r/findagrave

Hello. I am hoping someone in Paris could help me out. I'm researching a person for a book who is buried in Bagneux Cemetery but I can't go there myself. I have the plot number and everything. Any help or leads are greatly appreciated.

I did not create the page. A close relative died and I saw they had a Find a Grave page populated. This was during the window for relatives to take over the page, and I took it. Now it says my account created the page.

Can someone explain how this happened? Does Find a Grave automatically scrape data from the obits and create these pages, granting creator rights to the person who takes over first? And is there a way to change it? For reasons I'm having trouble articulating to myself, this inaccuracy is bothering me.

The page had a copy and paste of the obit FYI.

Does anyone else feel sad when they see spelling errors on gravestones? There are several in the crematorium where I visit my Mum and Dad and it just breaks my heart to think that the grave marker will be like that forever.

I know that not everyone has a comprehensive education but surely the people making the gravestones and grave markers should pick it up, or the management at the cemetery or crematorium before they get placed.

I'm talking things like "taken to soon", "God wanned you back", "It's so hard too say goodbye" and my own personal heartbreak is the gravestone of the 5 year old grandson of some very dear friends "he was not longed for this world but he lit up our lifes". I haven't got the heart to point it out to them. These are not stupid people, they all finished high school and hold down responsible jobs.

How do those sorts of mistakes not get picked up? Do the makers just put down whatever they're given without actually proofreading or thinking about what they're doing? It's just so sad.

I just called the cemetery and got detailed burial info (plot, grave, block, society name, etc.)

Can I do anything with the society name? This is for Beth David Cemetery in Elmont, NY. 2000 photo requests.... 60k burials total

What can I do to quicken this process of having the grave photographed??

Any tips? Things I should know?

Recently, I've been searching for cemeteries near me on newspapers.com and adding burial records and edits by going through obituaries. I typically only add memorials that I have visited and photographed myself, but now that I have a toddler, I'm not able to spend hours exploring rural cemeteries very often.

Last week, I was working on a cemetery near me with about 2000 burials. Most of the edits I sent were pretty banal: completing death dates, veteran status, middle names, etc. I spent a lot of time on this cemetery, as it's one I enjoy visiting in real life-- it's beautiful and interesting.

The other day, I got about 40 emails in a row notifying me that a user was declining all the edits I had made to his memorials. They were all asking for documentation, which is reasonable. I know adding newspaper clippings is somewhat divisive on the site, but I've got no problem citing my sources. I went back and added clippings to the first two rejected edits, and included a citation in the note field. He rejected them again, saying "sorry, I don't have access to that publication."

I sent a really nice message to him later that night explaining what I was doing, apologizing if I had overwhelmed him, and trying to let him know that I was acting in good faith. He replied pretty quickly, and I'm not quite sure where to go from here. He is clearly very elderly, and I think we just have very different philosophies about FG. He said that, until me, he always hastily accepted edits from this area of the country. I genuinely have no idea what I did to upset this man.

His biggest gripe with me was that I submitted a nickname for someone who died in 1908. He didn't like my gravesite note that someone was originally buried elsewhere and reinterred here in the '20s. He didn't accept my sources that showed the dates on two stones were incorrect.

I offered to go back and cite sources for all the rejected edits, but he doesn't want to "ponder my edits."

He said he'd rather transfer all the memorials in my area to me, if I requested them. He told me he's never been to this county, and only manages "a handful" of memorials in this state.

That seemed like a simple solution. Turns out, he created and manages about 1000 memorials in this county alone-- far more than the handful he remembered.

I guess I'll request the forty or so memorials that I tried to edit. If I actually did what he asked me to and requested to manage all the memorials in my area, I think he would get upset again. But I'm also not eager to tiptoe around this grumpy old man for the rest of time.

Has anybody run into a similar curmudgeon? Pretty much everybody else I've interacted with on FG has been really lovely. And even this guy wasn't super mean, just frustrating.

I'm incredibly non-confrontational, so I admittedly don't make a habit of fighting with strangers on the internet, but I especially never planned to accidentally pick a fight with someone who might be older than my grandfather.

