r/dad

I'm dad (34) with a 2 yr old and we just found out we've got another on the way in 8 months

We were casually trying but not as 'on it' as the first

I've always wanted 2 kids but the first one almost broke me - I've found being a dad the hardest thing I've ever done by a long stretch

I used to be in good shape and now I'm not (I take full accountability on that ) was just about to get back into it and now I feel I should double down on health and routines before next one comes

Whilst our place is fine for another kid it's not ideal nor our forever home - do I start looking now for the next house

Was going to make a career move but now worried I just stay as I have big flex where I am as been there a while but the money is very average

- how do I best prepare myself, wife and child for this upcoming change

- for those with 2 kids+ what would you recommend I do to maximize this period between 1 and 2

- I'm legit freaking out on how the fuk we manage two mostly due to energy and sleep - already feel like I fail most days as a dad

Aware there's many questions - ultimately I feel like my life and getting ahead (career, pay, health) has all been on pause since ng first kid came as I struggle sooo much still trying to just keep us all alive and going now with number 2 I'm worried I'll forever be in this trap of just getting by

My little guy is 2.5 and loves being outside, especially anything with water. Right now we’ve got a small kiddie pool and sometimes I just fill bins with water and give him cups and bowls. He has fun, but I feel like I could do more. The issue is he has older siblings, and they tend to take over whatever setup I create, even when I try to give them their own space. So I’m trying to find water toys sets that are more suited to his age and keep him interested. It gets pretty hot where we live, so having something fun and cooling is important. I just don’t want to keep repeating the same setup every day. I’ve seen different toy combinations and setups mentioned in discussions and even grouped options tied to Alibaba, which made me realize there’s a lot out there. What has worked really well for your toddlers that kept them engaged longer than a few minutes?

i love my dad man i’d choose to be his son in every life sometimes it feels like he’s the only guy who really gets me and even without knowing i have the same habits as he does for example i like bikes and going fast so does he ive been a huge gamer since i was 6 and so was he my dad used to have a 8.20kd on bo3 i train mma and gym and so does my dad for the past 30 years and collecting shoes im different in a few ways yeah but im mainly just a copy of him and it’s really nice to have that because it feels like he’s someone who really gets me because im like him ive gotten into the same hobbies of being athletic,gaming,collecting shoes and going fast without even realizing it and he calls out my bullshit its just so great to have someone who really gets you like that and calls you out on your bullshit bcos im young im gonna make mistakes and he wants me to avoid making dumb choices i remember when i was a little boy too like 6 he always used to take me swimming and bike me to school also biking with him (mountain bikes when i was a kid) and he’d teach me the basics of martial arts and to say the truth sometimes i cry tears of happiness to have a father like i do im actually tearing up a little bit right now i love my dad and im so proud to have him as a father its so great to have someone who really understands you