r/obgyn

I am 33. I have one daughter already and had a great pregnancy with her with the only complication being an elevated blood pressure at 38 weeks but even then it was not bad. We are toying with the idea of having a second but I now have Hashimotos that was diagnosed after I had my daughter. I am also scared of possible abnormalities because I’m getting older and I feel like that’s all you hear about lately. I was also told 90% of my eggs are gone already? Can anyone give me a more scientific answer I guess?

So about 2 weeks before my period started literally an hour ago I’ve been going through a dry spell. I’m usually very very well lubricated. I have no clue why I can’t get lubricated when aroused whether it be by myself or with my boyfriend. Yesterday, we did some stuff and I still couldn’t get lubricated even though I was highly aroused. He didn’t say anything about it but I know he felt it. Today it’s been the same, but my area has a bit more elasticity than usual and there’s been a weird dry glue-like substance inside and it’s making me feel weirdly self-conscious. Could this be because of my period? Or is it more of an underlying condition? I also took a plan B about 3 hours ago.

Also, has anyone here experienced things tasting weirdly sweeter after taking a plan B?

I am recovering (13 days) from vaginal VVF repair, latsko procedure, and am testing the repair at home with prescribed phenazopyridine 200. The pad was clean all day until a very small spot of bright yellow showed up. I've been having a small amount of brown post surgery discharge, and today has been very light to nill in comparison to previous days. The SPC catheter is clamped so I can hold urine and toilet normally and test the bladder repair.

How do I tell the difference between a drop or two of urine and vaginal discharge? I have read that phenazopyridine turns vaginal discharge bright yellow as well. *I'll see the surgeon in a couple days, but I'm considering continuing the trial overnight to see if longer between toileting will put more pressure on the possible leak/ repair site and make it more known one way or the other.

F46, 5'6", 120lbs, non smoker, non drinker, 3 months post open total hysterectomy kept overies, 2 weeks post vaginal VVF repair with SPC still installed.

I’m getting married 10/20/26 and we’ve been together for 6yrs. We’ve been living together and (POTENTIAL TMI: he checks my IUD strings because I can’t reach them)

But my IUD is due to come out July 2027, less than a year after we are married. He wants to attend my OB appointment when it is removed to hear all of the options and be there to support, and I love and trust him but this is my body and I kinda was hoping I’d just have it removed with no options, not because I want kids right away but just to adjust?. He says it’s also for fertility reasons but I almost want that first appointment to myself. I have been on birth control for 18yrs and I really do understand where he is coming from in the sense of trying to support me but also I’m not sure how to communicate I want to do this alone…

ETA: he says if he is going to be a girl dad he needs to better understand the science behind everything so he can be educated and not force all of the emotional labor on me. I do not disagree with with reasonings at all! And I love how supportive he is! I just haven’t been in awhile and don’t want him there if there is potential bad news.

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I (25F) have had BV on and off for YEARS. Over a decade I would say. My flora is completely out of wack and hasn’t been the same since I started having sex. I’ve constantly had to take antibiotics and I fear that has made it worse.

The cycle goes:

1. Get BV from sex

2. Go to OBGYN, take antibiotics for BV

3. Gets a yeast infection from antibiotics (even with probiotics)

4. Take fluconazole for yeast infection

5. All the above treatments causing vaginal dryness, pain, and sensitivity. Sometimes even bleeding.

6. Gets BV again from sex

Repeat.

I almost feel like it’s become antibiotic resistant since I can only take flagyl (I’ve taken both oral and gel forms) and it just keeps coming back no matter what I do. I can’t take clindamycin due to an allergy.

My partner has also noticed my “smell” and it makes me so self conscious. I know it’s not him (I’m his first sexual partner ever).

I can’t keep doing this. I’ve literally cried over it so many times.

So I ask everyone, docs, fellow ladies, etc: what are your experiences, tips, and advice with boric acid suppositories?

The success stories made me buy a bottle of it, but the cons of it/unsuccessful stories have kept me from touching them! I’m really scared/nervous since I have sensitive skin, and I’ve read it could cause burns.

Also worth mentioning, I unfortunately, also have HSV-1 genitally from an SA, and I’m afraid it could cause an outbreak.

Any help is greatly, truly appreciated. Thanks in advance… and sorry for the long post. Just getting really fed up.

TLDR: Recurrent BV and treatments have ruined my vaginal flora, wanting to try boric acid suppositories but afraid to due to possible side effects, and afraid it might cause an outbreak

I went to my 29 week appointment today and found out my blood platelet count is low. Over the past couple of days, I’ve been experiencing more shortness of breath than usual so much that I can barely eat sometimes, even when I’m just resting. I also felt dizzy for the first time, and I’m wondering if this is something I should call my doctor about.

