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Coworker situation. What does this mean?

So today. Like any normal day im at work and im coming back from my lunch and one of my coworkers who has her locker a few spots down from me start a conversation. We happen to talk about her relationship and if she doesn't know if she wants out or not. But she has her name on the lease and that makes it complicated and what not. Nothing wrong here. Just a conversation. Then she says.....but the sex is really good, want to see? Im startled at first trying to process what she was referring to see. I out of curiosity say sure. See what? And she then proceeds to show me two videos of her having sex with her bf. Mind you the images and videos were doggy and reverse cowgirl showing her nice figure. I didnt know what to think of it and WHY she would show me this very personal encounter. We arent that close and I dont know what to do with that information or imaging of her. Now I cant seem to see her without thinking of her sexually. Can somebody rationalize or explain her possible intentions or a similar experience that one of you redditors have had similar and how you went about it. Just a wild crazy random moment. Appreciate the input in advance

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u/Kooky-Oil-4398 — 20 hours ago
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What What happened to the 9-5?

what happened to the actual 8 hour work day? I remember when work days used to be 8 hours a day, with a lunch included in that. usually Monday to Friday. Now it’s become a 8-4:30, 8:30-5 - 8.5 hours a day standard at most jobs, days offs drop Monday or a Wednesday and it really sucks. Less and less time for our own live

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u/TheJulsss — 1 day ago

Quitting PepsiCo after 8 months. Am I throwing away a "dream career" or saving my life?

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Hey guys, I need some real talk from people who’ve actually been in the corporate trenches.

I’m currently 8 months into a Digital Transformation role at PepsiCo. On paper, it’s the dream—big brand, "corporate family" vibes, and a golden ticket for my CV. But honestly? It’s been a total disaster for my mental health. I’ve gone from being super ambitious to feeling depressed, demotivated, and literally having panic attacks before work.

**Here’s the situation:**

My manager is basically setting me up to fail. We have a massive audit coming up, and he’s blocked the certifications I need to fix the gaps in my area. At the same time, he’s comparing my performance to people who’ve been here for 6+ years, while I’m still in my first year. He already told me I’m the "lowest performer," so I know a "Below Expectations" review is coming, which means zero raises and a permanent stain on my record.

**The "Excluded" vibe:**

The whole team is going to a global year-end summit, and I’m the only one told to stay back because of "budget." I’m even getting denied basic stuff like a headset for calls. I fixed a major system issue recently, and instead of a "good job," he labeled it "unfunctional" because of one tiny detail. It feels like I'm being positioned as the fall guy for the upcoming audit.

**The Struggle:**

I already handed in my resignation because I can't take the toxicity anymore. But now I'm hit with this massive wave of "corporate guilt." The company talks so much about being a "family" that leaving feels like I'm failing them, even though the daily reality is destroying me.

**I need your advice on:**

  1. Is a "Tier 1" brand name like PepsiCo worth staying for if it means getting a PIP or a bad performance review on my permanent record?

  2. How do you stop feeling guilty for leaving a "prestigious" company when the environment is actually trash?

  3. Does an 8-month stint at a big name look like a red flag, or is it better than staying and getting fired/pushed out later?

I feel like I’m saving my sanity, but part of me is scared I'm tanking my career. Help me out.

Toxic management at PepsiCo is leaded to panic attacks and depression. Being set up to fail an audit. Resigned to protect my record, but the "corporate family" guilt is hitting hard. Am I making a mistake?

Update: I am at late 20s , and this job is double lower any basic offers I have seen

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u/zerozs311 — 19 hours ago

Autistic volunteer (adult man) acting inappropriately with me (supervisor)

I am the volunteer supervisor at a charity and we have a volunteer who's 40 years old, autistic, and has a very low understanding of social situations and appropriate behavior. He's very loud, obnoxious, annoying, and if you say anything he will "sorry, sorry, sorry..." x 1 million. He was onboarded as a volunteer before I started this job by my predecessor. My boss has some reasons she wants us to keep him around like it looks good in the community (small town).

