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Hello, I am a 39 year old Female, straight, married, Demisexual (please be respectful in DMs), no kids, I like to video game, social drink, cooking, music, watching movies/TV shows. I work from home, which I love.

I am only looking for myself, for a polyamory relationship. My husband and I date separately. I am sort of a big girl and hope you're okay with that.

Looking to meet someone between the ages of 30 - 45. I'm ok with long distance.

Married to a very supportive and open man. I'd like to get to know someone and see where it leads. My husband is my moral support so he is involved but if it gets to the bedroom it would be more for my comfort or a 2 on 1 scenario (you two on me) 😊

It was a perfect spring day here in London and here I am hiding away and writing a personal and on a bank holiday Monday on Reddit. In my defence, I'm very ginger so this approach to finding a partner is easier on my pasty Irish skin.

Late thirties, Irish guy living in the UK for the past couple of years after moving here from Sweden. I'm funny, tall, educated, have a successful professional career, clearly in very modest too and a real asset to any dinner party. I like to cook (let's swap recipes and pics of what we have made for dinner) discuss current affairs, my love of basketball, watching rugby even if my bones are now too old to play rugby. This year I hope to learn Swedish and run a marathon but may just settle for watching the Wire for the first time.

I've found myself at something of a loose end of late and it would be nice to have someone to while away and evening chatting with. I work in tech for a FAANG with demanding hours so it would be great if you could help keep me entertained log into the night. On the plus side I travel often with work and in N America quite a bit so if you're there, great!

I find all sorts of people exciting and engaging so no particular 'type' that I'm looking for beyond hoping you're 30+, have your shit together and in a time zone that allows us to get to know each other. I'm definitely less of a nerd than most people posting here, though I'll think it's cute if you are (you might have to convert me to the cause). Please don't be a crazy right wing person but I guess that's pretty unlikely here.

in terms of polyamory, I have plenty of experience (both positive and heartbreaking) but am currently single. Whilst I don't have a pressing need for multiple partners right now, I find my best relationships have come when my partner does. generally though, I'm pretty open and communicative and hope you are too. happy to discuss the finer details away from this terrible personal ad.

I can certainly share face pics/voice notes/PIN codes/mother's maiden name/phone calls when the time comes.

Say hi!

Hi everyone! Are you a passionate person? I'm feeling an itch to hear some interesting and entertaining talks! I want to hear about something you're intensely interested in. I know it's quite a way to lead, but I find that my favourite people have intense passion and drive for what interests them. I'm sure that everyone finds passion and knowledge attractive, but I know I do! Makes up for my mediocre looks as an ex once told me! 😂💀

(If you know a ton about the outdoors, travel, diy car care, I am especially interested!) Confessedly I do the ‘little guys’, your sheepish ways and interests and goofiness are so cute and endearing! I like children, and if you're CF because you just can't stand little people, we will likely not get along

Please DO: Be over 21 (older people, all gender identities and expressions also welcome!) Feel free to show me your hottest takes, tell me a bit about yourself! Not sure what to say, what's your occupation? What did you have for lunch today? Do you have any cute pets? Fave album? Fave part of yourself?

Wow that’s a lot of ramble! I’m so sorry! Here to make up for it m, my friend took this supposedly cute pic of me from the weekend 🙈😂

Insatiable handsome professional with a masculine Dad-bod, a talented tongue, and a THICK c*ck looking for a frisky freaky female for long-term poly relationship. Want to be build something serious...

Able to host, so please be local to South Florida (no online-only or endless chats) and mobile...

VERY kink-friendly, love roleplay and all the mental foreplay that comes along with being a Daddy in search of a "good girl"

Looking for something without traditional labels, open to collaring if the chemistry is there...

Always available daytime, 50/50 weekends and evenings as I am an actual Daddy in the streets, and a "Oh, Daddy" in the sheets...

Don't be shy, slide in my DMs and let me get in your head before getting up your skirt...

