r/geminis

Being a Gemini really just feels like contradicting yourself 24/7. Like there’s no way I’m somehow a little bit of everything… bruh.

I'm a Gemini (M27) and I went on a date recently with a guy (M29) in the Astrology community. It wasn't off a dating app. We just share a mutual friend.

I'm gonna be honest, I knew very little about Astrology going in. All I knew about it was my birth sign. I've seen people online and stuff treat it like religion, then I saw people saying it's not.

I don't know. I don't care.

Went on the date and everything was going really good. We did the basic back and forth you do on every date, but it wasn't boring! Easily the best start to a date I've had in a while. We were both in a good mood, I think. At least in enough of one to laugh and joke about classes.

Once that was out of the way, we started talking about stuff that actually interested us. And he brought up Astrology. We bounced back and forth about it. I'm an open-minded person, so I didn't wanna treat them like their interests/beliefs didn't matter. I wouldn't want someone to do that to me. Eventually, we got around to our birth signs. He asked what I was, and I told him I was a Gemini.

I could tell right away that he didn't want to hear that. He frowned and said something along the lines of "But you're so nice?"

Cue confusion. But I didn't want to be disrespectful, so I didn't prod. Looking back, I probably was within my rights to catch an attitude, but confrontation and I aren't friends. I basically ran out of questions by the time dessert came, so he started asking me about past relationships.

He asked if I was a cheater. I said no. Then he told me he didn't believe me. As if he was genuinely gobsmacked at the idea that I wasn't a POS because of the month I was born in.

I went pretty quiet after that and just let him talk. It went downhill from there. I'm not comfortable typing out everything he said or asked. I just felt really uncomfortable. It triggered a lot of the bad feelings I have about growing up in the south and being visibly gay and the crap I got for that, even from family. But I didn't wanna leave in the middle of the date, because he's pretty popular in our friend group. And if he was willing to assume my intentions or straight up insult me or my body to my face, I didn't want to give him more ammunition to use behind my back.

It's been a few days now. Neither of us reached out after. Which is good, cause I just feel drained like I had a phone call with my father.

I know Astrology is super popular, and I don't date much, but I can't help but feel defeated. Is this a common conclusion in the community? Is there anything I can do about it? I don't want to be pressured into lying about my birth month just so people will want to tolerate me in a relationship. It's really easy for me to fall into the glass half-full mentality.

TL;DR: Told my date I was a Gemini and it went about as bad as it can go. Now I don't know what to do.

What does a Gemini man want on a first date?

Hey guys, so I've been having some trouble getting along with my mil who's an Aries. She has never been my cup of tea, but lately i just can't. I know there's about a dozen planets on aries right now, so things are more conplicated than usual. So any tips?

People of the earth!!i am trying so hard to get rid of this guy in my life but i can't seem to,he knows me without even communicating with him,he understands without a word from my mouth and when it comes to him i am weak! It has never been this hard for me to let a man go...i always do it easily and very fast. This one i am struggling,i am always blocking and unblocking him...i feel like my heart is betraying me and can't help it!!everytime i think i am done with him and something always reminds me of him...What is going on with me????lol.
i am so old to be going through this bul!i feel like a teenager again

but i think it’s happening now. i have also dated nonchalant men and can tell nonchalant energy. the guy ive been talking to for like a month and seen twice was coming on SUPER strong. i usually don’t entertain that kind of entrance but it seemed genuine and I think i like him cuz i never talk to a guy this much. from big compliments, to affection, to flowers etc he alluded to being together pretty quickly.

the last few days have been a total opposite. it’s coming up on my nonchalant radar and i realllly hate dealing w men w no energy. i hate wasting my time or talking to someone when i don’t rly have hopes or trust in the situation. should i end it since flags are coming up? i just can’t tell if it’s my hastiness to not waste my time or real flags that make me just wanna message him goodbye. maybe i don’t wanna be dumped first even. reality is idk this dude it’s only been a month, but i asked myself if this flips tomorrow which decision would i be happy i took and i can’t tell which:( i like him- well i did when he shared more then again he’s just a man and who CARES?? ugh! help

I’m an 18-year-old male, and I’m wondering if it’s normal for Geminis to feel revengeful.

There’s this Aquarius girl who told my only female friend that she was into me. I found that suspicious from the start because she had just arrived at our school, so how are you saying you like me when you don’t even know me?

My friend kept talking to me about her in our math class, so eventually I gave in, accepted it, and gave her my number. Things started off fine, but not even a week later I started noticing things that made me lose interest. I didn’t want anything to do with her anymore, but I kept talking to her anyway.

