r/UpfrontCheaters

Hello. I am a resident doctor and recently has broken up with my boyfriend. We were in a happy live-in relationship and everything was going well including academics. All of a sudden he broke up with me and his so called new friends has barged into his room and doing weeding and all. I have been shattered by the way he broke up with me. But i still am concerned about his health and life! These people are staying in his room , living off his money and feeding him marijuana.. i went to visit him today and found him puking at the basin. Which i have never witnessed in the past one year of our relationship. I want to save his life. Please help!! His friends are jobless and are leeches. They aren’t even allowing me to meet him. Please help or suggest me what should i do

how I found out about my ex FIANCE had cheated. not once but to many times to count.

flashback time: its roughly 2018, im working as a manger for dollar tree at this point. I was closing one night and this tall skinny man comes into my store, I can see he had a few to drink but iim still polite for the public. this man lets call Joe, finds me in the store and starts asking questions like where he could find some items. I help him, I cash him out, now he's talking to much (probably tipsy lol). I don't really remember word for word of what we talked about, but at some point he's crying. he's emotional due to his baby mama drama. Now I did NOT ask him about it but I listened and gave random advice to a stranger. I also thought he was kinda cute, and the way he was talking like he was single. At some point that night he came back, he says "im sorry I thought you're really cute and I couldn't stop thinking about you and I also told my brother about you."

now im really confused at this point, he's mumbling and slurring and flirting with me, some how that night I ended up agreeing to meet up with Joe and his brother (call him josh) after my shift. Again he had been drinking and I've been smiling and nodding. it's the end of shift, I meet up with them and pick them up for them to ask to go to the strip club. first time meeting Joe that night and then I met josh when I picked them. apparently josh was treating Joe out again due to BMD.

The whole car ride I pretty much ignored Josh, and was showing my interest in Joe, not knowing he was still in a relationship. we get to the strip club get seated, the shot girl happened to be my BFF since 07'; that way I wasn't COMPLETELY left with strangers. when we sat down, josh sat across from me and we locked eyes. at that moment then I KNEW josh was mine. since that night at the club, josh and I would spend literally EVERYDAY with each other for the next month or so. he was MY perfect. I met his son and he ended up meeting mine. and thats when our wolf pack was made. Literally nothing could go wrong.

fast forward to roughly 1.5-2 years in, were engaged!!! I didn't believe in marriage until I had him. UNTIL closer to the 2 years things became rocky. petty fighting bickering back and forth. it came out of no where. turns out after losing his job he decided to start sniffing snow bunny. through out this rough time I would receive MANY random texts from a few people. first one was his BM. I thought she was trying to put a wedge between us when she told the TEA on this man. so as a typical woman, I ignored her and her threats. I didn't care.

random text from a woman I never heard of. when I asked her for proof she could only provide one photo, so with that, I also ignored. after going back and forth with her, josh assured me that she was a 420 friend. (thats basically the photo she shared, them sitting in our room passing the ZA.) I believed him, but was skeptical.

UNTIL...... our last week together. I received yet ANOTHER random message. this time it was on FB. when I opened these messages, my heart stopped. I didn't know how to process this. it was from a MAN. and it goes as followed "hi hon, im sorry I didn't know about you, but did you know you mans trying to EFF me in your room while our kids are asleep next door."

bruh. how do I respond? I ignored im at first, then got the courage to respond. and I do so by saying, "who are you talking about? idk you." then he gets all out of pocket and calling me a dumb ass whore for not knowing. and that he was going to call CPS on ME for not being a good mother watching them properly while he's out dogging me, then proceeded to send me their HOME MADE videos. mind you, I do. not judge, I loved him so much I explored with him, started eating his ars then it got to the point where he asked to be pegged. I was more than happy to please him. so in my mind, I was the best of both worlds.

well a few days after that, we took the kids to bowl (basically our backyard had a fence that went to the bowling alley). I still haven't said anything to josh, acting like EVERYTHING was okay. UNTIL the ending, yes we drank, we only had to walk 100 ft home. on the walk home I saw him talking to a group of MEN. and I lost It. I called him out by saying, " you trying to hook up with your boyfriends tonight? gang bang?" I was out of pocket for saying and acting the way I did in front of the kids, thats my ONLY regret.