The problem is, he seems to be interested in me and he doesn't understand I'm only nice to him because I'm at work doing my job, not because we're friends. A couple months ago, he texted me asking me if I had a boyfriend, telling me he wanted to meet my parents, and he called me "dear." I told him I don't answer inappropriate questions. There were also several incidents where he spammed me and so he has now been blocked. There was one incident with another young girl where he grabbed her hand in the lobby, in front of clients, and twirled her around and said "I'm gonna be your boyfriend, you're gonna be my girlfriend," etc. Yesterday he said to me as I was making a list of tasks for the volunteers to do, "are you writing me love letters?". There have been other incidents too, unrelated to inappropriate relationship comments.

I have told him before after other incidents that he is not to talk about relationships while volunteering with us. I don't think he understands.

This is my first management position, I'm 25 year old woman. His comments do make me uncomfortable and are really bothering me.

Does anyone have any advice on what to do or how to handle this situation?

My boss says if there's another serious incident that we can let him go, which I really would like to because I don't like him one bit. But I don't want to seem like I'm incapable of managing people either.

Update: I'm not against working with autistic people just because I dislike this one autistic person. We have 2 other volunteers who are autistic and I have no issues with them. They act appropriately, are respectful, and do their jobs. I have spoken to this man about his behavior and my boss has as well and we do our best to accommodate him but the inappropriate behavior and comments just don't seem to stop. That's what I'm asking for advice for - what to do next.

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u/Willing-Fan-8682 — 4 days ago
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More of "Pet Peeve" then a serious problem

I have a new co-worker who has this annoying habit of really grossly clearing his throat all the time. Like in that way a lot of men do before they spit out phlegm (thank God he doesn't do that). I thought maybe he had a cold, but it's been like this for over 2 weeks, and he doesn't sound sick.

It's sounds dumb to be annoyed by it, but its grossing me out. We have to share a work truck together while driving to sites, so it's not like I can get away from him. Unless I put my earbuds in, which seems rude. Since he's new he may have questions for me, so I can't tune him out that way either.

Should I say something? Do I be somewhat passive like, "Do you have a cold?", or do I be more direct?

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u/ShesAaRebel — 2 days ago
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Toxic older coworker

Hi so I 23F have been working as a housekeeper in a care home for about a year and a half now and honestly can’t grasp the fact that middle-aged women (especially divorced) are just so miserable and insufferable to work with. From day one I had this coworker that I genuinely thought was a supervisor when I walked in. She was giving me to do lists, instructions, feeding back complaints and I’m like sure. Turns out she only just started same time as me!!

She’s so aggressively dominant in conversations that you can’t even have a normal chat with her without wanting to rip ur own hair out. Like for example, I’ll say “oh I heard that the shop down the roads really busy tod—NO ITS NOT! IVE BEEN THERE TODAY! Who did you hear that from? What time did they go at? What were they in for? Like get off my fucking dick. This happens EVERY conversation! To the point I just go mute now.

Or when I was saying to my ACTUAL boss that I really wanted to go to a concert on August and before she even had the chance to respond this bitch jumps in like “no, no, no, you can’t go because I’m off” when my boss left for a smoke she proceeded to shrug her shoulders smiling and said “the thing is, I haven’t even got any plans in August, I just took them off for the sake of it”. I managed to reach to my boss later in private she said that’s it’s okay and I can just book the concert and to have a good time( lovely woman)

When the bitch found out about this she was visibly furious. She was trying to chase me up on the dates I was off but I kept stalling (she has a notebook of everyone else’s holidays). On our next break she turned to our boss and went “can I just say something? I think it’s very unfair that people are off when others are already off the same week!” I honestly started to laugh within. You lose bitch

What’s really unfair though is the fact that she had to get sent home one day because she came in soo drunk (and drove) I’m not talking like hungover like she was clearly still drinking. I don’t know if our boss ever found out because it was swept under the rug and then she got employee of the month (probably a sympathy vote) She’s been fired off her previous jobs for drinking aswell so this was a pattern.