The problem is, I had already decided I didn’t want anything serious, yet I still entertained it. Eventually, we became distant because of a lack of communication, so I stopped talking to her completely. Then she went back to my friend, and my friend convinced me to talk to her again. I had to drop my ego to do that, but I did.

Two weeks later, she texted me saying:

“I honestly don’t know how you’re going to take what I’m about to say, but the truth is I don’t feel the same anymore. I don’t feel what I felt for you when we first started talking. My feelings have changed because of how we’ve both been acting, and I don’t really like how things have been between us lately. I think it would be best if we just left things as they are and stayed friends, if you want. And if not, I understand that too.”

I had already expected something like that, so I just replied, “Okay, I was thinking the same thing.” Then she sent a sad face, like she expected me to beg or something.

At first, I didn’t care. But then I felt weirdly offended, and I don’t even know why. I thought maybe it was because I don’t like people wasting my time—but realistically, I was the one who wasted my own time since I already knew it wasn’t going anywhere. So why did I feel offended?

Later, during last period, I saw her talking to some guy who’s taller than me, but he has a girlfriend, so I know it wasn’t him. Then she mentioned a guy named Derek. I have a friend named Derek who’s also taller than me, but she had also mentioned an ex with that name before. Apparently, he got taller and maybe more muscular.

It felt like she was trying to make sure I heard her. I just acted like I didn’t care and didn’t pay attention. It didn’t make me mad—it honestly just made me feel a mix of disgust and pity. I’ll admit, I have some ego issues.

Now that I think about it, what actually pissed me off was that she offered to stay friends, even though I’ve already said I don’t have female friends and don’t want any. If you’re wondering about the girl I mentioned before, she’s only my friend because she basically decided that herself and I got stuck with it—now she’s like a little sister to me.

I really like gemini and I'm in a relationship with one but! I've always had this fear of what people say about their emotional detachment. I had a bad experience with a gemini before and it was painful soo I'm trying to be a little careful with my feelings.

He seems a little clingy and I'm loving that tbh 😂 is that a good sign tho?

so i’m a gemini (F22). do any other female geminis have a pattern of attracting leo’s in a romantic/relationship sense? the last 3 people i’ve been involved with have all been leo’s. two girls and more recently a guy. i don’t particularly like leo’s because i find that they all can be a little arrogant, both men and women. none of these relationships i’ve had with leo’s have been healthy or ended well. so why do i keep attracting them? i guess i just want to see if anyone can relate or maybe even explain this cosmic attraction some gemini’s may have to leos. am i missing something important?

You Gems are poles apart from a Capricorn. You're sharp, evil-intelligent and might i say mostly very beautiful people. What in the universe draws you to a Capricorn? Being a Cap myself i find it f--king crazy that what do you see that even i don't see??

Fellow Gem moons I need help

So for the past 2 years I have been healing from a heartbreak, all I wanna say is that me and this person absolutely cannot be with each other, and are not on speaking terms. I had to leave the situation and block them, and I never got proper closure. To this day I’m still struggling to let go of the situation, or them, or both… idk. I’m doing everything I can to move on with my life and let them go, I even have met new people and tried dating around, but I always come back to this person in the back of my mind. Not a single day has gone by that I didnt think of them (and I’m not kidding it’s every single day) and some days I even debate getting back in contact, but I don’t because it’s not a good idea.

What I don’t get is that it’s normally not this hard to detach from a person for me, I mean for fucks sake my moon is in an air sign (Gemini at that 💀) so it shouldn’t be this difficult! I figured my Taurus Venus also has something to do with it as we have a tendency to take our time with things related to romance.

My problem is that it’s hard for me to let myself feel emotions, when all I do is intellectualize my feelings and rationalize EVERY. SINGLE. THING.

But really at this point I’m just desperate to be over this person.

Any Gemini moons out there who can give me some advice?

I don't know why I love geminis so much!! But I guess they don't love me 😅

I thought gemini men were anything but clingy. My gemini man is just as clingy as a cancer moon even though he is also a gemini venus. or Is this just a charm of a new relationship? We text all day long with light and fun banter. He doesn't like it if I am even a minute late in replying. we just started getting to know each other for more than a week and he looks already smitten. Says I am not that attached to him the way he is to me. We knew each other through family. Never communicated. but he had a whole folder full of my pictures. Got upset when he found I don't have any of his pictures on my phone. He seems more like a cancer than a gemini. Might be because he has cancer mercury and a scorpio moon.

Will it all go away once the freshness of the new relationship wears out? Cause I am getting attached to him as well.

why am I as a gemini sun more drawn to water/earth signs than other air signs or fire signs. is it because of my virgo moon? because otherwise I am a double gemini(geminis venus too)with a sag rising, i really don't get along with other air signs except other geminis and i hate being around fire signs usually tbh