r/asexualdating

Retired but not retiring librarian (yes, I’ve heard all the “hush” jokes). I read a lot, think a lot, and still believe curiosity is one of the better qualities in a person.

I’m politically liberal and active — volunteering, paying attention, and not pretending everything is fine when it isn’t. I volunteer at the symphony and theater, which means I like both culture, even streaming shows. I try to meditate, play guitar, practice speaking Spanish and writing.

I have a cat who rules the roost! I also like dogs and occasionally wish I had one.

I like to cook (pad Thai, tofu rice salad, and flan are a few recent dishes) and I enjoy conversation that actually goes somewhere.

I also like to stay active — walks, exercise classes, getting out and about — and would like someone who can do those things with me.

I’m looking for companionship, conversation, and affection. I am challenged by sexual intercourse, but I do want closeness and cuddling.

I’m 72 and generally looking for someone around my age (roughly 68–78), though I care more about compatibility than exact numbers.

Practical notes:

- I’m sensitive to strong fragrance, so light or none is best.

- If you’re allergic to cats, this won’t work.

Also, to be direct — if you’re conservative, MAGA, or a Trump supporter, we are not a match.

Please be respectful. I will ignore anything inappropriate.

If you’re kind, thoughtful, reasonably active, and able to have a real conversation, feel free to message me

I accepted that I’m asexual years ago, and I also made the decision that I would only ever date other asexual people again. But lately I’ve been feeling just so off. I don’t want anyone close to me anymore. I don’t want to open up, I don’t want to love anyone like that again. I don’t want anything deeper than flirting. Every time I’ve tried, it’s either gone nowhere or ended up making me feel worse.

I’ve never experienced teenage love. Nobody in real life has ever shown interest in me. The only people who ever did were online, where they don’t even really see me. I only met one of them in person and it was awful. He wasn’t ace, and I felt pressured and honestly just disgusted the whole time. Being asexual feels so limiting sometimes. Like it cuts off so many possibilities before they even start. When I was younger, I used to think it was weird when people ended up alone. Now I feel like that’s exactly where I’m headed. I genuinely don’t believe love is meant for me. For once, it feels like there isn’t “someone out there.” Like my story just doesn’t include that part. Like I was created, but never fully finished.

I’ve accepted it, I think. But sometimes it just hits me how lonely and unfair it feels.

I'd like someone ideally in Canada or the USA because time zones suck, 21-35, without kids/doesn't want kids.

I'm not a fan of kids, they aren't my thing, I'm happy being a cool aunt or something tho 🫡

I am open to anyone who is AFAB, idc if your a trans man, non-binary or a cis-girl I'm ok with it.

I am located in Ontario, Canada. I'm alright with long distance and starting online till we are comfy enough with a meet up.

I'm ace, I consider myself neutral to sex, it's not high on my list of priorities tbh I'd rather work on my hobbies lol

Ok so with that outta the way here's some of the important crap about me.

I'm 26, 5'2.5, I'm avarage weight, I wear glasses and have dyed medium curly hair with an undercut, I have an hourglass figure and I'm busty (I will be getting a reduction in a bit more than a month)

My hobbies include cosplay, sewing, writing, art stuff like painting very rarely.

I do have a job and I've been to collage, I'm a head chef in a retirement home currently but through collage I'm a pastry chef lol I do not like baking, it's a weird story.

I love watching horror movies, watching adult animation like hazbin hotel, TADC, family guy as well as shows like school spirits, Ted and I've been trying to get into euphoria.

I currently own two female guinea pigs, but live in a house with a few cats and a dog.

If you think you'll be a good match send me a message with some stuff about you and an emoji of your choice just so I know you've read through everything 🫎

My responses may be a little slow since I work quite a bit and have limited time.

Hello! I'm Luca... or Jasper, or Ginger, I kinda answer to anything at this point.

Looking mostly for people in Texas, but honestly open to any and all. /Especially/ if your sleep schedule is backwards, I work nights so I'm mostly active overnight or early morning.

I'm aroace, specifically Graysexual and Cupioromantic<3

Pronouns are They/It

♡Currently hopelessly single♡

I'm a horrible judge of character apparently, didn't keep in touch with anyone from highschool, and really just want more than two friends.

