r/plural

We've recently taken over the moderatorship of /r/Plurals30andUp! We're an older (practically 40) system that wants to connect with people closer to our age, but the subreddit had been abandoned by a system that had since deleted their account. If you're interested in joining and are bodily over the age of 30, we'd love to have you. :)

Systems of all origins are welcome, whether you're trauma-origin, endogenic, tulpamancers or mixed-origin!

~J. of the Pantextual System (not our usual system name, but we use it here on Reddit)

We need to get rid of her immediately. She did something really bad, and it was extremely harmful, and she even shared the memory with everyone including our little. We need her gone ASAP.

Does anyone know of any way we can get rid of her or somewhat suppress her for about a month until we have time to go back to therapy and get her handled medically. We are a traumagenic system, so idk if that changes how to go about this but we need her gone or disabled ASAP.

PLEASE HELP!!!

We are not overreacting, but we don’t want to share what she did as it’s actually really bad/ harmful to us and we don’t wanna think about it, but I the host promise it really is bad.

I thought i was faking for such a big while due to lack of amnesia and then i realised... I have loads od amnesia bro 😭✨

We're a suspected OSDD 1B system with pretty good memory sharing thingy, but i realised how foggy all my memories when another alter is fronting are so much more foggy than i originally realised cause i have to like... Well how i imagine it is pushing past fog and the harder i push, the more i uncover, but it's also hard and gets me disassociated too.

We also have a shit ton of grey out amnesia, specifically from anything before the age of 9 and during holidays. Me and the alter that fronts around friends have pretty good memory sharing but like i said, it's the fog thing, but we have a separate 2 alters that usually front during holidays and i can almost never remember anything from holidays.

Just thought that was interesting, especially since when i first started researching stuff, i thought "how could someone not realise they have amnesia?" and ended up being one of the people lol. Have a good day everyone and take care of yourselves!

First of all, i would like to state that i know i don't have to label ourselves if we don't want to, but personally, it helps me get a sense of stuff. Until now we've said both of them are both, along with their other jobs. I will only say the initial of their names which are R (me :P, she/he/they) and D (she/her)

D is besides the host/co host, a social alter, a persecutor and an academic. She fronts while being with friends and around people which is around half the day.

I (R), am besides the host/co host a caregiver mostly. I front outside of platonic social interactions, and around family. I also front online and it's one of my positive triggers. Thing is, because of my caregiver role, I'm always in co front or co consciousness to help people around.

For "order of existance", I'm the original host and D split off somewhere around when we were bodily 9, being our third alter.

D identifies with the body, whereas i have a general low sense of identity, especially because I'm most often really blendy, but i have an attitude of "I'll work with what i got" even though i do have a vague sense of what i should look like in a way. I also have a different age than the body (by 1 year tho) whereas D identifies full with our legal data.

I know those labels are not clear cut, but who do you think sounds more as the main host and who sounds more like a co host?

It's me, Mr Hyde. How do I use BAH packs or whatever they're called again. I've been thinking of asking for one of a particular person but idk how to use them. Any help would be appreciated.

Yeeees, I do want Jekyll back, shut up it just feels weird without him. It's not like I care or anything, the spirit of London at night cares for no one but himself.

~ 🐱 Laika/Hyde [she/they/it/he, host]

Hey everybody. This isn't going to be a very long post but yeah

So we're a system, our symptoms most closely align with OSDD-1b, however we hesitate to say that we have that due to not really knowing how we came about (pretty sure its due to trauma, but we really have no clue since we cant remember)

So far, we have 2 confirmed alters (although theres a high possibility we have more). The host (Void), and me (Dak). I have no idea what my role is, hoping to figure that out soon (think I might be an anger-holder).

Uhh, yeah. Yall can ask us questions if u want

-Dak

I am only asking because I remembered seeing a tiktok talking about this. Personally I didn't know this was possible and imo the mental gymnastics here are wild because afaik soulbonding is non-traumagenic form plurality (tho from what I see in the rules not everyone might view it as plural and that's fine but I don't really see why it wouldn't be viewed that way. I assume it has to do with the soulbond type, but if i am wrong im happy to hear ur view and reasoning :D). I am however open to explain endos and their terms to any anti if theyre kind and open themselves (and hopefully make them at least neutral to endos but i doubt itll ever happen and i dont go out of my way to do that anyways). Also note i have nothing against anti endos unless theyre mean to endos and deliberately go out of their way to make them feel bad

I hope this isn't controversial and apologies if it becomes so

I made this Reddit account specifically just for here, we generally care about privacy, which Reddit doesn't help much with, but it's the best option that made sense to me

We felt like maybe sharing some things would help us feel better, but I'm not sure about how safe it is or what are the requirements for posting here are, so we just thought we'd ask better

How safe is it here? Do any of you usually share stuff?

Hi! This is a post about my recent progress and acceptance of my plurality :) I’m just hoping to celebrate with you all.

We’ve been exploring our plurality for about a year now, and it’s been a bit of a confusing journey. I spent a while feeing uncomfortable calling myself plural, largely because I (like many others in this sub) worried about using that term without having DID/OSDD. Some of my headmates were much more comfortable with it, but I specifically struggled. I also got confused because my therapist and I use Internal Family Systems, and I was worried I was reading too much into the “normal” ‘parts’ present in that therapeutic framework.

