u/Additional_Union_478

I'm a 22 year old trans woman living in the closet in the aforementioned area. All of my friends know and none of my family know.

I am looking for a relationship with lots of communication and healthy boundaries where I can get my physical affection needs met while not having to worry too much about other needs. Physical Affection is my jam, I go crazy for it! Other intimacy is not. I have never done the deed and I don't plan on it. I'm not unopposed, but as with all things it would definitely need to be discussed if it would or could become a potential problem.

About myself: Elementary Ed major, 5'6, white, don't work out much (trying to change that!), nerd for basically anything and everything. I both know a lot and forget things very easily. My social skills aren't very good at all, but I am steadily improving my social skills. I am not the best but I am functional! I have been in 2 major relationships in my life, and 2 minor ones that didn't last very long (5 months and 1 month respectively). The latter of my minor ones was a poly relationship involving two friends which ultimately fell apart due to a rapid breakdown in communication. Let's please work together as a team and as communicative adults to ensure that kind of thing doesn't happen! I am very loving and doting, and I try my very best to be thoughtful all the time. A bit moody sometimes, and very easily tired.

I also have AS (Ankylosing Spondylitis), which is technically a disability, but functionally I am able to live a mostly normal life on biologics like Humira. It shouldn't be a problem :)

My interests/hobbies: F1/racing generally, coin and banknote collecting, video games, MOVIES AND SHOWS 😍, international relations, foreign politics, history, cooking, baking, homebrewing mead, and others that I can't remember right now.

Interests/hobbies I'd love to learn with/do with you!: Gardening vegetables and spices, learning basically survival skills, CPR certification, working out, and others I can't remember right now.

Current favorite movie: KPOP Demon Hunters

Current favorite live action TV show: The Pitt

Favorite kind of coffee: anything iced involving caramel!

Favorite physical act: cuddling while watching TV‼️

First date requests: somewhere public and fun but quiet (perfect for fun conversation but not so public as to be extremely loud or so private as to be potentially dangerous). Aquariums, museums, and art galleries are all great options, but if you feel so inclined, I am always open to suggestions of different ideas.

A neutral place (as in neither of us live in this exact area) for first date safety's sake is not a request but a requirement!! I am not going to just up and tell you where exactly I live, anymore than I'd expect you to.

If you're interested and have questions/want to talk to and with me, please DM me! I may not see it immediately, I don't use Reddit a ton and have never used the private chat system, but I can learn how to!

I'm a 22 year old trans woman living in the closet in the aforementioned area. All of my friends know and none of my family know.

I am looking for a relationship with lots of communication and healthy boundaries where I can get my physical affection needs met while not having to worry too much about other needs. Physical Affection is my jam, I go crazy for it! Other intimacy is not. I have never done the deed and I don't plan on it. I'm not unopposed, but as with all things it would definitely need to be discussed if it would or could become a potential problem.

About myself: Elementary Ed major, 5'6, white, don't work out much (trying to change that!), nerd for basically anything and everything. I both know a lot and forget things very easily. My social skills aren't very good at all, but I am steadily improving my social skills. I am not the best but I am functional! I have been in 2 major relationships in my life, and 2 minor ones that didn't last very long (5 months and 1 month respectively). The latter of my minor ones was a poly relationship involving two friends which ultimately fell apart due to a rapid breakdown in communication. Let's please work together as a team and as communicative adults to ensure that kind of thing doesn't happen! I am very loving and doting, and I try my very best to be thoughtful all the time. A bit moody sometimes, and very easily tired.

I also have AS (Ankylosing Spondylitis), which is technically a disability, but functionally I am able to live a mostly normal life on biologics like Humira. It shouldn't be a problem :)

My interests/hobbies: F1/racing generally, coin and banknote collecting, video games, MOVIES AND SHOWS 😍, international relations, foreign politics, history, cooking, baking, homebrewing mead, and others that I can't remember right now.

Interests/hobbies I'd love to learn with/do with you!: Gardening vegetables and spices, learning basically survival skills, CPR certification, working out, and others I can't remember right now.

Current favorite movie: KPOP Demon Hunters

Current favorite live action TV show: The Pitt

Favorite kind of coffee: anything iced involving caramel!

Favorite physical act: cuddling while watching TV‼️

First date requests: somewhere public and fun but quiet (perfect for fun conversation but not so public as to be extremely loud or so private as to be potentially dangerous). Aquariums, museums, and art galleries are all great options, but if you feel so inclined, I am always open to suggestions of different ideas.

A neutral place (as in neither of us live in this exact area) for first date safety's sake is not a request but a requirement!! I am not going to just up and tell you where exactly I live, anymore than I'd expect you to.

If you're interested and have questions/want to talk to and with me, please DM me! I may not see it immediately, I don't use Reddit a ton and have never used the private chat system, but I can learn how to!

If you check my profile you'll see a similar but more ambiguous and questionable incident recently. I feel that is important context to what I will be later saying.

I was at a friend's birthday party yesterday in a city roughly 3 hours away, and, as a part of that, another friend and I carpooled together to save on gas, with me driving there and back. The Party was immensely fun, a great time to be sure. Driving sucks, but my friend and I had a great time talking mostly uninterrupted on the way down while she ran her playlist of songs I hadn't heard before

We were heading back to her apartment to drop her off after the party wrapped up, and were about halfway done with the mini-trek, when she asked me a exceedingly odd and, as it felt for me, random question. Unfortunately my memory is quite poor, and I can't remember exactly what we were talking about before, but I do remember how surprised I was by it and how it caught me completely off guard.

She asked me, "Do you ever get the feeling like you want to make out with with someone?" Mind you, given the recent incident with someone else asking me an odd question, I knew exactly what was going on, and how to best handle it. I answered honestly and directly, saying (not quoting myself exactly here) "I mean yeah, sometimes, but I try not to think about it."

Here's some additional context that does need bearing in mind. For one thing, this friend and I aren't necessarily close. These days we mostly send each other memes about The Pitt and talk about the most recent Pitt episode she watched since I am usually more up-to-date. In that singular sense we talk more now than we typically do, which is not very much. I asked her out once in high school, got rejected, and I left it at that. I also have a tendency to overthink and misunderstand questions and intent behind them, to take things too literally, and to become infatuated with people quickly. I was actively driving, and thinking about that kind of thing was far from my mind. She got out of a turbulent relationship with a coworker about 4 months ago, and I got out of a mutually ended one year long relationship over a month ago in mid-February.

The night also ended without much fanfare. I dropped her off, we hugged goodbye, I drove home, and crashed into bed after a quiet dinner.

My primary concern is that, with that context, this is genuinely a massive problem that I don't know how to fix or solve. Nothing has changed about me or any of these people, but it cannot be denied that the only common denominator here is me. I am getting therapy now, and now that this kind of thing has happened twice? I need it more than ever. Because there is no world where I suddenly become very attractive to the exact kind of people and people I am attracted to. Clearly this is a matter of me experiencing a desire for a feeling of romance in my life again after a breakup and what I'm really asking is what I should tell my therapist about this.

I mainly ask because I struggle to not ramble and to stay precisely on only needed topics during therapy, and I need to keep things concise since sessions are one hour. I fully understand that this is fully a me problem and only I can fix it, and fundamentally I need an expert's mind on this to help me fix this, but I need to ensure that I say only what needs to be said come the next session.