🔥"wont hurt a fly" gang only🔥

Poly and partnered, nature obsessed, witchcraft, i love studying different spiritualities and rituals i find it theraputic im going to college for dirt science, culture anthropalagy trying to major in agroecology, botany eventually ;) im a huge dork for deep convo freindships or takeing it slow, something casual or fwb's is fine but i do want something romantic eventually as i am a freaky hopeless romantic :3 im 420 freindly but im trying to get my class A so im sober rn but love psychodelics and ill say it again kindness/gentleness is a must other than that come as you are c: i have peirceings and want more and i want tattoos and associate myself with alt communities

Video games: Warframe, Fortnite, Monster Hunter, Dark Souls, Towers of Aghasba.

My husband and I just recently started our journey on poly. I have met some amazing people so far and I want to continue to do so.

My husband and I have been together for almost 11 years married for 9. We have talked about this for years off and on. I just recently became ok with who I was and am ready for this journey.

I am not looking for a quick hook up. I want to meet someone who I connect with. I’m nerdy, I craft a lot, I play video games. I do all the home bound hobbit stuff. I don’t like people 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️.

I would love to just get to know someone without the sexual talk, just truly talk to someone. If that’s for you an looking for more, hit me up. 😉

Hello! I'm Fig! Looking for connections in and around Tennessee or anywhere truly!

**Plus-sized, bubbly, and in my late-20s (27, to be exact).** I’m chatty with the right people and always up for a good conversation!

I entered education to avoid being a starving artist (although I’m still dreaming of the day I get to guide museum tours—someday my ears will recover from the chaos of the classroom, right?). But I primarily teach preschool these days so ask me about the chaos that is today!

**Weird art hobbies?** Definitely! I’m into kite flying, crochet, basket weaving, and bookbinding. Recently, I’ve been itching to try punch needle art. Haven't picked up the crochet hook in a second but wanna make a sweater for my cat here soon maybe to protect him from the cold apartment

**Well-read and articulate?** Sort of! I’ve read so many research papers, my eyes might never recover. But I also love flipping through books full of pictures because sometimes, a picture really does say more than words. I'm also trying to put my kindle back into use reading some books that I've started and haven't finished to get back into that hobby as well. My thoughts move faster than my mouth (or fingers), so I tend to trip over my words or typos—fair warning!

**Steady, confident, and a bit unshakable?** Yep! I’ve worked hard on my mental health, and it’s paying off. I’m all about advocating for mental wellness and self-care—because, let’s face it, we could all use a little more of that in today’s world.

**Non-traditional for a mid-20s, artsy type with a bit of small dog energy?** I’m here for it! About five years ago, I made some adjustments to my life to enhance my personal growth—been loving it so far. My partner and I are exploring connections and friendships, and I’m excited to get back into the scene after focusing on school. (By the way, tell me your favorite fun fact when you message me, and I’ll share one of mine!)

**Queer activist upgrade**: I’m passionate about supporting and uplifting my community. As an agender person (all pronouns are fine), I lean femme but love exploring androgynous looks too. Also, I’m demisexual, so please be respectful in the DMs!

**Build info:**

* A bit under 6’ (I like to wear shoes that add a little height, but I enjoy being on the shorter side too—gotta love what you’ve got, right?).

* Blue eyes with central heterochromia, so they can shift in color depending on the light. I used to think they were green, and only sometimes blue.

* Long dark blonde hair with highlights, sides shaved (but not in a death hawk style). I enjoy braiding it to show off whatever design my stylist has shaved in this month. Fun fact: My hair’s been steadily graying for the past couple of years, and I’m loving it. Trying to use my highlights as a transition!

**IRL and online experience:** I’ve been around the block, but still open to trying new things, exploring different scenes, and building trust slowly and safely.

Feel free to reach out with any questions—posts like this don’t always cover everything, so I’m happy to chat more!

Looking forward to hearing from you soon!

I am a digital nomad, in France/UK for about half the year and other places the rest. I am looking for a lover who wants the poly lifestyle. For me it means that you want full support for a deeper connection with another woman (well, or man). This is ideal for someone who also works remotely or wants the focus on domestic role (not looking for a sub) or sport/nature. I am fit, into sport, rasied horses, have short hair/sometimes shaved head. Very open minded, international, liberal. Easier if you are from Europe but not impossible. It's more about your intention behind poly life (either multiple relationships or threesome relationship). If interested, please write something about yourself, not just hi.

