r/SoberAndHateIt

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Battling unfathomable boredom and emptiness

I quit smoking less than two weeks ago and I feel pretty content unless I am off work. Not too long ago, my days off were typically spent smoking bowls back to back, watching tv, and eating bullshit. I’ve been trying to improve myself a lot recently so I quit smoking, vaping, and changed my eating habits all at once. I’m staying a lot stronger than I thought I would but I can’t deny that my life has become a lot more boring. Yes, I have been practicing some hobbies like yoga, journaling, and meditation but those things still can’t seem to fill my void. I guess I’m just looking for advice or suggestions.

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u/xoluvl — 9 hours ago
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Bill W directly and explicitly attributed his success in sobriety to the use of psychedelics. So, where is the line? Do we ignore what is plainly stated and follow a book? We shame those who have the ability to smoke weed and simultaneously have found a spiritual experience in these steps? Help please …..

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u/equanimitypeace — 10 days ago

Day five

Dear diary, today is day five of me being completely sober. I have also not had more than three hours of sleep in all five days! Drinking always helped me sleep.

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u/Fbaselleruae — 3 days ago

This fkn sucks

I am always wondering, when is this supposed to start feeling rewarding? Shouldn't I have some sense of pride over this "accomplishment" by now? I'm going on six months clean from fentanyl and to say I'm just a shell of a person is an understatement.

I know it probably has a lot to do with how I don't actually want to be sober and I'm not unhappy or desperate to get out when I do use. Like my addiction isn't problematic for me and I don't hurt or use anyone to support it and I have no desire to not be on drugs. I just am.

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u/misf0rtunec00kie — 7 days ago

How do you break up with alcohol?

I know people share what helped push them to get sober but what are things you look forward to that keep you from drinking? Saying I'll get sober is easy but, I'm having a hard time letting go. It's like running to an ex. How did you overcome that?

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u/ExpressIsopod3201 — 7 days ago

I’m so emotionally stunted, it’s pathetic. It’s what happens when you become an alcoholic in your teens. But it should resolve right, once you get sober.

Sure, that is if you aren’t so psychologically crippled by a mental health in shambles and a broken brain that you still have no idea how to function, despite tons of therapy and meds.

So here I am. Longing to drink the disgusting 1L tetra pack of cheap red wine from back in the days and put Drake’s 2011 album on repeat.

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u/BreatheAgainn — 12 days ago

One year in (more or less) - not getting better

First it was alcohol, then weed, then work/porn. More than a year out from problematic weed use, and I can generally control the drinking to a night or two out a month - but fuck, life is boring, and all I want to do is get high and order pizza.

Trying to workout, have sent out a message to a couple therapists - but honestly it's sort of a "been there/done that" mindset and as problematic as it is, I really doubt I'll feel better with anything that's not weed or weird porn. Such a fucking stereotype - but fuck sobriety (or at least my approximation of it) is no joke and low key sucks.

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u/obliterateme17 — 6 days ago

Depressed and just want to escape.

24f. 3 years + 4 months nicotine free. Almost 10 months alcohol free. Tomorrow will be 60 days without weed.

Life is kicking my ass right now. I’m depressed and my situation just keeps getting worse. I feel like I can’t have a good day anymore. I’m genuinely thinking about using again. Anything.

I have some people in my life who just don’t get the “sober” thing and are encouraging me to try it again if “I feel like I can’t handle it.”

I know doing anything I gave up again would send me down a bad path. I’ve been trying so hard to restart my life, but old habits die hard. I know I won’t be the same if I use again, but I just feel like what is the point?

Lonely, I feel like a loser, and I’m losing my zest for life I had in early sobriety. What is the point of doing anything?

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u/clecubb — 6 days ago

Bored

Sober for three months not even alcohol,and I’m bored af! I have all kinds of health anxiety and I feel like all I do is work and stay home. Or when I do go out to eat or to a park etc it doesn’t do anything for me I feel numb! I been sober from Beroin for two plus years and weth for one year using only few times in that year and 100 percent off everything for three months. Anyone been through this does it get easier n better! I’m afraid I used up all my dopamine levels up and they’ll never be the same cuz all I’ve ever know my whole adult life is to part party party it’s kinda depressing

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u/Gploved89 — 6 days ago

Didn't drink - immediately got ill

I never get ill

I smoked weed every day and drank a pretty tolerable 2-3 pints every few days

Not good, but I always felt functional enough at my job and life for this to basically be my hobbies that I enjoy

But thought I would try having a sober break just to see how well my brain and body could function

The answer is NOT VERY WELL

Couldn't sleep after quitting weed, so I drank a few pints each night, then stopped drinking and instantly got a cold and haven't slept for 2 nights straight

I don't have new reserves of energy or brainpower, in fact I'm practically a zombie today from lack of sleep

Just wondering if I'm going to at some point become a better person, because, if not, what's the point of stopping the things I've enjoyed my entire life?

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u/upthewatwo — 8 days ago

Hello, I am posting here today because I really hate being sober. I’ve had problems with alcohol and other substances since I was a teenager, and have been about a year and a half clean from alcohol since getting a DUI. I was allowed to smoke weed on probation, but I’ve cut that out too, because in order to get admitted to practice in the profession that I want to practice, I have to submit to being drug tested for the rest of my life.

I have accepted that this is going to be my life forever, but I hate it. I don’t like being in the Drug recovery meetings, and I also couldn’t care less about them. I feel tempted all the time by stuff, especially stuff that’s not actually drugs and alcohol. I have been more interested in sex than I ever was when I was using substances, because it gives you the same relief.

I live in a tight knit community and it is expected that people drink in moderation, but obviously I can’t drink anything. I don’t like telling people that I’m sober and I feel weird about it. It also makes other people feel weird on dates. I’ve also dated a girl that was sober and that didn’t end so well because we both relapsed together.

I am seeing a doctor, and I am on medication. I don’t need any suggestions, I’m just here to complain. I’ve said it before and I’ll say that again. I hate being sober. This song reminds me of my personal experience and I can’t stop listening to it
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I fought the law… and the law won

u/Diligent_Party_9763 — 12 days ago