yea, unfortunately he didn't think that was funny. lots of screaming and denying. Obviously he was embarrassed or mad he was caught. we go back and forth LOUDLY, that someone had already called in to the popos of disturbance. it was at this point where im so mad and had to much to drink, I black out the next 5 minutes. I come too seeing our boys screaming and crying in fear, josh in handcuffs, and I was crawling on the ground I couldn't get up. Thats when the officers started telling me what happened. Apparently, he had swung on me, hit my eye, my glasses fly off my face, I severely twisted my leg/ankle by tripping over a tree root, the rest of me was covered in scraps and cuts. the officers has shown up in JUST enough time. (I ended up in crutches and super swollen eye, and I was also starting my NEW job that week :) )

mind you, my adrenaline was flying as well as my ABL, I HAD NO IDEA I JUST BEEN BEAT. my poor kids witnessed it all (3 and 4 at the time). all because I called his cheating gay ass out. idk maybe he just couldn't admit he's into men too?! regardless, we are free from him. I have the best partner I could ask for of the past 3.5 years with a baby on the way. :)

thanks for your time on this NOW laughable event. carry on.

I’m F22, and my bf M23 cheated on me on Reddit by messaging anonymous women and trading pictures back for the last 7 months. We have been together for 2 years and 8 months, and have been living together for 2 years with our own cat.

I found out exactly one day before my flight for vacation when he was supposed to watch our home while I went vacation with my family.

When first confronted, I only saw that he was complimenting and snapping women. Gave his number out and was flirting with them. For me, this was only semi-cheating as it was only small talk. As the day went on, that’s when I found the bread and butter. He didn’t even tell me.
For the last 7 months, he went on Reddit scamming sex workers to get free content- which is not a man that respects women. He was looking for connection elsewhere. He only kept me around for convenience and made it his behaviour. Why couldn’t he just watch porn?

I felt so special finally being his girl ( this was almost 3 years ago) because neither of us wanted to be in relationship, but we liked eachother so much and couldn't stop hanging out EVERYDAY. It was amazing, we’ve had such a strong bond before all of this.

Part of me thinks, if he gets the help he needs, therapy, he could be the partner he once was for me before he started to fall down the rabbit hole of cheating on me with online with sex workers.

Because once a man loses the love of their life, they have two choices, they either continue you toxic cycle and blame everyone for their problems, or they become the best versions of themselves by doing the inner work.

What would you do?

So I'm a 45M and wife is a 44F and we had been married for about 3 years. During this time I had a bad drug addiction and she had been dealing with it for 4.5 years now and didn't want her son who was 10y old boy at the time to see me fucked up and passed out all the time. So she got scared and goes to colorado with her son and our dog for 6 months before coming back to stay at her parents house. During this 6 month break we still remained married as she said she needed time to think about what to do, she didn't want to divorce me right away she wanted me to wake up and get clean. Well she was in colorado about 2 months in she ended up sleeping with an old friend who lived out there one time, she said she immediately regretted it and felt horrible and disgusting in her self. For the next year and a half once she moved back to oregon about an hour north of me we would see each other once a month so she could see my progress which we were sexually active during also . Well I finally get clean and move back in with her at her parents house until we can save up enough for us and the child to move out again and after 2 months of me staying with her and remaining clean one day she came clean to me . She said she thought our marriage was done and we were going to divorce which we had papers signed even just she hadn't turned them in. She said once I got clean she knew she had to tell me now so she did, she explained they had sex once which she said she didn't even enjoy cause she felt horrible the whole time and immediately left and deleted his number and hasn't talked to him since . She also came clean to me, I mean I had my suspicions and would make comments but ultimately she came out and just told me on her own accord . So after she tells me all this she apologized for fucking up and said she wants us to reconcile and stay married and she's willing to do anything I ask of her to prove I can trust her again. She offered to tell her parents and mine, to go to MC or therapy, to have me track her phone and such. It's been a week now since she told me, I told her I wanted to reconcile because I still loved her and thought well in only happened once, and she came to me to confess so that says a lot at least to me it does. I'm trying to work things out so far, we had sex once since all this and she's given me at least 5 blowjobs since then, I just haven't been able to kiss her like I used to yet. I can give her pecks on the lips or top of the head or cheek but no French kissing yet , she feels dirty to me still that way but I'm trying to work through it all. What should I do?? Do I stay and hope it all gets better? Do I file for divorce? I really want to try to work things out since she came to me and confessed and this was only a 1 time event, it's not like this went on for 2 months or anything so the reconciliation seems valid and I honestly feel she only wants me. Any advice would help thanks in advance!