Hi everyone. I’m a 31-year-old guy going through a bit of a transitional period in life, and I thought I’d try reaching out here.

A few days ago I met someone through a post like this on Reddit, and we developed a really meaningful connection. We talked regularly, shared thoughts and feelings, and it became an important space for me. Recently that connection ended, and I’ve been reflecting on why.

I think part of the issue is that I’m someone who naturally leans toward emotional openness and intensity in conversations. I don’t always draw clear lines between what is considered “just friendship” and something more, and that can sometimes create mismatched expectations. In this case, I believe the other person was looking for something more clearly defined as friendship, while for me the connection grew in a more open and emotionally close direction, and that may have been overwhelming or uncomfortable for them. I genuinely regret that.

Because of this, I want to be more transparent from the start. I’m someone who values being able to share thoughts and feelings freely, without feeling that there is a strict ceiling on emotional closeness. At the same time, I’m trying to be more mindful of pacing and of other people’s boundaries.

I also want to be honest about something else: I don’t always relate to traditional gender roles or expectations in a typical way, and I can sometimes feel confused about the “unspoken limits” that people assume exist, especially in interactions between men and women. This is something I’m still figuring out, and it may influence how I connect with people.

Right now my life is somewhat in limbo. I’m dealing with Crohn’s disease, have gone through several surgeries recently, and I currently have a temporary ileostomy. There have also been a lot of changes in terms of cities and general life stability, so things feel a bit suspended.

A few things about me:

I’m a philologist and I enjoy literature, philosophy and history.

I also like Nintendo, One Piece and Iron Maiden.

I enjoy both deep conversations and humor.

I am pansexual and non-binary, but everyone reads me as a man and I am aware of it (although, as I said, I feel very alienated from traditional gender roles).

I’m currently in a polyamorous relationship, so I value honesty, openness, and non-exclusivity in connections.

I’m not specifically looking for something romantic, but I’m also not completely closed off to it. What matters most to me is the quality of the connection. I’m equally happy with a meaningful friendship where there is trust, emotional closeness, and room for vulnerability, without pressure, labels, or expectations.

Distance is absolutely not an issue.

If you’re someone who is comfortable with emotional openness, but also able to communicate your own boundaries clearly, I think we might get along well.

Feel free to send me a message.

Polyamory isn’t the constant excitement people assume it is—sometimes, it’s surprisingly quiet. Especially when you’re surrounded by a mostly monogamous world.

I’m 35, UK-based, and poly isn’t just a lifestyle for me—it’s part of who I am. I’ve tried to see things differently, but I know I’m at my best when I can connect openly, honestly, and without limits.

Right now, I’m looking to build something meaningful—whether that starts as conversation, shared curiosity, or something that grows naturally from there.

A bit about me: I’m an entomologist (yes, I can talk about insects for hours), a writer, and someone who loves game design and creative thinking. I’m drawn to people who are passionate about something—tell me what lights you up.

I’ll be honest—physical connection and touch haven’t always come easily in my world, and I know I’m not alone in that. I value patience, understanding, and people who are open to exploring that side of connection at their own pace, without pressure.

If you’re poly, curious, or just someone who values depth, warmth, and real conversation—I’d genuinely like to hear from you.

And if you’ve read this far… tell me your favourite animal.

Hi, hello and welcome to my casting circle.

I’m a witchy, dice-hoarding, tarot-reading human who misses the kind of love that feels devotional. Not convenient. Not halfway. Not something you pick up when you’re lonely and put down when it requires effort.

I practice ethical non-monogamy and am married to my nesting partner. I’m not looking to “fill time” or collect fleeting connections. I’m here for something that has the potential to grow into real, intentional relationships. The kind where we choose each other, consistently, without hesitation.

Think less “breadcrumb texting” and more “I would burn the world down for you, darling. Shall we dance in the ashes?”

Hearts > Zip Code. But effort, presence, and consistency are non-negotiable.

