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I was in One Ayala and pumunta ako sa 4th floor restroom. I prefer sana na di matao kasi aside from wanting to pee, I wanna wash my face and change clothes (ang inet). Pag pasok ko may mga guys na nakatayo sa labas tapos sa loob nagtatagal din. Varied tbh. May daddy, may twink, chubs, etcz Like you can tell it’s a good cruising spot, kasi nga naman it is cleaner than most public restrooms and there arent that many people.

So I wanted to pee so sa likod ako pumunta and was trying to pee when may tumayo din sa urinal behind me kasi talikuran to, if you have been there. Tapos kinurot un butt ko. I said “Hey!”. Di talaga ako makaihi. Tapos sinasabihan nya ko na pakita ko daw. I also saw un daddy na nakatingin samin and sabi ko lang “Please Im trying to pee.”

So lumipat ako ng isa pang likod and just trying yo concentrate na sana lumabas na un wiwi haha. Tapos I heard a gay guy nagsisigaw ng “May mga bakla dito!!!” Ganyan. Tapos he called the cleaner and was lividly telling her na ireport daw pag may ganun, picturan, ipakulong. Tapos tinuturo nya un dalawang lumabas daw ganyan. Then sabi nya “Kakampi nyo ko ate, Im your guardian kasi di nyo kilala sino bakla” and “Marami na ko nareport” and “Bakla ako pero di ako bastos”. Sabi nya rin hahanapin nya daw un dalawang lumabas tapos umalis na sya.

Nakaihi rin naman ako eventually habang nagrarant sya.

hi, i’m M 25. I have this FuBu— (M35) 5’8 chinito, slim build, and 6 inch grower curved downwards— na madalas ko maka fun late 2025. Huling kita namin was nov 2025. During this time, working na ko and sya busy na sa new business venture with his business partner na na meet nya naman sa bumble.

Recently naalala ko lang sya bigla and naisipang ayain. Turns out na- naka hiatus na sya sa pakikipag fun.

Ako naman, sya lang ung one and last guy naka-kantot sakin since last year. Di kasi talaga ko nakikipag penetration sex unless may trust na ko, saka para safe.

Ayun lang, sad kasi di ko na ma-experience ung hagod ng etits nya na nagpapanginig ng hita ko. On the other hand happy naman ako at bagong buhay na sya.

Maybe in another life eme.

Hello mga bading. Ask ko lng kung merun ba sa inyo who gave up na makahanap na ng katuwang sa buhay. I am 36 na at mag 37 in the next few months. I have been in failed relationships na and nothing worked.

Now, tanong ko kung may pag asa pa ba or gave up nlng us. Maybe focus nlng on ourself at self love nlng hanggang di pa nate-tegi ang bading?

Anong say niyo? Sa mga nagdecide na, anong pinagkaka abalahan niyo? I want some ideas na rin kung sakali.

It’s painful to find out your boyfriend is cheating on you.

But it’s even more painful to realize you were the other person all along. I’ve been with my “boyfriend” for almost a year. Everything felt real, until I found out he’s still living with his “ex.”

When I confronted him, he admitted it. He said he should’ve told me earlier. I asked him if he could leave and choose me. He said he couldn’t. According to him, his ex has nowhere else to go, and they’ve been together for 10 years. He said staying is his way of returning the favor for everything they’ve been through.

That alone hurt. But what broke me even more was learning they still sleep together. In the end, I wasn’t the boyfriend. I was the rebound. The third party in a relationship that never really ended.

And somehow, I feel like my presence only helped them find their way back to each other. Am I too soft for crying over this and feeling this betrayed? I’m 41, and this is my first serious relationship. It feels like I was never really in it at all. Sana pinasa ko nalang yung chain message nung HS ako para di nalang ako nasumpa nang ganito. Ang saket beh 😭😭😭

I'm in my 30's.

Never nagkaroon ng seryosong relationship.

Not that I didn't try, I did... Many times. And many times ding na-reject.

Tumambay na sa yellow app and blue app pero puro ghosting, cheating and rejection lang ang naranasan.

Nakakababa kaya ng self-esteem yung pagka send mo pa lang ng pic, blocked ka na kaagad! Buti pa nga yung picture ni Sadako, nakita ko ginagawang wallpaper ng ilan. Yung akin, grabe... Parang mas may chance pa yata si Sadako na may maka hook sa dating app kesa sakin.

Tinry ko ring mag improve ha? Mag skin care, diet and exercise, pero ewan ba, feeling ko sa bawat taong magugustuhan ko, may karibal ako na 10/10 ang rating.

Is it my age ba? Or itsura ko? O yung personality ko? Kasi online o real world, walang nagkakagusto sakin.

Siguro it's not really my age kasi maski nung 20's pa lang ako, ignored ako lagi. Never may nanligaw sakin aside from a very young guy na may nililigawan rin palang iba. Balak ata akong gawing side-chick o side-gay na isinet aside din kalaunan.

