First time truly feeling sex at 41 — turns out heavy lifting may have rewired something neurological for me
Some background: I was born with complete agenesis of the corpus callosum (ACC), which means the structure connecting the two hemispheres of my brain is entirely absent. I also have central sleep apnea, and I’ve long suspected these are connected, like the nerves responsible for activating my diaphragm aren’t receiving full signal. I also had extended bedwetting as a child until around age 10, which I now believe was part of the same picture: underactivation of pelvic and autonomic neural pathways rather than anything structurally broken.
One consequence I never talked about much: I’ve had penile numbness my whole life. Sex wasn’t unpleasant, but I genuinely didn’t understand what the fuss was about. It could take hours to orgasm, sometimes I’d just give up. Partners seemed to enjoy it but I felt empty and disconnected from the experience.
Recently I’ve been getting seriously into weightlifting, deadlifts especially- and pelvic floor work. I’ve been in Madrid without my regular trainer so I’ve been improvising, including carrying my wife up stairs as a loaded carry.
Last night something shifted. Huge rush of blood to the pelvis, and for the first time in my life my penis wasn’t numb. I felt every sensation, every single one. I finally understood what people mean when they talk about sex being incredible.
My working theory: the heavy compound loading drove serious blood flow and mechanical activation into the pelvic region, combined with an acute testosterone spike, and essentially turned up the volume on pathways that were always there but chronically underlit, possibly due to the ACC-related autonomic irregularities I’ve had my whole life.
Has anyone else experienced reduced pelvic or genital sensation connected to neurological differences, and found physical training made a difference? Curious whether this resonates with anyone.
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