My Vibe:

Somewhere between candlelit rituals ,chaotic D&D energy and get off my lawn elderly lady in comfy clothes. Dark lipstick, soft heart, sarcastic. A little dramatic. I believe love should feel like a mutual obsession in the healthiest way. Adoration, not ambiguity.

My accent gets thicker when I’m tired, tipsy, or passionately defending a perfectly valid dice roll. Cats run my household and, honestly, most of my decisions.

I’m also disabled. That is part of my reality. It’s not always easy, but it’s real, and I don’t believe in hiding the truth to make myself more “palatable.” If we connect, I’m happy to share more about what that looks like day-to-day.

About Me:

• Plus-sized, witchy, sarcastic, emotionally aware

• Demisexual, demiromantic, pansexual attraction builds through connection, consistency, and intention

• 420-friendly, gender-inclusive, lover of guillotines (the aesthetic, mostly 👀)

• Into true crime, video games, tabletop games, smut, and conversations that actually go somewhere

• I value communication, follow-through, and people who mean what they say

What I’m Looking For:

• Emotionally present humans (no NPC energy—I want co-authors, not background characters)

• Please be in the range of 26–46

• People who understand ENM doesn’t automatically mean casual or disposable

• Humor that can be dark but never cruel

• Consistency not constant messaging, but no disappearing acts either

• Someone who wants to build something, not just talk about it

• Eventual progression into calls, shared activities, dates, visits if we both feel it growing

Bonus points if you understand spoon theory or live with chronic conditions you’ll already speak a language I value deeply.

A Note on Attraction:

Physical attraction matters. I’m happy to exchange SFW photos once there’s mutual comfort. I prefer clarity over guessing games.

I’m not here to wonder if we’re actually into each other.

How to Message Me:

If your message is just “hey,” it will disappear into the void.

Tell me about yourself.

What kind of polyamory you practice (or want to).

A favorite band. A place that feels like magic to you.

Something you’re passionate about.

Give me something real to respond to.

I don’t do lukewarm. I don’t do almost. I don’t do “maybe someday.”

I want a love that is chosen openly, consistently, and without fear.

Something a little intense, a little soft, a little dangerous in the way it matters.

If you’re looking for the same… shoot your shot and may the odds be ever in your favor.

Hey 🙂

I’m a 25-year-old guy from Germany looking for something genuine that can grow into a real relationship. The focus for me is building connection, trust, and emotional closeness first — everything else should come naturally from that foundation.

About me:

• Tall, fit, gym is part of my lifestyle

• Stable career, emotionally grounded, life in order

• Calm, affectionate, and supportive personality

• I value communication, loyalty, and feeling safe with each other

Relationship-wise:

I’m open to cuckolding dynamics and a one-sided open relationship, but only once a strong relationship exists. I’m not here to jump straight into kink — I want partnership, chemistry, shared life energy, and mutual trust before anything else.

What I’m looking for:

• A woman interested in building something real

• Open-minded and honest

• Curious about unconventional relationship models, but also values emotional intimacy

• Someone who wants connection, not just quick excitement

If you’re looking for a relationship that’s emotionally real, communicative, and a little different from the norm — let’s talk and see where things go 🙂

I'm a 22 year old trans woman living in the closet in the aforementioned area. All of my friends know and none of my family know.

I am looking for a relationship with lots of communication and healthy boundaries where I can get my physical affection needs met while not having to worry too much about other needs. Physical Affection is my jam, I go crazy for it! Other intimacy is not. I have never done the deed and I don't plan on it. I'm not unopposed, but as with all things it would definitely need to be discussed if it would or could become a potential problem.

About myself: Elementary Ed major, 5'6, white, don't work out much (trying to change that!), nerd for basically anything and everything. I both know a lot and forget things very easily. My social skills aren't very good at all, but I am steadily improving my social skills. I am not the best but I am functional! I have been in 2 major relationships in my life, and 2 minor ones that didn't last very long (5 months and 1 month respectively). The latter of my minor ones was a poly relationship involving two friends which ultimately fell apart due to a rapid breakdown in communication. Let's please work together as a team and as communicative adults to ensure that kind of thing doesn't happen! I am very loving and doting, and I try my very best to be thoughtful all the time. A bit moody sometimes, and very easily tired.

