u/Remarkable-Yam-7711

Hi, I am currently a student who reapplied for Susi, and my family situation has changed. Since the university year, I had been living solely with Susi.

I contacted my university access office and they contacted Tusla and the guards about my situation since I was under 18.

In April, I got the social worker to send me a file saying I was estranged and I sent the file as my proof of estrangement, as it stated that I have to show that I have been in communication with a social worker.

I got a letter from Susi that my grant had been unsuccessful as they rejected the proof as it wasn't received in the time given.

1. That is false and the system showed they received my proof before the final date.

So I called Susi yesterday and the worker said that the letter from Tusla made it sound like I told them to write me a letter and that there was no signature.

I emailed the Tusla office about the use of more professional language and if they could say that I am estranged as they have taken my report and know I am, instead of saying in the letter that I have "said" or. "Informed" them of estrangement.

Tusla said that they can't because they don't have more proof currently. I'm honestly annoyed as now I have to appeal for my grant and it just seems like the proof from them isn't going to suffice and I need this grant to gain independent status.

The option is to get a court order but honestly, I have no clue how to get a court order for estrangement.

Would anyone know how I should proceed with this?

So in my last post, I thought it was insensitive that I liked my gay friend and so I didn't want to continue carrying feelings for him.

I received replies saying I should confess to him, as I genuinely am attracted to him, not just his physical appearance, but also his personality.

I decided that since my life has been very hectic, I should take some time off and try to regulate my emotions. We ended up working together during the Easter break, and honestly, my feelings got deeper and with it being paired with my brewing anxiety I just stayed silent and he noticed my silence and would ask if I was alright.

I decided to tell him about my trans /non binary identity( I don't really use labels but i feel it's easier to describe my gender when i say im non binary / trans / bigender but i don't tell people about my queerness in general) since it was related to my current situation, so he does know that. During the Easter break, I decided to just stop texting him since I believe that time and space would just help me overcome my immense feelings and help me have a clear head , since i have so much ro focus on.

He noticed this aswell, I wasn't texting him and he texted me about it. After like 2 weeks of no contact. I didn't respond at first since I was shook. He asked if I was good and he hadn't heard from me in a while. I pushed him away since I wasn't in a good mood due to my situation but when I felt better I told him about everything going on in my life and he said that he would be there for me whenever I needed a chat.

He even helped me move across the city recently and we spent hours together just talking and I opened up to him about my family, my past trauma and how I navigate dating and relationships. He also talked about his dating experiences and we had nice moments and all.

We sat in a field and I talked to him more about my life and it was just so nice. God I couldn't shut up like I just wished that time would stop, he's such a kind person. I just fell for him more , his laugh is just so beautiful and he would do some stims and it was so cute.

I was going to confess to him in that field but I held back because you know it was a busy day and all. I also believe he liked this one guy since I see them around together all the time and it's just sort of made me have even more anxiety with my feelings since I believe it's just not worth ruining this friendship because of my attraction to him. I feel like I tell him we won't ever talk again and I don't want that because I really do value him in my life.