r/queer

I'm talking specifically about turian, veldian and cinthean. Could someone explain to me the difference between the three? Or do they stand for the same definition and can be used interchangeably?

I don't know if I selected the right group.
I am looking for groups and pages or something like that in Australia for adults 30 ish who are questioning their identity. Call me a late bloomer or whatever 😂
I have little dating experience and am questioning my identity. I want to find chat groups where I can learn more about myself and see if this is where I fit.

We are from India and the Indian society is deeply patriarchal to a sense that you can see it float up in daily activities, lifestyle , conversation and it’s very very toxic to men who are actually not shitty. We have always been open about how patriarchy affects both me and him(now they) in our relationship. He told me he has always felt more than the man he’s been expected to me before and recently they came out to me as trans. I don’t have any gendered expectations from them only the normal expectations you’ll have from your partner. They told me they want to start wearing nail paints and eyeshadow too. I really love him or them idek what to say but I don’t feel comfortable with this and it’s not related to his identity but rather mine. I’m a straight woman. It is not about homophobia at all but a matter of personal preference. I don’t know what to feel or what to do pls someone help

So I’ve been writing a drama short film that’s about 5-6 minutes long and it centres on two women in a relationship. The film is telling a very human story but it just so happens to have two queer women in the leading roles, it wasn’t really intentional, it just kinda naturally came to be that way. I was curious if this is responsible of me to do? I’ll always make a constant effort to be as respectful as I can to any community that isn’t my own. A friend suggested I just make them friends instead but then that also feels almost more disrespectful? I’d love any thoughts and you can totally be as harsh as you want, I’m primarily making this post so that I can listen to your views and perspectives. Thanks!

Did you feel more affirmed when you legally changed your name? If not, what changed your mind?

Lesbianism, is it common?

Hey I was just wondering if anyone who is from or has lived in Japan could explain how common or uncommon lesbianism is. There’s this exchange student I’m really into and I don’t know if she is being flirtatious or if it is a cultural thing within Japanese society.

I am a little worried about using the queer label because I feel like I’m not queer enough? Like I’m worried about encroaching in other people’s spaces.

Up till 2024 Ive only been in hetero relationships. In 2025-2026 I was in a never meet LDR with a NB person. They wanted to transitioning for decades to an androgynous appearance and I came to the conclusion that as long as they had a penis I’d still be attracted to them regardless of what they want to transform to. Because to me PIV penetration is what I like. If they wanted implants (which they talked about a bunch. They also had no interest in removing their penis) I’d be ok.

I’ve been with women in a group play before and know I’m not attracted to vaginas.

Then we broke up. So now I’m like “am I queer?” Because I’m still attracted to hetero presenting men and my ex was hetero presenting because of their work. I tried swiping on other genders in person but I feel nervous but also not as attracted to them.

Anyways, last night I met a new friend and they asked me about my orientation and I stumbled over my answer. I said “I think I’m queer, but idk if I can use that title. So I’m just attracted to who I’m attracted too I guess?” And they invited me to hang in queer spaces to find out. So is that not a sufficient answer? What if I disappoint them by being like “I guess I do just like straight men.”

Like I do believe I am fluid in some aspect of attracted. My ex and my previous therapist said that me questioning my sexuality and saying “I’m attracted to who I’m attracted too” was queer enough and I’m over thinking labels.

Hello, I'm in a long distance relationship with another individual, we're very open about our feelings, and we try and talk when we get upset at one another.

For a while now, my partner has had depression and doesn't believe that they deserve happiness or love, and don't seem to have an actual reason as to why. They want me to hate them so they can die without hurting anyone. They have thought about different ways to end our relationship so they can die without people caring about them, and have thought about dying a lot

They have told me that they don't think therapy would work, and that they have tried it before, and are very against the idea in general, so therapy is off the table

Now obviously, I want to prevent them leaving me or dying, as much as possible, as each of those would end the same, from my understanding. It eats away at me constantly, and I'm scared that I'll wake up one day, and they won't be there. I feel like I've tried everything, so if anyone has any advice, please help

Iam 18 years old boy i had sex with a 3 men all of them were older than me but i liked their bodies and characters but when i had sex with them I wasn’t happy enough and something was hard to me

I’ve never had sex with girls, should i had sex with girl to take the right decision?

Idk if it’s important but I don’t have any feelings to both genders i just like their bodies