I’m trying to understand the burial situation for Bobby Franklin Edwards (1941–1945) in Beaufort County, North Carolina.
His memorial lists him in the W.O. Edwards Family Cemetery off East Mill Pond Rd near Roper, NC. A cemetery survey also notes that “all others have been moved to another cemetery,” which suggests there may have been a relocation of burials from that site.
What stands out to me is that the cemetery name appears to be tied to his father, William Octavious Edwards (1914–2003). His mother, Margret Jeanette Phelps Edwards (1918–1993), is also buried in a different cemetery. Both parents lived past the 1990 survey, so it seems like they were never part of that original burial site relocation, or were placed elsewhere entirely.
Bobby appears to be their only child based on what I can find, & his memorial does not include a photo, while both parents’ memorials do include photos & appear to be in a maintained cemetery.
His headstone inscription reads:
“He was the sunshine of our home”
“Died that others might live”

I’m trying to understand a few things:

how common is it for a child’s burial to remain at an original family cemetery while parents are buried elsewhere

if a family cemetery is relocated or partially cleared, is it typical for some burials (like a child’s) to be left behind

& does the inscription wording usually indicate anything specific about cause of death or circumstances in the 1940s, if he wasn’t 4 years old i would’ve assumed military but obviously military is not the case

It just feels very striking to see him seemingly separated from his parents in burial, especially given the wording of his inscription, & I’m curious if there’s a historical explanation for how this kind of situation usually happens

I’ve been making plans for the coming months to visit some cemeteries in my area that will require me to go onto private property (mostly farmland) to access. Usually I stop at ones that can be accessed but the ones I’m looking at now are going to require me to get through a few locked gates. Fortunately in my state I can use property viewer to look up who the owners are. My main question is what etiquette do you all use when reaching out to land owners? Do you look up the owners and message them on social media or do you just drive up and knock on the door? The other thing is not having an exact location for some of the cemeteries. How do you go about asking people if they know where the cemetery is?

I received almost 100 suggested edits today to add a period after the middle initial on some of my memorials. I never add the period even if it shown on the inscription. Maybe I am just lazy for skipping over it, but most inscriptions do not have the period, so I just don’t add it at all. Sometimes it’s even difficult to see the text as to whether or not it’s even there. Now this person obviously went through my profile to see all the memorials I added to this particular cemetery and decided to pick on me for what I did. I do know FG suggests adding the period after the middle initial, but i know it’s up to the memorial manager on how they want to handle this on their own memorials. I’m sure this person is not done and I expect to wake up tomorrow morning to find a hundred more. I really want to either decline them all, transfer them all to him or just let them sit for 3 weeks and go auto edit. I think he’s upset with me because I declined some earlier minor edits he suggested. What would you do ?

Rebecca was one of my favorite actors and someone I followed quite a bit. I was so distraught and horrified when she was murdered by that demon. Myself and other fans and FG users would so love to leave flowers on her profile, but we can't, because they've been turned off! When I inquired as to why, I was told that it was because it was being abused. People were leaving mean flowers. Wtf?? Why? There's zero controversial anything about Rebecca! She was just a sweet, young, talented actor. I can't imagine how mean flowers could be left.

Does anyone know any details about this? How can we get them turned on again? The memorial manager for her profile doesn't seem to be active anymore. Rebecca's profile already has been designated as famous. I guess I could request a transfer to me? I would even sponsor it. However, I don't think that would give me any control over turning her flowers back on.

Hello fellow Upstaters,

I've been trying to find a cemetery my dad and I stopped at on a motorcycle ride a while back. He died recently so I can't ask him where it was, and I don't recollect where we were at the time. The description I can give from memory is as follows:

I believe it is somewhere west/northwest of and within an hour of the Albany/Capitol Region, but I am not dead set on that. My instinct says this is somewhere near West Glenville.

It is definitely rural. It is directly off the side of the road in a hilly farm area. There is a house and maybe a small barn/shed opposite. The only traffic we met were farm vehicles and pickup trucks.

It is at the top of a large hill. If you continue down the road one way, you have a view of a very large valley before you.

It is a small cemetery, with no structures (churches, vaults, porterhouses, etc.) except maybe a bench. There is a single moderately sized tree in front of this bench.

I believe there is a NYS Historical Marker. I could have sworn it just said something like "Dutch Cemetery" but Google and FindAGrave only point me to different Dutch Cemeteries that aren't this one.

The graves themselves are very old, and many near the edges of the cemetery have fallen down, some even sliding down a slope into the brush.

Oddly enough, the grass seemed mowed and someone had placed Veteran's flags, even at graves you could not read. But there is no signage indicated who might be responsible for the property.

This is all I can recall. It would be very meaningful to me to be able to go and sit there with his bike some sunny afternoon. Anyone who can point me in the right direction, I appreciate you greatly.