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I (26F) have been seeing this guy for a while and I think we'll finally sleep together soon. Problem is, it's my first time with a man. I've only been with women before, and he knows as much. Any tips that will make it less awkward, and pleasant for us both? We communicate very well so I'm not worried about that, I'm asking about, like, things that will make him feel good. Thank you!
Hey! After reaching my weight goal in January, something very unexpected happened, my whole existence shifted, and I sort of let myself go. I'm back to 67 kg (174 cm fyi) and looking forward to drop the 6 kg I gained.
I started a calorie deficit diet (1100 kcal) and home workouts again today! I'll keep you updated :) I know it's doable because I've done this before. I just hope I can stay motivated.
Hey everyone, my sister (mid 20s) just received her diagnosis and she's very allergic to histamine. She's pretty sad because there's a plethora of things that she can't eat anymore and she's overwhelmed by the amount of supplements, antibiotics and other things she has to take (12 pills, she said). Do you have any words of encouragement for her? Any tips? She's also lactose intolerant so she can't even have, like, yoghurt which supposedly helps. Also she's had what was believed to be rosacea on her face for two years and doctors believe that eliminating histamine will help with that, does anyone have a similar experience? Please and thank you.
Two red flags made for each other.
I don't even know if this is the right place to post but I'm depressed.
I [26F] have known this guy [25M] for two and a half yrs. We've always had great chemistry and sort of flirted with each other for a long time. Last year, between October and November, when I was away from the country, we explicitly flirted hard, and he initiated it. We talked constantly, every single day. He promised me great things, sex, love, etc. I was all in for it.
Then he dipped but he's had a lot of serious problems so I never blamed him for it. I never doubted him for a sec and actually I texted him every 3-4 days to make sure he was okay. For context, he stopped texting everyone, even our mutual friends (uni mates), he genuinely disappeared, went home-work only for three months. A couple of months ago We finally talked things out and he told me he got together with his ex, with whom he'd already broken up with a while back, because he loves her and wants to make it work. I said I accepted it, despite the pain (and told him this too) and that I was happy for him. Fyi she lives on the other side of the planet, permanently. They meet 2-3 times a year. We started seeing each other more frequently, he came over a few times (for context, we live in different cities and our friends are where I live, so I offered him a place to crash, no strings attached).
He started coming over for 3-4 days every two weeks, on the weekends, and it was a blast. I realised that I really love him, it's not just a crush. I've loved once, before, despite being in 3 less serious relationships, and what I feel for him is love. As easy as that. He's amazing to have around, he's fun and nice and kind and silly in all the ways that make me love him even more. The only issue is that he started flirting again, and I didn't hold back either. Mind you, at this point of the story, we're sleeping in two separate beds and all.
We talked again, multiple times. I told him that if he wants this game to end, he has to do it, because I'm in love with him so I don't have the means to pull back. He said he doesn't want what we have to end, because he likes me, and he doesn't want to lose me ("I'd die without you in my life.") but that "maybe, for the love of the other girl, it should."
And then, he dropped the bomb. When he was flirting with me, in Oct-Nov, he was already with her. I didn't know. He didn't tell me. When he told me, I was outraged, speechless. For the following two days I couldn't look at him in the eyes without shaking my head, and not because I was doing it on purpose. He offered to go stay at a friend of ours' but I told him there was no need to.
Eventually, he left to go back to his city, then came back the following time and somehow, we ended up sleeping in the same bed, cuddling all night. He kissed my face and neck and tummy, rubbed my back and arms and thighs, squeezed me hard. I reciprocated without a thought. He didn't even want to let me get up to pee. We were both in heaven. No sex, no making out. Every time we were about to, him on top of me, he'd tremble and go "I can't, I can't, because if I do this now, it won't be the last time."
I didn't pressure him.
He left again, and came back again. This time, apart from cuddling and touching each other, we kissed. He looked at me in the eyes, said "Just once.", shoved his tongue into my mouth and we made out. I let my hands wander, then he grabbed me by the neck (gently!!) and said "Enough."
Again, I didn't pressure him.
But I did tell him, the following day, that it was genuinely underwhelming. He was mortified that I didn't like it, and I said that what made no sense is that he told me enough when he initiated it. He said, however, "The 'enough' was to myself."
He knows he's cheated on his gf already. He knows. He said he did it the moment he started talking to me., so it's not like he thinks that if we don't have sex then it's not cheating. He knows it is. But he doesn't want to talk to her.
I asked him why, why won't he just break up with her. He said that he thinks that with her, it might be forever. I asked him if he's scared that with me it'd only be something occasional and he said "No, because if either or both of us only wanted sex, we would've gotten it already."
How can he think that it can be forever with his gf, if he's cheating on her with me? Again, I keep pressuring him, telling him to talk to her if he loves her, because she deserves to know. Let me be clear, I'd have never initiated any of this if I'd known that he was already with her, back in Oct-Nov. Also, they fight over stupid things.
I wish that my brain could just get over this and forget about him, but I can't, I can't. Unfortunately, and I say this with a lot of shame, but this is the most love I've had in years. He's using me and I'm using him. I told him that we could start dating, see how it goes, and I mean, we basically are already, anyway.
How the hell do I make this guy talk to his poor gf? Not "only" for me, but for her mainly. She hasn't done anything wrong despite being a bit toxic (but again I only know about her from things he and a friend of his & hers both told me) and she doesn't deserve this treatment.
Before you ask, I've been in an abusive full flagged relationship before (4 yrs on and off) so yes, my brain may be irreparably wired wrong.
Fuck. Fuck. This guy and I are in sync. He's attracted to me, I'm attracted to him. We talk for hours and hours until dawn, never get tired of each other's presence, get along well, laugh hard until our stomachs hurt, have great physical chemistry. If he pulled back, it'd be easier for me to do it. But he doesn't want to. He likes me, he said so multiple times, and showed it too.
What the fuck do I do? I keep dreaming about him, I wake up and smell his cologne, his breath, his skin. I feel his phantom touch on my body. Every little stupid thing reminds me of him. It's killing me but I can't let go.
I hope this is the right sub. I posted this on another sub and got abused verbally and honestly, please don't do that, there's genuinely no need to. Sorry and thank you.
Buongiorno.
L'ex inquilina che mi ha lasciato la stanza, una zozzona di prima categoria, ha lasciato qua in casa sacchi pieni di roba sua. A parte che la sua roba puzza di fumo (lo dico da fumatrice), ma sono passati due mesi ormai e nonostante le mie richieste non è mai passata a prendersi nulla. Posso buttare ciò che le appartiene? Mi sono veramente rotta le palle di avere le sue cose all'entrata, che già è tenuta male. Non c'è spazio.