u/katiiiiiiiiiikote

Not sure if this belongs to this subreddit, but I need to ask and say it out loud, and Reddit feels like a good place to do so.

I grew up (and still am) with parents who aren’t married (this part is importnant, since it’s connected to being and not being a virgin for some reason) , don’t talk about sex and basically I’ve learned all about it from porn, friends, movies, internet in general. My grandma was the only person when I was little to tell me more about sexual life, she was also the one to enlighten me women give birth from their vaginas and that the baby is actually in the uterus. (thanks to the women correcting me for this part)

I was 12 the first time I heard about the term “virgin” and I was genuinely confused, since I never felt like it was a big deal, I only knew that when I feel like it I can have sex with somebody, lover or not, so it was hella confusing and out of nowhere.

My friends are mostly religious as hell and lowkey living in the 18s, since they’ve asked me “are you a virgin?” (makes me feel hella uncomfortable, since it’s not their bussiness If I have sex or not), I always reply with “yes, why?”, guess what, they never reply lol.

The past couple of months I’ve been kinda scared of judgment, when I have sex, since I feel like people will see me not that worthy or shit like before. I also hate hearing people say “losing virginity”, “I lost my virginity”, “He/she took my virginity”, like PLEASE you do NOT lose anything, you only gain, you gain the achievement in life of having sex, be for real. People back in the days were even having sex parties all day long (talking about the ancient times when we would praise greek Gods).

Another thing that bothers me is the people, men and for some fucking women, that think If a woman has sex, she loses her dignity. You know I’ve never heard somebody saying that if a man has sex, he’s used.

I know misogyny plays a BIG role here, aswell as patriarchy, the world was patriarchal for a VERY VERY long time. So it’s gonna take time to cut off those myths, theories and shit.

And like you cannot know if a woman is a virgin or not, you do NOT take anything.

Yeah this got too long anyways. Hope people wake up and realise how stupid this virginity fetish propaganda looks.

Do vaginas actually get loose? I know it’s an elastic muscle, but I’ve been reading comments saying this and that, so just wanna make sure If they really get loose or they might get less tight due to post-childbirth/aging, then go back to original state like after arousal/intercourse, of course with aging I know about pelvic exercises, but thats it.

And can somebody explain how the hell did we people devolve into thinking the number of sexual partners makes the vagina change shape or lose value..

EDIT: I read this person’s comment saying that this got downvoted, because it sounds misogynistic or something, I don’t exactly remember, so I’ll explain here better what I mean/feel.

I do NOT have anything against loose vaginas and I can’t comment on them since I’m not sexually attracted to women and I would not give a fuck about anyone’s vagina besides mine, especially on whether its tight or nah. I posted this, because I am concerned about my pleasure (in the future though) and my future partners’ ones. I’m also a little skeptical on child birth, since I’m scared and I read one comment (definitely not helping) saying they got teared apart or something, oh shit.

Thank you to the kind, supportive and informative people out there though, appreciate you ✌🏻🥹

So I (14F) want to kill myself, but it’s not because of my parents, friends or anyone, It’s simply because of me. My brain is just fucked up, it stops me from enjoying life. For example - wanted to try waxing today, my brain didn’t let me even try, I removed the wax slowly, it was hurting bad, I got mad, I threw the whole wax thing on the floor, didn’t clean it up, went to my room, realised there are people who wax constantly and don’t have a problem with it. Started cursing them out, wishing bad things to them, etc.

Another thing, I have a porn addiction and it’s so hard to genuinely not think of anything for a sec, even currently whilst typing this I have them thoughts of intercourse and pictures in my head, I’m genuinely done with this, it’s tiring, I can’t think straight.

I’ve never had a boyfriend, all my friends switch between 5-10 guys a year and I am just there.

I hate myself, I hate my body, my face. I can’t take pictures of myself, the slighest glimpse from my own looks makes me cry and suffer. I can’t look in the mirror. My friends don’t have a picture with me. I cry so much whenever I try to take a pic/video of myself or someone asks me to. I won’t achieve anything in life whatsoever, so I just simply think it’s pointless, since I’m already planning on ending it.

I only enjoy watching porn, that’s it. The only thing that makes me happy. Whenever I’m happy, I watch porn. Whenever I’m sad, I watch porn. Whenever I’m bored, excited, tired, headache, stomachache, temperature, in love - I watch porn.

I’m already tired of this shit. It’s sad no one from my friends or family is gonna read this lol.

‼️ CAN OLDER GUYS STOP HITTING ME UP? I just got a request “Hey princess, you into older guys, maybe i can help”???!!! WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? Most of my requests to chat are from men that read the post without using the head on their shoulders, it’s so disgusting. Another thing encouraging me to go. Can’t stand yall people. ‼️