I'm various flavors of nerd, artistic, and a spiritual theater kid (I got overwhelmed within a week and switched to a second art period).

**Autistic af**

☆Intrests☆

-bugs

-art

-baking/cooking

-random collections/crowcore

-overly specific Spotify Playlists (I will make you one)

-writting (sporadiclly and half finished)

-anime

Mostly text, calls or photos are for after I'm comfortable with you so please dont ask:(

I can talk your ear off about jumping spiders, sea creatures, and will send an overwhelming amount of photos of my cats, bugs i find at work, and random memes I find while spiraling into Pinterest rabbit holes while looking for /one/ specific thing-

Anyway! If any of this sparks your particular curiosity go ahead and send me a dm, I'm a lot more awkward and shy than I seem I promise, and I don't bite..... unless you try to take my cupcakes<3

I’m doing some research to make my dating app the most inclusive possible. Twyn is an AI twin dating app that surfaces real-time compatibility before you decide to match.

Q: If sexual chemistry isn’t a factor, what values/aspects of a person are more important to you when finding a partner specially as an Asexual person? Thank you for any input, I greatly appreciate it 😊

about me:

i’d describe myself, i'm a nerd, runner, and community builder.

i moved to the city years ago and decided to build the kind of community I wanted to be part of so I started a meetup around nerd interests (think anime/manga/video games/adjacent). since then, it’s turned into everything from anime lookalike contests to dessert crawls in chinatown, dumpling potlucks and a ton of great memories in between. i wanted a group where i'd do stuff i'd normally do alone but with others and am happy to build an awesome community in the city.

community and service are a big part of who i am. i regularly volunteer at Nourishing Hope, a social services org, and i’m hoping to find someone who values giving back and building something meaningful together.

outside of that, my side quests include:
• Concerts (Childish Gambino, Aminé, Omar Apollo are top-tier)
• Spotify rotation that swings from Carly Rae Jepsen to Magdalena Bay to indie rock and R&B
• Baking egg custard tarts and pork buns
• Board game nights (social strategy > 4-hour rulebooks)
• Book club (we rotate off peer recommendations)
• Running (grew up with it, still run the occasional race)
• Conventions and local pop culture trivia

i love trying new restaurants, volunteering together, book clubs, game nights, basically any adventure that’s better in good company.

if you’re into side quests, good food, shared purpose, and a little nerd energy, we’ll get along.

what i'm looking for:

i’m pretty intentional about community and the life i’ve built in chicago, and i’m hoping to find a meaningful, long-term partnership.

random media i enjoy (not exhaustive):

• animation - adventure time, avatar: the last airbender, bob's burgers, tuca & bertie
• anime - detective conan, hunter x hunter, mob psycho 100, spy x family
• movies - the perks of being a wallflower, fargo, life of pi, avengers (my letterboxd 4 is really scattered...but superheroes, and comedies have been constant)
• novels - ali hazelwood, fredrik backman, john green, hank green, matt haig, r.f. kuang, taylor jenkins reid (i'm all over the place)
• tv - brooklyn 99, the good place, parks & rec (think any michael schur show ranging from the office...etc)
• video games - baldurs gate 3, fallout, final fantasy, hades, persona, slay the spire (then couch co-op includes golf with friends, overcooked, plateup, stardew valley)
• youtube - vlogbrothers, danny gonzalez, drew gooden...then too many foodtubers/anitubers to list that rotate in and out

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this is lifted from my acespace profile, and is a throwaway reddit lol.

Hi all! My name is Mandy. I feel a bit awkward talking about myself, but here we go!

I just turned 29. I haven't dated anyone in a long time, but I'm going to try throwing my hat back in the ring, if you will. I have a lot of love, both romantic and platonic, to give but have let my dread of the sexual side of allo dating keep me from searching for the kind of connection that feels comfortable for me. I found this subreddit and decided to see how posting here goes!

I live in Oregon and would love to meet other ace folks of any gender and around my age in the state, especially in the Portland area, though I'm open to online dating/long-distance relationship. I'm looking for monogamy when it comes to romantic partnership.