To make her even more unlikable is there was another alcoholic in work (who I felt sorry for this man minds his own business but was struggling) and instead of showing sympathy toward him as she could relate; She makes the most vile and vulgar comments about this man “he should drink himself to death” “well it’s his choice if he wants to go down that road” like bitch you got some fucking NERVE!

She constantly talks over me and whenever she sees me chatting or laughing with other coworkers she’ll rudely interrupt saying I got several “complaints” and how things need to improve she’ll be like “there’s been many complaints about bins not getting changed” I’ll play her game back to her and be like “well can’t be true I change every single bin every day who said?” And she’ll backtrack to “idk just a few ppl saying things”.

She’ll tell me to “watch my time” during breaks when she starts her break 30 min early.

She also frequently checks my side of the building and will find ANY ERROR to point out yet her side is covered in BLACK MOULD! That could kill somebody! It’s a miracle to me how she’s not fired she must rlly just talk her way out of it.

It’s not even like I can avoid her she’s in EVERY single day! She does overtime cause she has no life outside of that place but just wish she would back the fuck up and leave me alone.

Any advice? And I don’t mean “report her to HR” advice because clearly she seems to have nine lives.

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u/Anonymous5823 — 5 days ago

Disabled and being fired AGAIN for it

Hello all! I (31F) am having issues with a new employer when it comes to my disabilities for the *3rd time* in the last year. I’m starting to get really sick of it!

In my interview with the owner, I disclosed that I was disabled. I’m the type of disabled that is not clearly visible, so most people question it when I tell them. We further spoke about me needing shorter shifts and that legally I was able to work up to 25 hours on average a week. She did not have a problem with this at the time.

Fast forward to today, I was off today and when I worked on Saturday she was acting kind of shady (at least in my opinion) I texted her because we spoke about me coming in on Tuesday but never specified a time.

When she finally got back to me, she had me working a 10 hour shift on Friday this week. I was kinda surprised because we had already covered this previously… so I reminded her that I couldn’t physically work a 10 hour shift and that I enjoyed the job and hoped we could come up with a solution that worked for everyone.

She replied : Hey! I just wanted to be honest with you — right now I really need someone who can work full-day shifts (about 9 hours). It’s been hard to find another person to share half days, so I’m not able to make that work at the moment.

🫠🫠🫠🫠

Totally doing a 180° from what we talked about! Which really upsets me because this isn’t the first time I’ve had this happen to me. So, looks like I’m getting fired *once again* for being disabled and needing reasonable accommodations.

I understand she’s a small business owner. I understand that she needs someone to work the full days. But why the hell did she hire me in the first place?? I told her what the deal was up front. She said she was fine with it. Now, suddenly, it’s an issue??

I’m just so mad this is happening again.

Thanks for letting me vent. 🥲

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u/Mrshamsandwich94 — 5 days ago
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prob getting fired but not my fault please help

Edit: lovely user summarized my word vomit here

Hi 21F, desperate for advice ASAP!!!!!!!!!! Have a meeting with my manager in like an hour. Sorry if this sounds rushed.

Started working as an assistant at a medical clinic like 6 weeks ago. Im the youngest and newest and I have zero prior experience, but im quite fond of my job. Recently been experiencing workplace exclusion of some sort idk. The other assistants have been working for many years and they’re super cliquey, youngest after me is 25 I think? They were generally super helpful and all until recently.

I have become the. Person to blame for everything. I know i am the most likely to make trivial mistakes. I do own up to my mistakes. I still have lots of leniency, so the other staff have been taking advantage of it.

Recently I got really sick and was admitted to the hospital multiple times. Something about my intestines or liver idk and I missed around a week of work. I kept my manager updated the whole time, but obvi a lot of updates were last minute. It’s really out of my hands tho because thy still haven’t figured out what’s actually happening to me. When I came back on Monday, everyone was so super strange to me. I did come back with a box of expensive pastries tho!

Anyway first day back Monday, I worked 4 hrs instead of 9-6. got blamed for a phone sitch where a patient thought I was my coworker. She called multiple times and the acting manger eventually got super fed up (valid). Took an emergency appt request old white man and swear on my life nonstop told him we’d call him IF!!!! and WHEN! we could take him in. I guess he showed up later and demanded a dr see him and that pissed everyone off. Lowkey would not have been an issue if I had worked my regular hours.

