r/extremelyinfuriating

I (18f) and (26m) have been dating for a little while, and we were discussing periods and tampons. I was telling him that I usually change my tampon when it’s full that’s obvious. My boyfriend was going on, saying that I'm dirty and unhygienic because I should be changing it every time I pee. I told him that’s not how that works and he sounds uneducated about female anatomy. I just feel like I’m doing something wrong now. It pisses me off that he’s trying to make me feel disgusted with my own anatomy. Thoughts?

TW: VCUG and trauma

My very common diagnosis of VUR as a toddler resulted in me having to get a few VCUGs. In other words, be restrained, have my legs spread apart and my *down there* sterilized, be forcibly catheterized, then have my bladder pumped full of cancer-causing contrast fluid, then pee on the table I was strapped to in front of a room full of adult men who said they were “taking pictures” (X-Rays) of me peeing.

I now have PTSD, vaginismus, and a catheter injury from this procedure (yes, all professionally doagnosed) and have spent the past several years in intensive trauma therapy. Not to mention, I can’t even get gynecological cancer screenings because nothing can be inserted due to severe vaginismus - so not only do I have a higher risk of cancer from this test, I also am physically unable to screen for it.
I have to take medications for my nightmares so I can sleep. Still can’t use a public bathroom to this day.

There have been studies out since the 90s about how researchers use VCUG kids as proxies for victims of CSA to see how kids remember CSA, since there are many shared components between the two experiences. And still, all doctors have to say about VCUGs is that “there is a small risk for cancer because of the contrast agent and the radiation in the X-rays).

In other words, INFORMED CONSENT IS ACTUALLY A BIG DEAL!!!!!

EDIT:
VCUG: Voiding Chstourethrogram
VUR: vesicouretal reflux

So I am not a veteran myself, however, my grandfather is. He's honorably discharged from the Vietnam War (USAF) and is a service-connected disabled veteran. The past couple of years, I've truly learned that we never started treating veterans better. I heard it was real bad way back when (I'm quite young, only 22), and I thought it got better but no. The exact opposite. If anything, with the COL nowadays, its definitely worse.

For one thing, Hurricane Beryl hit us, and one thing I know is that from that moment on, our roof has been broken to frick and back and its gotten worse and worse over time since we can't afford to fix it. VA disability, social security, ironworkers pension, none of that pays nearly enough to actually fix it because every single dime goes towards bills. Savings account? What's that? Never heard of it. That's how we live right now, and how we've lived for years, since COVID roughly. It hasn't gotten better, if anything its gotten worse.

Anyways, roof is damaged, we have roof leaks, water spots, water coming into our house in some areas. I had to fight FEMA for 6 months straight to get even a dime out of them. That is pathetic, and honestly so aggravating. If I didn't have the tenacity to fight and have activist passions in me, we would have never seen that money. Well, the money comes and its $1,000, nowhere near enough to fix the roof, which I think by that point, the roof needed an entire replacement.

My grandfather, long story short, got scammed by a guy shortly after Beryl for his life savings to "fix" the roof. He didn't know what he was doing, broke the roof even worse than it was originally and...we have no recourse. Red Cross, Habitat for Humanity, Home Depot Foundation, veterans organizations even, all turned us down. Red Cross had a program for Beryl but we didn't learn about it until it was too late because its not like they put out a PSA. We don't have home insurance since we live on a floodplain and its illegal to have one in Texas on a floodplain, at least if you're in a mobile home.

Habitat for Humanity claimed they lacked funding and couldn't help. The veterans organizations couldn't help since we couldn't transfer the house deed from his deceased wife to him. Legally, under property laws, he does own it since his wife didn't have a will and they were married 50+ years HOWEVER, you can't transfer the deed unless the property is tax good, which it is not. We're paying on back property taxes because his wife sucked at money, and wouldn't let him manage or see a dime of it.

Overall, I'm just ranting about how veterans are treated. Not even the VA wanted to help. Its very upsetting to know that a lot of you are probably in similar situations and have nobody to turn to. I'm not even the veteran and I'm getting upset and I'm lost on where to go. Anyways, thank you everybody for reading this rant, and I apologize if I've made whoever's reading this a bit sad or depressed. I just had to get it out there.

What is going on in society where people are so self-absorbed that they think it's perfectly acceptable to talk on speaker phone or watch videos at full volume while in public or in a shared space. Do I really need to be subjected to listening to your entire conversation in an elevator, grocery store, or breakroom at work. Can you not get some earbuds or headphones to watch your dumb YouTube reels? I really want to just start slapping phones out of hands and say wtf is wrong with you...

I have an abusive ex who physically, sexually and emotionally abused me and at least two women before me. He's blocked everywhere, haven't been in contact with him for four years. I've been in therapy, moved on with my life, met someone wonderful, life is good.

When I say he's blocked everywhere, I mean absolutely everywhere. Every single channel, every single number. The only way for him to contact me would be to write me a letter and even that would go unopened.

Enter new partner: He barely even uses Instagram, never posts, follows like 10 accounts that relate to his niche hobby, plus his friends and me. INSTAGRAM KEEPS RECOMMENDING HIM TO FOLLOW MY ABUSIVE EX BOYFRIEND.

This is so creepy I just want to get off the app for good. I have 3 other ex-boyfriends on there that I'm friendly with and exchange messages like 3 times per year - those aren't being recommended. But this person, where the only recent link is "this person is blocked", keeps showing up? Now I'm wondering what my ex gets to see, does he get notified about posts that people close to me who haven't blocked him made? It's all just so scary and infuriating and absolutely nothing I can do about it.

It was a fresh 6 pack that I bought after I got off work yesterday for us to share today. It was unopened when I went to bed last night, and he went to bed before me. He works from home and I ask him at least twice a week to stop drinking while he works