Or maybe it's because of my small d*ck. Kasi kung yung iba ay saba at turdan, sa akin ay senyorita. Ewan ba pero parang sa mundo natin, maski di naman tayo babae, napakaimportante na malaki o mahaba ang kargada.

O dahil underachiever ako? Dahil boring ako? Dahil wala sa aura ko yung cool akong maging part ng future nila, tulad ng sabi sa akin ng isang nakausap ko?

Nauwi na lang ako sa pag hire at ES. Walang rejection basta may budget. Di ikaw yung i re reject nila kungdi yung offer mo. Ok na ito, at least na experience ko ma-kiss, mayakap, may makahawakan at kung anu ano pa.

Pero at the end, naitatanong ko pa rin kung bakit kaya? Anong meron sakin? O anong wala sakin?

I talked to a masseur to come to my hotel room and we clearly agreed on massage plus extra service (strictly BJ and 69). At the end of the massage while he’s massaging my head area, he bent over and kissed me quickly on the lips without asking. I was surprised. Then he was on top of me and tonguing me aggressively and kissing me in the neck and chest. I felt confused and didn’t react in the moment. I’m not sure if this is normal in that kind of setup or if he crossed a line since it wasn’t discussed.

Did he cross a boundary? Or OA lang ba ako?

*Additional context:

1. He said he’s bi.
2. I don’t kiss strangers. Para sa jowa lang yun. Pero single po ako.*

Of course in a relationship there should be both compromise and non negotiables, what are the things that you will never change/sacrifice if you're in a relationship?

For me:

1. Career - Never again ako mag change ng career because of a relationship. Ilang months ako paiba iba work, and now im at a good company and work culture, hinding hindi ko ito ipapag Palit, I don't care if 1 hour 30 min ang byahe, no never. I see myself getting promoted, getting my first property, and car here.

2. Hobbies - it goes both ways. I will invest in learning your hobbies, if we don't match I will support your hobbies within reason. Do what you must to be happy, and I will do what will make me happy.

3. Individuality - Be yourself is easier said than done. Reciprocate, adjust, meet halfway, uncomfortable talk? Better than being silent.

4. Cheating - Never tolerate cheating. If in case of open relationships, boundaries must be set and respected.

5. Abuse - May it be physical, mental, or emotional. Nope. I'll cut you out of my life once and for all. If it means taking legal action.

Hello! Maiba na naman tayo. I'm trying to spark a good exchange of ideas here. I'm a strong believer that love is a choice and not a feeling. I'm curious how people maintain that level of love.

Particularly:

[1] What point of discussions or conversations do you guys bring up?

[2] What activities or hobbies do you do with your partner together?

[3] What are some best practices or culture you have in your relatinoship?

[4] What kind of dates or hangouts you engage in?

Anything is fine! May this thread be a bank of ideas for all of us who's aspiring to have a partner!

Like the title says. Sa mga kapwa ko, mabenta din ba kayo sa foreigners.

I'm 29M, straight passing. When I was in the Philippines 3 years ago, I rarely get match or notification sa grindr, bumble, or tinder.

I always felt I was undesirable. Especially na kalbo pa ako, and the gays (both fem and masc), used to make fun of me. Kesyo type daw nila na sasabunutan nila ang partner nila, or I'm not too mascular. I honestly felt ugly here (it's how I imagined people think of me).

Moving to UK, it took awhile for me to be comfortable with my skin, I started asking people out, and I had dated indians, pakistan, english, nigerian, and black british.

Di ko alam kung bola lang nila, but they'd been giving me compliments. Of those I dated, only two people was serious, the indian guy wanted to get married with a woman, tas ang english guy, gusto niya ang open relationship. So balik ulit ako sa field, today, i just had sex sa pakistani.

He said he came from dubai, and may ka roommate daw siya na pinoy na nagpamulat sa mata niya, kaya type niya daw ang mga pinoy. So ano, mabenta din ba kayo sa foreigners???

Sobrang isolating maging ace, 'no? Like, in my town, I'm probably the only one. And since I don't go around announcing my sexuality in real lfe, deliberate, no one knows. Everywhere we look, it's a hypersexualised world, and all of it is so overwhelming & overbearing to me as an asexual. Kahit sa sub na 'to, no offence, the most dominating threads are understandably about genitals, penises, fucking, butts, hot bodies, and etc.

I can't relate to the most mainstream queer experience/culture. Back when I still didn't know I was ace, at least I knew I had my body to give. When I realised I was ace, I denied it because how could someone love me if I can't offer my body since I am not textbook attractive (believe me, this isn't the issue. I don't really care if people find me good-looking or not), and now that I am ace, who finds sex revolting, now what?

The only times I've ever seen myself represented in media were fictional characters. Once with Florence in Sex Education and the other was a fucking cartoon character from Bojack Horseman.

I'm so sick of everyone making me feel like I'm sick and broken just because I'm not dating or having sex like most people as if I didn't already feel like that myself since time immemorial.