There are sooooo many instances where staff would blame things on me Ex. Messing up an order/appt/machine/ everything idek. Then I get a passive aggressive talk from the manager. I’ve been just accepting my fate an keeping it to myself but now it has snowballed into. Idk complete shit.

Day 2 Tuesday my manager told me I’m not allowed to book appointments and should only do filing (paper based)unless someone is watching over me/I get confirmation. That’s fine I love filing , but it’s such a waste of time why am I even working! Inconvenient to everyone and the girl who was in charge of me looked overwhelmed w all the other stuff. Other staff would ask me to do things I’d regularly do but lowkey malicious compliance I’d say

Manager said I can’t do this today….😇

Anyway other staff were pissed at god knows what + me, no one spoke to me, I’d get ignored, just iced out. Girl in charge “A” called manager and said I was making her uncomfy. I had an attitude and I had a bitchy face all day spreading negativity.

Lowkey a) my skins been breaking out so I showed up w a mask on barefaced that’s on me tho. B) stand ur fucking ground ur like 25? She barely spoke to me all day.

Manager called in again and asked if I. Wanted to go home early (2.5hrs into my 5 hr shift lmfao) with pay and I was kinda hesitant but took it bcuz everyone was being so wtf.

I haven’t really been properly trained, can’t operate the Special Cool machines yet + a lot of little things that got left out. but people still expect me to know what I’m doing and get frustrated when I don’t. I get it I have no experience in this area but it’s not my first job and not my first time having coworkers…. Clinic is super busy but staff have been acting like im 10yo nepo with no social skills = taking more advantage of me. Not my fault im a youngho

I always ask for feedback and criticism I’ve been carrying around my notebook taking notes since day 1. No one ever communicates with me except drs and manager I have to investigate myself for info about me and I overhear my name be spoken (neg) like at least twice a week.

Im supposed to work 9-6 rn but manager sai don’t come in which im rocking with, my dear mother is super supportive telling me to quit but i love the actual job. Hate the staff.

Anyway idk what to do pls. WWYD if u were me idc if I do get fired anymore actually but I wanna clear my name cuz why r they doing me so dirty. Im not a lazy bitch im a type a crazy obsessive bitch. Aaaaaaaaa

Actually lmk if im in the wrong cuz i totes could be just oblivious. My head hurts I just wanna explain my pov to manager without coming off unnecessarily defensive.

TLDR

Scapegoat young new hire being blamed for every bad thing that happens at the office want to clear my name because im gonna get fired probs. WWYD pls lmk. What would my queens Malala yousafzai animated Barbie and Greta thunberg do.

Plssss anyone anything RIGHT Neow my meeting is in an hour thanks love u all. Sorry this is long/if hard to follow

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u/General-Cow-6921 — 3 days ago
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Enshitification of the job.

My job has recently gone down the path to enshitification. I’ve worked for the same company now for 14 years (i won’t say which because they have a policy against talking about them on social media). I come in every day with the goal of doing the best job i can. I’m early every single day even before a big crackdown on employees routinely dragging in 15+ mins late and taking extended extra breaks. I don’t talk, i don’t mess around, if I’m scheduled to be working you’ll find me at my desk working. I even come back from lunches and breaks early and have been recognized for this by my manager.