I also have AS (Ankylosing Spondylitis), which is technically a disability, but functionally I am able to live a mostly normal life on biologics like Humira. It shouldn't be a problem :)

My interests/hobbies: F1/racing generally, coin and banknote collecting, video games, MOVIES AND SHOWS 😍, international relations, foreign politics, history, cooking, baking, homebrewing mead, and others that I can't remember right now.

Interests/hobbies I'd love to learn with/do with you!: Gardening vegetables and spices, learning basically survival skills, CPR certification, working out, and others I can't remember right now.

Current favorite movie: KPOP Demon Hunters

Current favorite live action TV show: The Pitt

Favorite kind of coffee: anything iced involving caramel!

Favorite physical act: cuddling while watching TV‼️

First date requests: somewhere public and fun but quiet (perfect for fun conversation but not so public as to be extremely loud or so private as to be potentially dangerous). Aquariums, museums, and art galleries are all great options, but if you feel so inclined, I am always open to suggestions of different ideas.

A neutral place (as in neither of us live in this exact area) for first date safety's sake is not a request but a requirement!! I am not going to just up and tell you where exactly I live, anymore than I'd expect you to.

If you're interested and have questions/want to talk to and with me, please DM me! I may not see it immediately, I don't use Reddit a ton and have never used the private chat system, but I can learn how to!

So the title pretty much gets the gist of things across. Looking to add some people to my friends list that I can chat with, get nerdy, (maybe flirty?), on a regular basis. I'm a pretty nerdy type of person, and up front can be a bit on the more quiet and reserved side, but once I'm more comfortable and get a good read on someone, I open up quite a bit.

To expand on aforementioned nerdy stuff, I tend to dabble in video games, tabletop games, D&D, and a bit of MTG. And Lego. Many, many Lego. I'm totally down to talk about any and all of it, or hell even if it's not on my list and you just want to nerd out about something? Tell me all about it!

I'm in the EST time zone, and am around from 7ish when I wake up in the morning, until typically around midnight, so if you're around during that window, you qualify! Weekend tends to be a bit wider of a window, as I'm very much a night owl when my schedule allows it.

Since it's a factor for some people, I am single, but I have no preference on your status. As far as type of people, I'm open to any and all walks of life, ages, etc. As far as what I'm after, chat buddies, friendships, flirtationships, just however things work out, it's all good!

Please, some semblance of effort in the response? "Hi how are you" does not give warm and fuzzies or any hope of a halfway decent conversation. The sooner we can connect elsewhere (discord preferably) the better. As mentioned, reddit notifications are terrible at notifying.

Hello there :) My name is Vela, I am 26 and I am a stay at home stepmom with some free time. I am looking for someone who wants to savor the joy in life, who doesn’t mind getting wild and can let loose… but who is also able to stand in their own and has a strong sense of self.

I am in Texas and am in the central time zone. I prefer to communicate over Reddit and switch messaging apps once i am more comfortable with a person. I am very open to messages and any questions.

I myself am more gentle and try to take care of my partner. I care deeply about people and value good communication. I'm personally a very open and honest person and would hope to have the same from you. looks and such come second. I want someone who I can be open and honest to, who will be able to also be vulnerable to me. I will give you all my support, affection, and emotions assuming you can do the same.

I have lots of free time at home, and enjoy texting throughout the day. I love to cook, clean, and cuddle 🥰. I spend a lot of my time looking after the house, and taking care of small ones when they are not at school. Music is one of my biggest interests and I can spend a whole day listening to the same music, or discovering new hits. I do also play some games, but haven’t found many people to play with so I don’t much.

If I seem like a good fit for you please message me or start a chat on reddit. I should be available for a while and will readily reply!! Thanks a bunch for reading :)

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My names Moon i am 35yrs old living 30 mins west of Pittsburgh with my partner (date separately) and our 6 pets (5 cats 1 dog) soo i hope you love animals!!!