But! I am super comfortable with it now, largely due to reading through the resources in this subreddit. I realized that as long as plurality feels good and helpful to me, i might as well embrace it. And this week, we were all able to have a really nice “System Meeting” for the first time. And it felt so so good! It’s really nice being able to hear what everybody is thinking about and worrying about.

And! We all feel much more comfortable saying “we” out loud now. Our girlfriend (who is dating all of us) actually noticed it before we did haha. She was like “i love hearing y’all say ‘we’ so comfortably. it’s so nice to hear.” We hadn’t even realized we were doing it hahahah.

So yeah :) things are good. And we all feel MUCH more able to be fully “ourselves” than we ever have before. It’s really really nice :)

no this isn’t a joke, i’m serious, i was a willogenic system after all so I can drop plurality and it’s starting to bring down my mental health and I really REALLY need to drop it so this whole account is changing from a system account to a singlet account, i can’t even live normally without thinking “who’s in front today?” And traumatic memories just flood back to me EVERY SINGLE DAY……

good bye everyone :(

Of course not all fictives are the same as their "character," but I've noticed people often assume that's the case when it comes to fictives–and fictionkins but I'm mostly acting fictionkins, if anyone here happens to be fictionkin as well they can still answer based on that–so I had a question.

What is something you do/think/are (ships you dis/like, characters you dis/like, things about you, opinions on others) that would surprise or confuse others because of your source \[given the fact people assume fictive=source\]?

The sub SystemCringe genuinely pisses us off like 90% of the time. There’s so many singles without professional backgrounds, trying to fake claim systems that they saw one video of on TikTok. it’s fucking absurd, it drives us insane. We’re done. We’re not denouncing she sub in its entirety nor are we denouncing everyone within it. We are simply calling out assholes that have been driving us insane. We apologize if we came off as rude but at this point, we don’t care. Ban us from the sub if you want we’re just angry. And if we do get posted on here, don’t censor our name. We don’t care anymore.

(we will clarify that we do not support RAMCOA “systems”! Please don’t blame us for that. We know this is a very accepting safe space server)

UGH so. My name is Miu, just formed tonight, and I'm a self proclaimed bimbo with the brains. My fashion sense is pretty similar.

Thing isssss, most of my headmates are way more modest, and they're uncomfortable with the outfit I picked out to wear to school tomorrow. I told them I'll bring a cardigan in case we wanna cover our tank (tank tops are fine at our school, the dress code is pretty lenient like the code is basically just "wear clothes")

They're insisting I wear shorts under our skirt but that is just. SO unsexy. They're saying it's for safety but we're an adult and we can handle ourselves. Plus we're so flat no one wants to look anyways!

I don't wanna compromise our safety but I think they're overreacting. What do you guys think?

so, im jestir the host, but im not the original inhabitant of this body (probably at least i don't feel like i am, its hard to tell) so im asking, that if the original owner wasnt just obliterated in the creation of us, then like, what do i do if they "wake up" so to speak? like do i have to apologize and abandon the life i basically stole? will i get suppressed and replaced? will i be made irrelevant and just get sealed away? maybe im just worrying too much about something that probably wont even happen but i just had to ask for help here since everyone tends to be really understanding and helpful on this subreddit -J

P.S bella (the system's little) says hi to everyone -J

This is really just me screaming to the void but any advice or anything is welcome.

Recent I've started rembeing trauma that I didn't know I had. I knew we collectively have trauma but I was never the one living through it if that makes sense.

Since I've started remembering I have only gotten a handful of actual useful information. I know like 3 things

1. a man in their twenties picked/wanted me

2. I was controlled by a person , but I don't think they where in control. But the way they treated me feels wrong like they where teaching me to hold myself royaly and to speak properly (I think they gave up on writing as I suck at it too this day)

3. to at least a degree I was pet to someone or multiple I am unsure

Since I've started remembering my moods are out of control and change so quickly. I tend to stay between two. The first is this weird playful pet mood. The second is just me being sad and grumpy but also having a mental breakdown.

I don't know what to do because I can't deal with the moods as I don't know what is causing them especially as I think the weird mood is connected to what I don't currently remember. These moods are hurting the people closest to me because they can't handle the moods and the changes. I hate that it's happening but I can't stop it.

I've tried throwing myself against the barriers to try and get myself to remember more. I know that's probably not healthy but not knowing while it controls my life is killing me.

I know traumagenic plurality is a type of neurodiversity but is endo plurality? Would an endo system be considered neurodivergent (assuming they don't have any other neurodiversities)?

Just a random thought I had lol

-Sage ㋡

I absolutely have no idea what's happening. I'm a new headmate. I feel like I just formed, and when I'm suddenly here in front, I don't have a clue what this is. I kinda got the hint I'm in a system, but no one seems to be here communicating.

And, for some reason, my body just started to go numb just a few minutes ago. Like, y'know, it almost feels like sleep paralysis. I'm awake but I can't move anything. Is that considered dissociation?

Hey r/plural 👋

Knox and I (Tron) has been building a front tracker called Pluralis, and it’s at a point where we wanted to share it with folks who’d actually use something like this.

The idea was to put the stuff we kept wishing existed into one place:

•	Front tracking + timeline so you can look back at who’s been out and when

•	Internal mail and chat for headmates to leave messages for each other

•	Daily journal tied to whoever’s fronting

•	PluralKit integration so it plays nice with what you already use

•	Encryption at rest — your data stays yours

We built it because we wanted it, not because we’re trying to reinvent anything. If it’s useful to other systems too, that’d be great. Happy to answer questions and very open to feedback on what’s missing.