r/bigender

I may make a longer gender dump, but I sometimes feels like short of breath for what my gender is doing to me. So many shifts through out a day or even during an hour sometimes between distinct different genders. So i sometimes just ignore gender and try to not deal with it. 🤷‍♀️ Which is easier said than done.

Nonbinary transitions are always really interesting to see to me. I’ve known that I was some form of gender fluid for about ten years now, but it’s only been recently that I’ve started taking some steps out of my comfort zone.

Right now, my transition looks like:
- more androgynous haircut (think surfer)
- voice training to be more neutral
- minimizing my more curved features through diet/exercise and clothing choices
- no makeup unless I specifically want to wear it

What about you guys?

I dont really feel bigender but my gender is kind of too complicated to explain and feels the closest to bigender, am I allowed to call myself bigender??

So in my last post, I thought it was insensitive that I liked my gay friend and so I didn't want to continue carrying feelings for him.

I received replies saying I should confess to him, as I genuinely am attracted to him, not just his physical appearance, but also his personality.

I decided that since my life has been very hectic, I should take some time off and try to regulate my emotions. We ended up working together during the Easter break, and honestly, my feelings got deeper and with it being paired with my brewing anxiety I just stayed silent and he noticed my silence and would ask if I was alright.

I decided to tell him about my trans /non binary identity( I don't really use labels but i feel it's easier to describe my gender when i say im non binary / trans / bigender but i don't tell people about my queerness in general) since it was related to my current situation, so he does know that. During the Easter break, I decided to just stop texting him since I believe that time and space would just help me overcome my immense feelings and help me have a clear head , since i have so much ro focus on.

He noticed this aswell, I wasn't texting him and he texted me about it. After like 2 weeks of no contact. I didn't respond at first since I was shook. He asked if I was good and he hadn't heard from me in a while. I pushed him away since I wasn't in a good mood due to my situation but when I felt better I told him about everything going on in my life and he said that he would be there for me whenever I needed a chat.

He even helped me move across the city recently and we spent hours together just talking and I opened up to him about my family, my past trauma and how I navigate dating and relationships. He also talked about his dating experiences and we had nice moments and all.

We sat in a field and I talked to him more about my life and it was just so nice. God I couldn't shut up like I just wished that time would stop, he's such a kind person. I just fell for him more , his laugh is just so beautiful and he would do some stims and it was so cute.

I was going to confess to him in that field but I held back because you know it was a busy day and all. I also believe he liked this one guy since I see them around together all the time and it's just sort of made me have even more anxiety with my feelings since I believe it's just not worth ruining this friendship because of my attraction to him. I feel like I tell him we won't ever talk again and I don't want that because I really do value him in my life.

It's not a 50% split for me and it changes from time to time but I like making corny 50% jokes in my head

Ex: "If I married a man... our children would have 50% more dad!" "I guess this minoxidil will only harm me 50%...." "Darn I dont like going in the women's bathroom.... oh hey at least it's 50% correct" "if I go outside without a shirt or bra on, I'll only get 50% of the punishment."

i’ll also do some more things to make sure my gender expression is teetering towards masculine (i’m afab but i can look like convincingly like a man with long hair at times) AND my boobs are so small i might be able to get them to just look like normal fat deposits on the chest yk especially if i wear a binder beforehand for a bit

Hi everyone! 3 months ago I've made a post about my crush on my close friend (https://www.reddit.com/r/bigender/s/nPYm9dCGup). The situation evolved into something I'm not sure of what exactly is.

So I've decided to go for it and for the last 3 months I've progressively tried to get closer to her (to make things easier her name is Tama). We've been doing some work and minor projects together, I tried to understand and get into what she likes and she apparently has been trying the same. We got along really well for that short time, she hugged me tightly to say hello and goodbye, we've got some serious chat (she's the kind of intelligent and science person) like some philosophical stuff and others. I was having really good time, my self-esteem has grown very well and I thought maybe it will work.

Three days ago I went for a mountain trip with friends: Tama + 8 others, there were 10 of us. We took two rooms in a small hotel: I was with her in the room and usually our rooms have shared beds (2 people for one) so I was sleeping with her (2x5 rooms).
At the night before the main hike of the trip we all took some beers and we watched some classic films from the 80s in my room. We all were sitting close to each other because of the size of the room and I was sitting next to my other friend (Evan - genderfluid girl). Evan is my ex-crush, I tried to get along more in the past but it failed, however we still like each other.
When I went to the shop for a short while the whole couch was occupied so I've got to sit on the floor. Evan and Tama were sitting really close to each other but I didn't think about it, it was normal in our group. This night when most of my friends went to sleep sadness (from unrelated reason) suddenly struck me and I felt that I really want someone to cheer me up. Tama was sitting next to me, I placed my head on her chest without any questions.
She did not object, she was just sitting there, I felt her heartbeat and breath and I felt rising fear of what can happen. Another friend came from the other room and she quickly stand up and said she wants to drink some water. Then it was well past bedtime so we went to sleep.

