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I wash my hands after every diaper change even though I use gloves because I feel disgusting afterwards if I don’t and technically I’m supposed to as it’s state rules. Like you’re not supposed to touch another baby after a change unless you wash your hands. My co worker told me yesterday that she doesn’t see why I wash my hands after every change cause I use gloves every time. I have caught her using germ x half the time which I can’t use since I’m allergic to the ingredients. Which makes her faster than I am. In my eyes I’m doing what I’m supposed to with what I have to use and she’s half doing it. It just bothers me a bit and a part of me wants to tell her to shut it because she told me we have to work on me being faster with it. How would you all handle this situation? Is it the co worker projecting onto me because I’m doing it right and she’s not or something else? Advice needed please.

For context: I (24f) work in a daycare’s nursery that consists of eight babies that range from newborn to a one year old (the babies are currently all nine months and up) and then they move up to the next class when the new school year starts. I am in there with two other women one is in her fifties (whom I will call Stella for this post) who I stay in there majority of the day with and the other is 73 (whom I will call Annie for this post) who I’m in there with for only like two hours, they have both been working there for two years before I started back in October. My problems that I need advice on are with the 73 year old. There are multiple problems that has came to my attention since I started and I want to know if they are genuine issues or if me and Stella are simply overthinking. I truly believe she’s unsafe, unprofessional and defensive and would like other people’s advice and opinions.  

Problems and behavior noted include… 

1. I have caught Annie not buckling up the babies in the swings properly, so that increases their fall risk which will lead to an incident report if they do fall and hurt themselves.  
2. Stella has caught Annie falling asleep in a rocking chair while holding babies. (Note: This is after Annie takes medication that she knows makes her drowsy.)
3. Annie will snap and get all defensive at us for simply asking helpful questions, saying anything she does not like or correcting her mistakes. (One time she snapped back at me when I simply asked her what she was looking for upon seeing her struggle to locate something I did not even ask hatefully or anything to warrant a defensive answer. It has occurred often to the point I feel like I am walking on eggshells around her and have to watch what I say or it will set her off.)
4. Annie has purposefully contaminated the food with her own germs multiple times. Just recently she fed the babies fruit off the same fork she ate off of without washing it and another day she coughed into her hands, didn’t wash them and then fed them food… upon Stella saying that she shouldn’t be doing that she replied “so? they have had worse.”
5. She has given the wrong breastfed baby the wrong bottle of breastmilk which would have ended in a incident report if I had not caught it in time. (Note: All baby items are labeled with their respective names so no excuse there for her not reading the name on the bottle.) 
6. Annie has a weird fixation for this one female baby, for example during the winter storms she texted the mother to tell her she got her a loaf of bread since the mom told her upon picking her daughter up one day that she couldn’t find any. She will ignore the tasks of the other seven kids for her favoritism of the baby and has actually told the mom to give the baby melatonin so the parents can get sleep. (Me and some of the other co workers feel like the boundary that she’s the teacher only is crossing over to weird territory.)