I don't really need advice. Especially from people who have sex. This is the kind of queer experience that many people in this sub would never understand. I don't want to be touched and I don't want a naked penis or vagina anywhere near me and yes, sometimes I feel lonely, but that's not the reason why. Never yata magiging aware ang mga Pinoy na hindi lang gays, bisexuals, lesbians, pansexuals, and trans ang bumubuo sa queer community.

Hiii mga bading andito nanaman ako para mag kwento wahaha

Nag inuman kami ng mga old friends ko and ako bilang di umiinom, 2-3 shots pa lang lasing na HAHAHA tinanong ako ng isa kong friend and nag stuck na sakin and napaisip ako

Friend: bakit wala ka pa din jowa

Me: idk baka pangit ako?

F: duda, dami nga nagcha-chat sayo tapos binabalik balikan ka ng mga ka naka sex mo

Me: baka pang fubu lang ako

Tbf, may past relationship naman ako, may 2 akong ex. Isang 3 years and isang 4 years. Mahilig ako sa LTR 2 years ago yung last ko HAHAHA.

ewan ko, confident ako sa looks ko pero lately walang tumatagal. Baka kasi nakukuha na nila yung boyfriend benefits kahit di naman kami, usually sila yung sumusuko after ng 3-6months. In good terms naman and I think valid yung reason nila. “sorry busy na” “sorry di ko lang mafeel yung spark” “kala ko kasi di mo ko gusto”

Sabi ng friend ko dapat kasi pa hard to get ako, dapat mirror method, dapat push-pull method, dapat late replies.

I do not get it. If love has to be manipulated, then I don’t want it. Ang hirap ng dating ngayon, parang everyone wants to play games.

Sana yung next ko, last na. Nakaka pagod na kasi eh, konti na lang I’ll give up on love na and maging someone’s fubu na lang lagi.

As title.

Low-key pero you don't really need a lot of brain cells to figure out na doon na nakatambay yung mga bagets na naghahanap ng quick euphoric income. 😅 Ang nakak taas ng kila minors din.

Sayang wala na ako sa market na iyan.

Just a question may na encounter akong term BMF. Sabi "be my friend" daw, pero baka meron pang ibang meaning. Yung pag construct ng post kasi is inviting.

May naka hook up ako na bot tonight. It wasn't my best performance.

So some info about me. Up until a couple years ago, pure bot talaga ako. From time to time, nagta top ako. Most memorably when ang fuck buddy ko (I was 20 and he was 36, na may anak na) wanted me to fuck him. But only recently lang talaga ako naging versa since sobrang ng daming bots in my area.

So back to the present. I did my usual things. Masarap siya romansahin because he is cute, well built and he is really game. Sabik na sabik akong pasarapan siya. But when it came to doing the deed, ilang beses ako nanlambot. It didn't help na sira ang aircon ko atm, so sobrang pawis ko while plowing him. I kept interrupting the deed because always ako nagpupunas ng pawis.

Nakapagpalabas naman siya but I didn't. He said ok ang experience but I still feel like it wasn't even a good performance from me. Worse is, ilang beses na rin ako ganito recently even though hot ang partners ko. This past year mabilang lang ang times where I feel I reached my goal of satisfying my bots.

So mga bros, please help out a struggling versa. Do you have any suggestions on how to improve my topping game? I get so much satisfaction from bottoming, and gusto ko talaga that I do the same for my bottoms.

Hello, Versabot here from Upper antips. I just want to ask kung papaano niyo na e-enjoy yung pag b-bottom? Kasi ako hindi naman na ako virgin eh, then kapag na b-bottom ako imbis na masarapan ako — mas na f-feel ko yung medyo sakit sa puson talaga, ewan ko ba bakit hindi ako nasasarapan talaga 🫠 or sadyang hindi talaga para sa'kin yung pag b-bottom?

Kayo ba guys, papaano niyo na h-handle or na e-enjoy man lang pag bottom sainyo? I rlly need tips right now.

gipit na gipit ako e so nagpachupa ako sa pinsan kong bakla, sya pa nag book ng motel para masolo nya ako. ngayon hinahanap hanap ko na yung chupa nya at rim nya. pero mas pinili kong hindi na dagdagan pa ang kalaswaan namin kaya hindi ko na siya chinachat at baka mahuli kami ng kamag anak namin. skl

Hi! Can I get HIV if gumamit naman ako condom but it slipped out? siguro I inserted it naman to him mga once before i noticed na natanggal. Should I take PEP na ba? saan po pwede makakuha and how much? thank you!

Seriously. Sinisira nyo lang mga sarili nyo sa pag ka insecure nyo. Halatang halata. The negative energy you guys give off is so tiring. Mga bwisit.

Please work on yourselves. Therapy, exercise, go back to school, take courses or whatever. Wag yung pabebe na nag hahanap ng validation by saying things like “hindi naman ako cute” “ang pangit ko” “baka hanap mo pogi” tapos expecting kayo ng compliment in return. Paawa effect doesn’t work. Yikes. CRINGE. How about some positive affirmations in your life? “Cute ako” “wow I look good today” “I feel beautiful.” Ang daming ways to get over insecurity. Look them up.