I work in a field that sometimes has software upgrades come along that reduce the need for human workers. We’ve had a number of layoffs over the past 14 years but i’ve held on and have done a good job. 1 1/2 years ago i had a serious health issue. Blood clots in my lungs which landed me in the ER for almost a week on morphine and 2 months leave after that. I came back to work and was told i wasn’t needed anymore. I could either take severance or whatever job they happened to have available in another department. After some debate i took the job. This department is a shit show. Managers are often out for extended periods of time leaving leads to run everything, my manager’s manager switched to work from home and rarely drags in (unless they’re firing someone). Recently they enshittified by instituting new policies on errors and metrics and everything else. If you’re late. A write up. If you get 1 error (i work in data entry) a write up and while it used to fall off our record after 3 months they QUADRUPLED that to 12 months. If you’re not making your stats. A write up. 4 of these will get you fired. Now on top of everything they’re counting efficiency against us which is our system time. If you’re red at the end of the month. You guessed it, another write up. As i said I’ve been with this company for 14 years and despite screaming about their method of figuring their numbers being broken, they’ve done nothing. A prime example, i was always dark green on efficiency at around 85% in my earlier department. In the current one i do THE EXACT SAME THING, and am red at 72%. That means i don’t get up for bathroom breaks or talk or anything. If I’m supposed to be working, thats where you’ll find me. I’ve complained multiple times about this and they just brush it off as me doing something wrong. I’ve started having health problems again and am trying to take care of those while i can, while i’m still employed. My depression is worsening day by day. Its getting hard to cope. I have panic attacks and chest pains from time to time. Its hard coming in doing the best i can and still being kicked in the balls. I try and tell myself its probably for the best in the end if i’m not here anymore but i have alot of friends over these years i’ll never see again. Some are planning on retiring just to get the hell out. One guy planned on retiring before this year but decided to stick around for the insurance and they fired him right before Christmas.

I’m getting up there in age, i’m 53 and have done corporate or computer jobs most of my life. Its hard to even think about doing something else or interviewing in today’s world. Any advice?

Thanks for reading.

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u/godammitrachelle — 6 days ago
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Am I the asshole

Am I the asshole for telling my boss I don't feel safe on shift when it is just me in the building and my last shift had three lads come in and try to get at me over the counter? She seems to think its all forgotten

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u/splinter-remy — 4 days ago

Would you wash your hands after every diaper change you do if your job is in a nursery with eight babies even if you use gloves every time?

I wash my hands after every diaper change even though I use gloves because I feel disgusting afterwards if I don’t and technically I’m supposed to as it’s state rules. Like you’re not supposed to touch another baby after a change unless you wash your hands. My co worker told me yesterday that she doesn’t see why I wash my hands after every change cause I use gloves every time. I have caught her using germ x half the time which I can’t use since I’m allergic to the ingredients. Which makes her faster than I am. In my eyes I’m doing what I’m supposed to with what I have to use and she’s half doing it. It just bothers me a bit and a part of me wants to tell her to shut it because she told me we have to work on me being faster with it. How would you all handle this situation? Is it the co worker projecting onto me because I’m doing it right and she’s not or something else? Advice needed please.

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u/Superb-Sherbet-3917 — 4 days ago
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Boss wants Feedback

Two years ago, my wonderful boss retired, and the person under him took over which left his position open so he brought over his Bestie from his last company. Which is now my boss.

My boss loves to gossip wants to be in the know of everything that that’s going on, I’m not sure he’s ever been a manager. He says things that just don’t seem appropriate. He openly admitted when he first started that he really doesn’t like to work. He likes the easy way out so he’s all about automation and that sort of thing. Also keeps mentioning how I need to let him know my in & pits of my job because what about if one day I get hit by a bus and then no one knows how to do my job I mean, who says that????

There was an incident where I replied to someone with an exclamation ❗️ And he came back and said that person was very upset and went to him and asked if I was angry and this whole ordeal so I took it upon myself to go to this person and apologize and let them know that was not my intention. (I have been

With this company for over a decade) Well, this person did not have a clue of what I was referring to said that he never said that so now I feel like is my boss a liar I don’t know what to make of it

Well, he wants feedback from me so I sort of want to ask him has he ever been a manager? Has he ever managed people? What does he think his MANAGEMENT style is? I just want advice to see how to approach this

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u/OutrageousKick8214 — 8 days ago
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I’m young but new grads are illiterate

I graduated college 4 years ago and have been working in the corporate world in New York ever since. I’ve been managing associates since the end of my first year. I don’t want to sound like a boomer but I’m genuinely concerned for the state of education in this country. Every year the quality of associates decreases significantly. I’m at the point where I have to rewrite every thing they do before it’s sent. If I ask them to check something for grammar/clarity/redundancy they have no clue what’s wrong or what to look for. Editing their writing takes up at least 50% of my working hours. These are college educated people. How are colleges allowing their students to graduate without being able to write a simple sentence?? How can you go into that much debt and still not know how to write in your native language??