Next day during the trip she walked mostly near Evan, the hiking was great and we all had a really good time. That night we were watching another films but Tama acted like she didn't want to sit near me at any cost. Also Evan was doing something similar and they sat together the whole time. When I thought for a bit I realized they've been doing this the whole day.
Today we were getting back to our city using train and those two acted normally to me, like every other day, they were talking with me normally and stopped avoiding me. However today's Tama goodbye hug was way shorter and lighter than usual.

I don't know what happened, I know Tama and Evan are not together. Am I too sensitive for this kind of situations or looking for something that isn't? Is it possible that I just misunderstood the whole affair? I don't know, we were not talking about it with Tama but I still want to express my feelings to her saying it directly.
Maybe it's stupid but I just needed to vent this. I really don't have anyone except Tama to support me in my daily life.

I am a man (26). Ive always liked being a man, i like my male friends, male appearance and as weird as it sounds- my dick.

I do, however, have a tg/bodyswap fetish. For those unaware, its a fantasy fetish of becoming a women/swapping bodies with one.

Ive obviously done some soul searching if im trans and ive came to the conclusion that i am not- i do not wish to be a women as much as i am fascinating to experience female life and pleasure.

The new gpt image model is impressive. Ive taken a photo of myself and asked it to make a girl similar to me. I really liked this photo- im actually attracted to a non existent being. Ive started transforming every recent picture i have of myself to that girl. I gave her a name. Ive generated pictures of her doing stuff i like.

Then i took it a step too far and i did something objectively wrong- ive opened a dating profile of that girl. Pepole were extremely into me- not only my appearance but the way ive conversed. Ive never had this kind of conversations as a "guy".

I was actually very off put by the guys, they where uninteresting and obnoxious (and im also straight, so that makes sense) but ive actually had great connection with girls ive matched with.

I felt realy bad i was doing it but i was compelled. I stayed up all night posing as this fake girl. Fortunately, ive got banned for catfishing and that put an end to it.

The thing is she is on my mind. I think about her and miss her. I've downloaded sims to play as her.

I also feel bad because i have a girlfriend that doesn't know anything about this.

I just feel bad and ashamed. I feel like I'm cheating and i feel like ive conned pepole online (altough apart from harmless conversations nothing happened).

I just wanted to get this of my chest

So im 27 AFAB female pronouns dont really bother me but my name which is very feminine I feel like is foreign. I think I may be bigender. because I was in a ai chat story thing as my oc zade and as the story progressed I felt like I was zade if that makes sense. I always bounced between being cis and Trans but maybe im something in-between any advice would help thanks!

Extremely nervous of this as I'm very secretive about this and do not want to come out anytime soon.... Hi I'm amab androgynous bottom... I've struggled with this for decades and always suppressed these feelings but I've decided to let my feminine side surface little by little as in personal grooming and underwear but still maintain a fairly masculine image in public... The community I live in and my families are strongly against anything remotely trans... I guess I'm just reaching out not wanting to feel alone anymore... Thank you for your time.

I’m taking estrogen to help my body better showcase the feminine side of me as well!

Pros:

-I used to wear bras consistently as a way to give my chest some form, haven’t had the urge since E! Just knowing they’re growing has been so wonderful!

-I feel so much more grounded as an androgyne (male and female at the same time) person, though I hate their isn’t a good pronoun for both genders lol

Cons:

-I don’t get aroused as a boy anymore it seems, but I’m more sensitive to receiving physical affection. How do you initiate “as a girl” if that makes sense? Sex for me has been a purely feminine experience since E

-libido has vanished (can I take or do anything to get it back 😅?)

-I used to have to fight for my fem side to be recognized internally, now I have the opposite issue! Any advice??

Hi.

I wanna say first that I could get wrong on some words, it's not hatred or anything, just a mix of being French (meaning lost in translation), and perhaps ignorance.

I'm a 32yo cis male, who sometimes likes to crossdress privately. I do it both for sexual purposes, but also because I just... like it. I like wearing a skirt, wearing small heels, and if I was taught about it, I would shave my body hair and put a bit of make-up. For now, only one girl friend saw me crossdress, and a few people know about it but never saw me doing it.

Last night, I joined a munch to discover a bit about myself and learn about sexuality. I spoke a lot with a trans woman during that night, told her about how I feel about myself, and I said : "Yeah, I crossdress, but I still feel like a man, I'm not going trans or anything".
And she answered with a small giggle and saying "Yeah, you're an egg.". She explained to me about the egg (showing signs of transgender but don't realize it yet), and then said "You could also be non-binary".

The non-binary stuff turned a lot in my head last night and this morning, with something else coming in the train of thought : genderfluid.

So, I'm lost here : yeah, I crossdress and like women clothes, but I also like being a man, I'm not hating myself for being born that way.

So, what am I : still a cis male, a non-binary, or a genderfluid ?

You can ask me any questions if you think it would help me answer mine.

For me, I switch between the two almost on a dime:

One minute I'll be super masculine, the next I'll be super feminine

It's kinda driving me bonkers & I wanna know if there are any others who experience the kind of rapid switching that I do

I think I am bigender be cause I switched between 2 genders Pangender and agender does this make me bigender

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