I'm a big nerd for Star Wars and geology. I just started teaching the latter. It's been a great experience. I feel so blessed to be able to give back to the geoscience community.

My hobbies are creative writing, cross stitch, thrifting for clothes, and playing cozy video games—normally Stardew Valley or Pokémon (but I'm not competitive haha). I have a long list of books that I want to read, but I don't actually get around to doing it as much as I'd like. When I do, though, I reach for anything that can teach me something new—from nonfiction to philosophy to scientific papers.

I love to eat and cook good vegetarian food. Thai or Indian cuisine are my favorites.

My ace experience is a little confusing even to me because I've spent so many years trying to suppress it. If it becomes important to explain later on, I'll do my best to do so! I will say now though that I'm not interested in physical sexual intimacy.

If you're interested in chatting, feel free to reply here or DM me!

good evening! i am a 39 year old female living in maryland. i am looking to date. i am romantic positive, and aego-sexual.

i own my house, have a large family support system, and have a cat and a dog! i have a fun circle of friends and enjoy traveling, hiking, cycling, gardening and reading. i have 2 graduate degrees and have lived in 3 different countries.

i am looking for someone who is similar in age, who also is romantic but on the gray or asexual spectrum. i am looking for a long term relationship/ life partner. i have mostly everything in my life sorted out but am still looking for “the one”!

i will send photos 📸 once you message me to introduce yourself! ❤️

I’m 19 years old and currently in a phase of life where I want to expand my circle and build real, lasting friendships. I enjoy connecting with people on a deeper level talking about dreams, interests, music, everyday struggles, and even the random, funny things that come up. I value people who are genuine, open-minded, and easy to talk to, someone who can both share laughs and have meaningful conversations. I’m the kind of person who listens, supports, and shows up, and I appreciate the same energy in return. Whether it’s chatting online, sharing hobbies, or just keeping each other company through conversations, I’m simply looking for a friend who’s kind, understanding, and willing to grow a positive connection together over time.

Hey,

I'm 32 y.o. ace female from Bavaria, Germany.

Finally feel ready for looking specifically for some meaningfull connection. Romantic or qpr. Wouldn't mind making some freimds as well, though. Preferably at least in a distance where rl encounters are not completely impossible.

As I'm quite social anxious I think it's a good way to try to reach out for someone. I'm heavily sex repulsed, yet have some kinks (sub side of it, would tell more in dm) and would like to have possibility to live them out with the significant one.

Uncertain about romantic attraction, but regard myself as kinda biromantic. So open for a chat with ppl disregarding of gender.

I'm a pharmacist and interested in science. Like boardgames and roleplay (ttrpg, especially horror/mystery kind of). Also I craft as in crocheting or beading. I like learn new stuff and listen, what other people have passion for.

Would be glad if someone had interest and ready for a chat 🥰

Hi, I am a 30 year old cis woman hoping to maybe meet my partner in crime one day? I have my own business, in the future intend to have my own home and would just like another girl to live out the rest of my days with. I am looking for exclusively a romantic relationship or queer platonic relationship, romance would be nice but not nesecary because I am looking for someone to grow old with. If she ends up being the love of my life even better.

I lean more towards discord, so if you don't want to go to discord after we've gone back and forth a bit then it probably won't work.

Now because these are non-negotiable I am going to go ahead and say this I am not interested in; people that smoke indoors (even in a car I am not a fan but that's more negotiable), expect me to do marijuana with them (can't, I'm on a medication and if I fail a blood test I could lose that medication coverage), allergic to or don't like dogs and do not have a job or not currently looking for one (I don't make enough to support two people if one is not working).

Somethings I like are video games, animamanga, roleplaying (I'd love to get into DnD), I used to read all the time but if you have a great book I might check out the audiobook ;), Halloween, cosplay and traveling. My current obsession is Digimon and Honkai Star Rail.

My age range is 24 to 35. Distance isn't a problem, I am open to people from outside the USA if you intend to move here at some point.

If you want to start a conversation feel free to tell me your age, where you're from, what your hobbies are and what exactly you are looking for. Or literally anything (but I would prefer if it's more than just 'hi'). If we swap discords then I would prefer if we swap pictures there.