My boyfriend went on vacation with his cousin. He ended up going to the club and I didn’t hear from him much that night. He went to two different hotels. I saw he followed a girl from the place he went on vacation with and she followed him. Apparently when I asked him about it he states his cousin hooked up with her and not him but why would she follow him and not his cousin if that’s the one she hooked up with? His cousin also doesn’t follow her and she doesn’t follow him so I don’t feel like it makes much sense that he was the one who hooked up with her and not him. He swears he didn’t do it. Am I overthinking this or did he cheat?

For men who have done it, why did you cheat on your SO?

So I decided to browse my wife’s iPad and I found messages and pics from another man confirming she had cheated on me with him.
Do I confront her or do I keep quiet? We are getting on great at the moment and I’m worried it will ruin things

hi, share ko lang na experience ko, im only 14yrs old and batak na agad sa buhay hahshahahaha, as in legit napaka bullshit ng buhay ko, pero never akong nag try mag s*cide or hurt myself, here's the main story, naalaman kong kasi na iba pala yung legit ko'ng tatay and nalaman ko lang sa diary ng mama ko and until this day hindi pa rin nila sinasabi sa'kin ang totoo, and trying to manipulate me?? eme kasi minsan nahuhuli ko silang nagsisinungaling and sa mga lumang litrato namin wala as in wala akong father figure don kahit anino, then one time sa lumang messager ng mama ko nakita ko yung lumang convo nila na inaassume kong real dad ko kasi nag soc(s£x on chat) sila legit i was only 9yrs old and naiyak talaga ako non, buti nalang mag isa ako non sa bahay namin, and hindi ko pa sinasabi yung nalaman ko, i kept it as a secret until this day, kasi natatakot at nahihiya ako sa kanila or sadyang mahina lang ako sa confrontation , ewan ko ba landi din kasi ng nanay ko and. Ayon nag asawa ulit yung gaga, he met this guy 5 or 6yrs ang agwat ng age nila, and this man may pamilyang adik, yung mama niya is drug lord samin dati pero paldo ako dati sakaniya nung nabubuhay pa siya kaso deds na na tokhang ata, yun yung pag kakaalam ko and galing din siya sa broken family, yung tatay niya may bagong asawa, kaya etong lalakeng to parang walang nang kasama sa buhay, pero sila na ng mama ko nung namatay yung nanay niya, and currently nag ka anak sila, bunsong kapatid ko, and now he's currently 10yrs old.

Last year, i caught my father na nagjajak@l sa omegle and gmail account pa ginamit ko wtf kaya nahuli ko siya and men hindi ko siya sinumbong kay mama, and lagi siyang may kinakausap sa omegle, and nahuli ko ulit siya sa may telegram naman tang ina, naghahanap siya nang mga walker ko dun kingina, and nahuli ko siya with my innocent eyes, nag vid talaga ako ng convo, kingina promise nandidiri na ako sakaniya pati na rin sa nanay ko, lahat sila. Ang masama lang hanggang ngayon ginagawa niya pa rin parang wala siyang konsensiya sa sarili niya at sa pamilya niya hindi niya ba naisip yun, kingnangina niya tapos!! lakas niyang mang guilt trip sakin kunting error lang sa bahay, like magulo yung damitan ko, sasabihin niya "ano to basura? tapon mo nalang kaya yan" sarap sabihin "king ina mo" sarap nilang murahin lahat. Hanggang ngayon tinatago ko pa din to, minsan ansakit lang sa feeling na yung bata yung nagsusuffer sa kasalanan ng magulang nila. Hirap kasi parang bigat na, sana matulungan niyo ko:))