do it myself. Since then I’ve had many sexual partners (over 20) and to this day, only orgasmed with one of them. Men have tried for hours going down on me, using their fingers, etc and I just can’t do it. I can’t even do it myself in front of them. I really relax, I don’t put pressure on it and just focus on feeling the sensations, maybe having a fantasy in my head and not having orgasm as the goal. But after every sexual encounter where the man cums 2, 3, 4 times, I just feel it’s so unfair. I want to experience real pleasure and orgasms in my sexual encounters! It can sometimes be quite difficult to achieve even when I’m alone, but I can usually get myself there within about 15 minutes. I focus on my technique so I can replicate it when I’m with a man, but nothing has worked so far. I also feel nothing at all when a man goes down on me the vast majority of the time. I feel angry when my friends talk about how much they enjoy receiving head. How can I get more out of it?? It honestly feels like the man could be licking my elbow. I’m also a massive squirter and men love that and think that must mean that I’m experiencing a lot of pleasure, but that also feels like nothing to me, I can’t even tell that I’m doing it.

My main questions are:
- how can I learn to orgasm with men? - how can I learn to enjoy receiving head?

I 25M and my girlfriend 23F love oral, but I have never cummed inside her mouth. She's afraid that she doesn't like the taste, cause when she does it she says precum tastes salty. My question was if there is a diet or some tips I could take to see if the taste improves. I know it's a human fluid so I'm not expecting it to have whipped vanilla flavor, but to make it enjoyable for her if we try.

When I'm having sex with my boyfriend, we have a great time. However, when he starts using his fingers or giving me oral, I start to worry because I know I’m going to squirt soon. He gets concerned because of the 'big mess' it creates. What can I do to hold it back and have a 'normal' orgasm? Also, is this common?

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I (26F) have been seeing this guy for a while and I think we'll finally sleep together soon. Problem is, it's my first time with a man. I've only been with women before, and he knows as much. Any tips that will make it less awkward, and pleasant for us both? We communicate very well so I'm not worried about that, I'm asking about, like, things that will make him feel good. Thank you!

hey! I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. we’ve never been able to have sex because hes a bit too big to fit into me and it ends up just hurting us both. we’ve been active in other ways since the start of our relationship but since we’ve been living together (about 6 months) we haven’t been sexual since. our sex wasn’t amazing but I liked the closeness and intimacy. we still kiss but no making out and he will occasionally touch me but very briefly. a few months ago we talked about it and he wanted me to be intimate while he slept but i dont know where to start. I want to start being intimate with him but I have literally no idea what to do or say without seeming desperate… I feel like it’s me that’s the problem because I am not very experienced as him. before we stopped I talked to him about not being able to make me cum on his own and what I wanted him to do to me but granted I’ve struggled to make him cum too and after he gave me tips I had no problem following them. what do I do

Im skinny my gf is bbw, every time we say we are gonna try something new we fail and end up with missionary or she riding me, any advice?

Hey so I love my gf so much and we have rlly good sex from what she’s expressed but she’s asked me to talk dirty and I don’t know what to say at all bc like the thought of saying “good girl” or something along that just feels so in authentic and not me it’s like when I’m having sex I’m focused on that and the thought of talking pulls me out. Pls idk what to say🙏?

Or is there too little sensation for the receiver/does it feel too weird in the giver's mouth?

Don't tell me it's better without a condom. I know it's better without a condom. My question is it still worth it?

I’ve been reflecting on the role of adult content in relationships and I'm curious about the experiences of other women here. For those who were initially hesitant but now feel comfortable with their partner watching porn—or even enjoy it yourselves—what did that journey look like for you? Was there a specific conversation or shift in perspective that helped you move from acceptance to genuine enjoyment? I’d love to hear about the boundaries you set and how it has impacted your relationship dynamic.

How important is PIV?