Toxic older coworker
Hi so I 23F have been working as a housekeeper in a care home for about a year and a half now and honestly can’t grasp the fact that middle-aged women (especially divorced) are just so miserable and insufferable to work with. From day one I had this coworker that I genuinely thought was a supervisor when I walked in. She was giving me to do lists, instructions, feeding back complaints and I’m like sure. Turns out she only just started same time as me!!
She’s so aggressively dominant in conversations that you can’t even have a normal chat with her without wanting to rip ur own hair out. Like for example, I’ll say “oh I heard that the shop down the roads really busy tod—NO ITS NOT! IVE BEEN THERE TODAY! Who did you hear that from? What time did they go at? What were they in for? Like get off my fucking dick. This happens EVERY conversation! To the point I just go mute now.
Or when I was saying to my ACTUAL boss that I really wanted to go to a concert on August and before she even had the chance to respond this bitch jumps in like “no, no, no, you can’t go because I’m off” when my boss left for a smoke she proceeded to shrug her shoulders smiling and said “the thing is, I haven’t even got any plans in August, I just took them off for the sake of it”. I managed to reach to my boss later in private she said that’s it’s okay and I can just book the concert and to have a good time( lovely woman)
When the bitch found out about this she was visibly furious. She was trying to chase me up on the dates I was off but I kept stalling (she has a notebook of everyone else’s holidays). On our next break she turned to our boss and went “can I just say something? I think it’s very unfair that people are off when others are already off the same week!” I honestly started to laugh within. You lose bitch
What’s really unfair though is the fact that she had to get sent home one day because she came in soo drunk (and drove) I’m not talking like hungover like she was clearly still drinking. I don’t know if our boss ever found out because it was swept under the rug and then she got employee of the month (probably a sympathy vote) She’s been fired off her previous jobs for drinking aswell so this was a pattern.
To make her even more unlikable is there was another alcoholic in work (who I felt sorry for this man minds his own business but was struggling) and instead of showing sympathy toward him as she could relate; She makes the most vile and vulgar comments about this man “he should drink himself to death” “well it’s his choice if he wants to go down that road” like bitch you got some fucking NERVE!
She constantly talks over me and whenever she sees me chatting or laughing with other coworkers she’ll rudely interrupt saying I got several “complaints” and how things need to improve she’ll be like “there’s been many complaints about bins not getting changed” I’ll play her game back to her and be like “well can’t be true I change every single bin every day who said?” And she’ll backtrack to “idk just a few ppl saying things”.
She’ll tell me to “watch my time” during breaks when she starts her break 30 min early.
She also frequently checks my side of the building and will find ANY ERROR to point out yet her side is covered in BLACK MOULD! That could kill somebody! It’s a miracle to me how she’s not fired she must rlly just talk her way out of it.
It’s not even like I can avoid her she’s in EVERY single day! She does overtime cause she has no life outside of that place but just wish she would back the fuck up and leave me alone.
Any advice? And I don’t mean “report her to HR” advice because clearly she seems to have nine lives.