u/Titus__Groan

Hi everyone. I’m a 31-year-old guy going through a bit of a transitional period in life, and I thought I’d try reaching out here.

A few days ago I met someone through a post like this on Reddit, and we developed a really meaningful connection. We talked regularly, shared thoughts and feelings, and it became an important space for me. Recently that connection ended, and I’ve been reflecting on why.

I think part of the issue is that I’m someone who naturally leans toward emotional openness and intensity in conversations. I don’t always draw clear lines between what is considered “just friendship” and something more, and that can sometimes create mismatched expectations. In this case, I believe the other person was looking for something more clearly defined as friendship, while for me the connection grew in a more open and emotionally close direction, and that may have been overwhelming or uncomfortable for them. I genuinely regret that.

Because of this, I want to be more transparent from the start. I’m someone who values being able to share thoughts and feelings freely, without feeling that there is a strict ceiling on emotional closeness. At the same time, I’m trying to be more mindful of pacing and of other people’s boundaries.

I also want to be honest about something else: I don’t always relate to traditional gender roles or expectations in a typical way, and I can sometimes feel confused about the “unspoken limits” that people assume exist, especially in interactions between men and women. This is something I’m still figuring out, and it may influence how I connect with people.

Right now my life is somewhat in limbo. I’m dealing with Crohn’s disease, have gone through several surgeries recently, and I currently have a temporary ileostomy. There have also been a lot of changes in terms of cities and general life stability, so things feel a bit suspended.

A few things about me:

I’m a philologist and I enjoy literature, philosophy and history.

I also like Nintendo, One Piece and Iron Maiden.

I enjoy both deep conversations and humor.

I am pansexual and non-binary, but everyone reads me as a man and I am aware of it (although, as I said, I feel very alienated from traditional gender roles).

I’m currently in a polyamorous relationship, so I value honesty, openness, and non-exclusivity in connections.

I’m not specifically looking for something romantic, but I’m also not completely closed off to it. What matters most to me is the quality of the connection. I’m equally happy with a meaningful friendship where there is trust, emotional closeness, and room for vulnerability, without pressure, labels, or expectations.

Distance is absolutely not an issue.

If you’re someone who is comfortable with emotional openness, but also able to communicate your own boundaries clearly, I think we might get along well.

Feel free to send me a message.

Hi everyone. I’m a 31-year-old guy going through a bit of a transitional period in life, and I thought I’d try reaching out here.

A few days ago I met someone through a post like this on Reddit, and we developed a really meaningful connection. We talked regularly, shared thoughts and feelings, and it became an important space for me. Recently that connection ended, and I’ve been reflecting on why.

I think part of the issue is that I’m someone who naturally leans toward emotional openness and intensity in conversations. I don’t always draw clear lines between what is considered “just friendship” and something more, and that can sometimes create mismatched expectations. In this case, I believe the other person was looking for something more clearly defined as friendship, while for me the connection grew in a more open and emotionally close direction, and that may have been overwhelming or uncomfortable for them. I genuinely regret that.

Because of this, I want to be more transparent from the start. I’m someone who values being able to share thoughts and feelings freely, without feeling that there is a strict ceiling on emotional closeness. At the same time, I’m trying to be more mindful of pacing and of other people’s boundaries.

I also want to be honest about something else: I don’t always relate to traditional gender roles or expectations in a typical way, and I can sometimes feel confused about the “unspoken limits” that people assume exist, especially in interactions between men and women. This is something I’m still figuring out, and it may influence how I connect with people.

Right now my life is somewhat in limbo. I’m dealing with Crohn’s disease, have gone through several surgeries recently, and I currently have a temporary ileostomy. There have also been a lot of changes in terms of cities and general life stability, so things feel a bit suspended.

A few things about me:

I’m a philologist and I enjoy literature, philosophy and history.

I also like Nintendo, One Piece and Iron Maiden.

I enjoy both deep conversations and humor.

I am pansexual and non-binary, but everyone reads me as a man and I am aware of it (although, as I said, I feel very alienated from traditional gender roles).

I’m currently in a polyamorous relationship, so I value honesty, openness, and non-exclusivity in connections.

I’m not specifically looking for something romantic, but I’m also not completely closed off to it. What matters most to me is the quality of the connection. I’m equally happy with a meaningful friendship where there is trust, emotional closeness, and room for vulnerability, without pressure, labels, or expectations.

Distance is absolutely not an issue.

If you’re someone who is comfortable with emotional openness, but also able to communicate your own boundaries clearly, I think we might get along well.

Feel free to send me a message.