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u/Responsible_Rate_519 — 10 days ago

new job, crazy bullying incident already

I'm few weeks into a new role and already feeling like I need to leave.

Raised a pretty basic contractual/HR query and got a completely disproportionate response from a senior member of staff, he was verbally aggressive, raised voice/shouting, threatened to worsen my conditions, dock my pay (which isn't even in his power) he threw things about and it was very uncomfortable situation over something that I raised in a friendly 'hey can i just clarify this' manner.

It's turned into a big thing as he was overheard. and bosses have acknowledged it and said they’ll come back to me, but have also made it clear this person is very long-standing, so I’m not expecting much to change. I've also been advised that 'that's just what he's like but he's not normally quite this bad' so it seems like he's an ahole but people tolerate him and he apparently has a particular problem with me.

Feels like I’m being asked to just work around it, though I don't know what approach they will take after the bosses have discussed.

I’m conscious I’m early in my career and want a supportive environment, but equally don’t want to jump ship too quickly and explain it on my CV.

I would love some thoughts, especially if anyone has been through or managed similar. I just don't know what to do and I'm very anxious/tearful about the whole thing- for context I am a woman 30 years his junior and newly hired so it was very intimidating.

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u/Fun-Witness-7700 — 7 days ago

Why does my male coworker hate me?

When i started work and was doing my training he came up to me and said are you (my name) and asked me how life was treating me, I was nervous so kind of incoherently made like eh noises lmao and he then made a joke about how work isn't worth it, then he just started being weird toward me e.g trying to lock me in the freezer and asking what my problem is when I'm doing nothing wrong, also asking me questions and calling me a bitch when I answer them as well as asking my co workers why they're being so nice to me also obnoxiously imitating my hand movements, I'm really new, I just dont understand why he hates me, any advice is welcome 😭❤️

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u/ieatchildren6954 — 4 days ago

Boss problems

What would you do or say after asking your boss if he had seen your PTO request in his mailbox, and he told you he would prefer people do their jobs while employed but because of the nature of the pto request he can't say much against it, and then asked if there was anything else as he rolls his eyes at you?

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u/Character-Treat4903 — 11 days ago
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Advice on elderly coworker who I believe is unsafe, unprofessional and defensive.

For context: I (24f) work in a daycare’s nursery that consists of eight babies that range from newborn to a one year old (the babies are currently all nine months and up) and then they move up to the next class when the new school year starts. I am in there with two other women one is in her fifties (whom I will call Stella for this post) who I stay in there majority of the day with and the other is 73 (whom I will call Annie for this post) who I’m in there with for only like two hours, they have both been working there for two years before I started back in October. My problems that I need advice on are with the 73 year old. There are multiple problems that has came to my attention since I started and I want to know if they are genuine issues or if me and Stella are simply overthinking. I truly believe she’s unsafe, unprofessional and defensive and would like other people’s advice and opinions.  

Problems and behavior noted include… 

  1. I have caught Annie not buckling up the babies in the swings properly, so that increases their fall risk which will lead to an incident report if they do fall and hurt themselves.  
  2. Stella has caught Annie falling asleep in a rocking chair while holding babies. (Note: This is after Annie takes medication that she knows makes her drowsy.)
  3. Annie will snap and get all defensive at us for simply asking helpful questions, saying anything she does not like or correcting her mistakes. (One time she snapped back at me when I simply asked her what she was looking for upon seeing her struggle to locate something I did not even ask hatefully or anything to warrant a defensive answer. It has occurred often to the point I feel like I am walking on eggshells around her and have to watch what I say or it will set her off.)
  4. Annie has purposefully contaminated the food with her own germs multiple times. Just recently she fed the babies fruit off the same fork she ate off of without washing it and another day she coughed into her hands, didn’t wash them and then fed them food… upon Stella saying that she shouldn’t be doing that she replied “so? they have had worse.”
  5. She has given the wrong breastfed baby the wrong bottle of breastmilk which would have ended in a incident report if I had not caught it in time. (Note: All baby items are labeled with their respective names so no excuse there for her not reading the name on the bottle.) 
  6. Annie has a weird fixation for this one female baby, for example during the winter storms she texted the mother to tell her she got her a loaf of bread since the mom told her upon picking her daughter up one day that she couldn’t find any. She will ignore the tasks of the other seven kids for her favoritism of the baby and has actually told the mom to give the baby melatonin so the parents can get sleep. (Me and some of the other co workers feel like the boundary that she’s the teacher only is crossing over to weird territory.)
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u/Superb-Sherbet-3917 — 9 days ago