What i am looking for - preferably a 2nd partner for myself who can chat with me throughout the day/evening. However that's not mandatory. I would love to have Daddy/Dom that wouldn't mind getting me on a sleep schedule at some point!! I really could use some structure and rules in my life.. cus i am pretty crappie lately at taking care of myself!! I would love someone funny and that has a playful energy since i am a brat... It is important you like horror movies or at the very least will deal with watching them for me!!

I want someone who will want to get to know all of me first.. my three sides are being an adult as well as a little/middle and sub.. I hope you enjoy someone clingy and will want to meet in person but chatting online should at the very least lead to phone conversations when comfortable.

I don't like to rush into anything which means you'll need to wait for nsfw conversation to come up. It's not off the table i just need to trust people first!!

About me - I am pretty shy offline in the real world i keep to myself for the most part and only have one friend i talk to on a daily basis. Most my days are spent taking care of the pets and house or reading.. I would like to think i am pretty funny but most importantly i am very loving and caring and do my best to make my partner(s) feel safe, happy, and important! I am the type of person who will make sure you see a Doctor if need or who will talk to you on days that you want to shut down and do my best to pick you up! I just want to be a small light in my partners life when the world seems against them.

I believe that communication is important and talking through our feelings (even if its anger) should not be taken lightly.. I am not the type to end the day in an argument.

I dunno what all to say but i hope this post is good enough to catch someone's eye!

I am looking to meet potential partners in person so it be nice that you are in the states and are between the ages of 27-47!

Please tell me a bit about you! Have a good weekend! 🥰

I really am free tonight to watch something at my place so if you are adventurous let me know and we can meet somewhere public first for safety reasons and quick vibe check.

I am looking to meet someone new but really want a movie buddy too. I love watching movies, cuddling, kissing and maybe more. I want something long term and hopefully you are close to Campbell so we can meet regularly. I am poly but have mostly infrequent partners. I just tested last week, ddf, had a vasectomy, and open to some fun tonight if you have recent tests too otherwise maybe just making out or just a movie if you want to go slow.

I am 6'1, 180lbs, athletic, white, dark hair, very active, love to cook, wine, cocktails, games of all types.

Hey there. I'm a 32 year old guy from the USA, although you can be from anywhere. I'm looking for a clingy sub I can get to know and form a Dom/sub relationship with. I would like to talk for a little and get to know each other before jumping into any nsfw things. I find having a connection makes the sexual things more fun. I would love an intense dynamic that is more then just sexual. I want to control you all the time, in both sfw and nsfw ways. I love having control over someone and choosing things like their outfits, what they do in their free time, when they orgasm, and much more. I love a clingy sub who likes a lot of attention and wants to talk to me as much as possible.

As a Dom I would say I'm more of a gentle loving daddy Dom who likes to make my sub feel good. I can be mean and cruel if that's something you're into or if the situation calls for it. But I'd say I'm mostly kind and loving. I've been a Dom for about 8 years now and have a lot of experience both online and irl. I'm a very kinky and open minded person who loves to help others explore their submissive side.

Physically I'm 6'3 and 190 pounds. I have an athletic body and work out a lot so I'm in good shape. I have brown hair and green eyes. I'm a chill and laid back person who loves to laugh and joke around. You'd never know I was into kinky things unless I told you.

If you're interested in chatting more send me a message. I'm open to hearing from anyone. Don't be shy I promise I'm chill.

Hey 💕

We’re a fun, established couple (both 38) looking to add the right woman to our world — not just anyone, but someone who really fits our energy.

I’d love to meet a girl who enjoys getting dressed up and going out — heels, cute outfits, feeling confident and turning heads a little. Dinner dates, laughs, and good vibes are definitely our thing.

But just as important… I want someone who has that soft, affectionate, slightly needy side. The kind of girl who likes attention, closeness, and being cared for — and isn’t afraid to show it.

Bonus points if you’re a bit nerdy too 😊 If you’re into anime, cozy nights in, or just geeking out together, you’ll fit right in with us.

We’re drama-free, respectful, and genuinely looking to build something fun, exciting, and meaningful with the right person.

If you feel like you could be that girl, don’t be shy… come say hi 💖