u/Independent-Ad-3470

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Preparing for number 2 - help!

I'm dad (34) with a 2 yr old and we just found out we've got another on the way in 8 months

We were casually trying but not as 'on it' as the first

I've always wanted 2 kids but the first one almost broke me - I've found being a dad the hardest thing I've ever done by a long stretch

I used to be in good shape and now I'm not (I take full accountability on that ) was just about to get back into it and now I feel I should double down on health and routines before next one comes

Whilst our place is fine for another kid it's not ideal nor our forever home - do I start looking now for the next house

Was going to make a career move but now worried I just stay as I have big flex where I am as been there a while but the money is very average

- how do I best prepare myself, wife and child for this upcoming change

- for those with 2 kids+ what would you recommend I do to maximize this period between 1 and 2

- I'm legit freaking out on how the fuk we manage two mostly due to energy and sleep - already feel like I fail most days as a dad

Aware there's many questions - ultimately I feel like my life and getting ahead (career, pay, health) has all been on pause since ng first kid came as I struggle sooo much still trying to just keep us all alive and going now with number 2 I'm worried I'll forever be in this trap of just getting by

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u/Independent-Ad-3470 — 9 hours ago