IM SO NERVOUS but thankful to get this thing out!! Just found out a few minutes ago my 13cm ovarian cyst that’s been causing me significant pain and pressing on my organs is getting surgically removed tomorrow! The plan is laparoscopic but if they see anything concerning because my ca-125 levels were high it’ll end up being open surgery.

They already warned me that due to the size they are trying to save some of my ovary but there is a chance they cannot😢 what would this mean for me? 25F. They believe I may have endometriosis. Will they know for sure after this surgery?

Any tips for me? I’ve never had surgery or anesthetia and I’m very very nervous and have a severe throw up phobia (OCD) so I already told them I’ll need them to administer an anti naseua medication.

Anything I should know for recovery? I have such limited time to prepare I’m freaking out

The flo app said im going to have a mens in april 20 but now april 21 i don’t have my mens. Last time that I have is march 22

I’m really struggling with whether I’m overreacting here or not.

A family member has a newborn under 3 months old, and recently I witnessed one of them doing what they called “advanced vestibular stimulation.” It involved things like tossing the baby upward, spinning him around, holding him upside down by his legs, and doing “flying” motions. All without consistently supporting the baby’s head and neck, and all while high above the ground.

It honestly made me really uncomfortable to watch. It looked like they were playing with a doll. The baby is not a “super baby” that has developed faster than typical. The are just learning to lift their head. It lasted a few minutes, but it felt like an eternity. I ended up leaving earlier than I intended because I didn’t know what to do.

Another family member had witnessed similar “exercises” when the baby was around 5 weeks old. They were concerned and said something to the parents in the moment but were immediately shut down. I didn’t take them seriously at the time because it sounded so exaggerated that it couldn’t possibly be true. However, after witnessing it myself, I believed them, and we’ve been talking about it all week.

When I asked the parent about it, they said it’s safe and “scientifically backed” for development, and pointed me toward some online content. I took that seriously and looked into it myself, reviewing peer-reviewed research, paediatric guidance, physio/OT sources, and even the kinds of social media content they might be seeing. I also spoke with a few parent friends.

From what I can tell, there is support for gentle vestibular stimulation in infants (like rocking, swaying, tummy time, etc.), but everything credible emphasizes slow, controlled movement with full head and neck support, especially under 4–6 months. I couldn’t find anything reputable supporting tossing, spinning, or holding a newborn upside down by the legs without support or safety measures. Even within the social media resources they sent me. They are not following guidance from a local physio, OT, or pediatrician.

I’m not trying to be judgmental. I’m a parent too, and I know we all just want what’s best for our kids. But this feels like a pretty big gap between what’s being recommended and what’s actually happening.

For context, this isn’t a one-off. It’s a “protocol” for “baby maxxing” that they do regularly and confidently. I have tried sharing my concerns directly and asked for evidence so I could better understand their reasoning, but I was shut down and criticized. After that, I felt worse than before, gaslit and questioning myself for feeling this way.

I ended up speaking to my therapist about how to process this and how to thoughtfully navigate my relationship with this family member. It has been affecting me significantly. I haven’t been eating, sleeping, or working well. I needed help managing my mental health. What I didn’t realize is that this situation would meet the threshold for mandatory reporting, and my therapist was required to report it to child services. This was not my intention at all. I will likely have to speak with a social worker at some point, and I’m terrified. Where I live, mandatory reporting is also legally required for the general public.

I told the family member in person what happened because I wanted to be honest and get ahead of it. It did not go well. They doubled down and blamed me for “doing this” to them. I was told I should not have spoken to anyone outside the family, that I’m overprotective, and that I’m a “family divider.” It has become very hostile, to the point where I was told not to cooperate with CPS or to lie to shut it down. Apparently, I’m the only one who can “stop this.” I don’t believe that’s true. I assume CPS will make their own decisions. It has also created tension with the family member who originally came to me with concerns.

I care deeply about this family member and their baby, which is why this is weighing on me so much. I truly feel that if this weren’t a family member, I would be more objective and confident in how serious this is.

So… am I overreacting for being this concerned?

UPDATE: Things have certainly gone south fast with the family. There were threats to report my partner and I to CPS in retaliation if we “dare” give names. Lots of other scare tactics. Life is currently in turmoil for speaking to a therapist about my feelings about something someone else was doing.

CPS did call. I was objective as possible to state only details. I also enquired what was my legal obligations to give identifying info. I was informed that I need not comply to them at that time, however they have the authority to get court orders. With that may come further legal ramifications for both my partner and I as witnesses. They also said in this scenario education would be the most likely approach with not much consequences if everything was kosher after that. So obviously I complied now rather than to be forced to later.

The family members currently disowned me even though I told them all this. My conscience is clean, but this is the worst choice(not actual choice) I’ve ever had to make. Gutted