Help - how do I avoid a very bad egg?

I have a new great job, it’s working on strategic projects for major infrastructure and my new boss is asking me to work with a consultant. Turns out the consultant is my best friends ex who … facts only … is a diagnosed sex and drug addict (high functioning), has just finished bleeding her dry financially with legal fees so she can’t fight anymore for any of his assets (he has his own businesses worth over $20M that he has now reshuffled/closed and reopened). They have 2 children and 10 years together.

All of this is to say. What do I say to my boss (he is a senior commercial exec) without sounding unprofessional?

I don’t have a ‘bad’ relationship with my friends ex but my skin crawls thinking about working with him and it would put me in a very difficult position with my friend. I would prefer not to have any contact with him.

Thank you!

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u/LuluBones — 10 days ago

I'm having trouble getting to work.

Hi, I live in Spain and arrived two months ago. I have a hybrid work schedule, but if you're new, it's recommended to come to work regularly.

I plan to go to work every weekday, but in the mornings I often somehow manage to skip work and work from home. This affects my professional prestige because new employees come to work almost every day. How can I motivate myself to go to work regularly? Also, I'll be sharing updates here each day I plan to go to work the full week next week. (My workplace isn't far from home, but I'm somehow being lazy.)

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u/Busy_Classroom_9176 — 9 days ago

I think my boss is trying to get me to quit by sabotaging me

Throwaway account because I'm worried about causing more problems for myself than necessary but I don't know what else to do.

For context, within the last year, I transferred to a new store that was opening in a different state to help myself move up as well as create a better life for my spouse and I. Moving has caused me to leave all of my friends and family behind but I've met new people that I do enjoy being around and I did have two other coworkers who transferred with me thankfully.

During the store opening, we all noticed that there are certain people who are "in charge" constantly (me being one of them), which was weird since the actual store manager was in the building during these times, but they did not want to be bothered since we didn't have an assistant store manager yet. Trying to be helpful, I finally take over doing my department's schedules so when I hand in my first schedule, I ask "do we have an MOD calendar?" I'm told no, so I just schedule myself for about 3 closings to be safe.

Direct quote after I handed in my schedule: "Oh, honey, you don't do your schedule, I do it."

Which confused me since I transferred from another store and into the exact same role and department I was already in and I used to do my own schedule. I brush it off, thinking that we are a new store and it's busy, so maybe they just needed to be in control of our schedules to make sure there was always someone in charge at all times.

We are now past grand opening and the holiday season and into the new fiscal year and we are still not in control of our schedules. This is a corporate policy for us to do our own schedules, but our store manager is refusing to allow us to have control over them.

Besides that, once a week we have price changes happening and I have been scheduled to close for weeks at a time on that day. I did state before that it made it harder and was blown off. I have a therapy appointment that I go to once a week, same day, I'm now being scheduled during that time as well at work. The manager knows.

And now that I am fully staffed, I have no full way of training my people properly for price changes without constantly being interrupted because when you do a closing shift, you are automatically MOD.

I also did discover that this manager was not the one that approved our transfer. Normally both store managers need to agree, but it went through at a corporate level since they refused to do it, which makes it seem like they did not want us here at all for some reason.

Am I just reading too much into these actions? Or am I being treated badly so I quit? Should I look for a different job since this feels like a hostile work environment or step down maybe to remove the target from my back? I love my job and the company I work for, this manager is just absolutely awful and I don't know what to do anymore.

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