r/badwomensanatomy

he's a grown 18 almost 19 year old and I'm his first gf so I'll cut him some slack but in the second week of dating i decided to ask him what he knew about periods and he said "I just thought it was a mood swing." for the past decade of his life. he has an older sister. idk im just a little shocked rn. 😭😭

he also didn't know what a c section was like never heard of the existence of one and was mortified "they cut open your stomachs AHHHH"

he said he had sex ed at school but he never paid attention bc he thought it was weird

idk what to do in general, ofc he is willing to listen if i tell him but i dont know if he'll learn stuff like this on his own. is it strange for the most of opposite gender to not do this? ig we cant even blame him for not naturally having interest in this right???
Edit: okay I've just now explained what discharge and periods are to him and we both tried to look up stuff about morning wood bc he was confused about that too regarding his own anatomy. he said he's gonna try to check out books on pregnancy from the library. pls help us out brainstorming is there anything else about girls that he should know about???

First off im a male i never even knew that it existed until embarrassingly late lol, but today i got curious about it bc ik what it is now and when i saw like drawings of it online to educate myself i thought, it’s just a penis but underdeveloped and small , idk i hope i get corrected or educated more since where im from, ig genitalia anatomy for males and females is a taboo and there’s barely any sex ed, also what’s a hymen and what is it for, anyways im just trying to be more educated and thanks.

Not sure if this belongs to this subreddit, but I need to ask and say it out loud, and Reddit feels like a good place to do so.

I grew up (and still am) with parents who aren’t married (this part is importnant, since it’s connected to being and not being a virgin for some reason) , don’t talk about sex and basically I’ve learned all about it from porn, friends, movies, internet in general. My grandma was the only person when I was little to tell me more about sexual life, she was also the one to enlighten me women give birth from their vaginas and that the baby is actually in the uterus. (thanks to the women correcting me for this part)

I was 12 the first time I heard about the term “virgin” and I was genuinely confused, since I never felt like it was a big deal, I only knew that when I feel like it I can have sex with somebody, lover or not, so it was hella confusing and out of nowhere.

My friends are mostly religious as hell and lowkey living in the 18s, since they’ve asked me “are you a virgin?” (makes me feel hella uncomfortable, since it’s not their bussiness If I have sex or not), I always reply with “yes, why?”, guess what, they never reply lol.

The past couple of months I’ve been kinda scared of judgment, when I have sex, since I feel like people will see me not that worthy or shit like before. I also hate hearing people say “losing virginity”, “I lost my virginity”, “He/she took my virginity”, like PLEASE you do NOT lose anything, you only gain, you gain the achievement in life of having sex, be for real. People back in the days were even having sex parties all day long (talking about the ancient times when we would praise greek Gods).

Another thing that bothers me is the people, men and for some fucking women, that think If a woman has sex, she loses her dignity. You know I’ve never heard somebody saying that if a man has sex, he’s used.

I know misogyny plays a BIG role here, aswell as patriarchy, the world was patriarchal for a VERY VERY long time. So it’s gonna take time to cut off those myths, theories and shit.

And like you cannot know if a woman is a virgin or not, you do NOT take anything.

Yeah this got too long anyways. Hope people wake up and realise how stupid this virginity fetish propaganda looks.