r/QuitPorn

Need someone to talk me out of doing stupid stuff.

I figured why not go on daily walks to distract myself so im also gonna be trying to walk everyday. im using this post to keep myself accountable. pls support me on this journey

I have been on reddit, I do check out posts, stories of people who have been trying to quit porn And usually people post that this is the day no. X since I stopped watching. And under that atleast one person would comment that why are you counting days, your goal should be to quit forever(to which I do agree) But everyone knows that its pretty hard to start quitting And if counting days initially helps you to go through the initial few days phase where cravings are the hardest, then its ok to count days. Lets say a person X quits porn, who has been watching daily To him even 7 days would feel like a big step And if by remembering that he has went through 7 days let him not give into his urges for a few days then he should Cause according to many peoples experience after a while urges stop and the flatline kinda phase starts I don't mean that people should count forever but if that can help you progress to a phase where you move out of the compulsion then so be it count it

To be honest, it just happen without me even thinking about it consciously. This was my longest streak in months so it hurts even more that I was not able to maintain it. I lost control of it right before I went to bed. In hindsight, it was because of my boredom and procrastination on important that led to my urges building up. This is my first time on the sub so I’m just posting this for accountability. For people that managed to overcome this, what worked for you?

I have exams in two weeks so hopefully I’ll just get consumed in studying and not have time to consume this filth.

I started this journey in the begining of this month. Fighting and fleeing from lust. but failed on my day 15. I watched porn. Today i was hit with another urge and relasped. I dont know how to feel because,

I dont feel as if i failed, but I feel i am changing from it. I'm saying this as someone who has gone 6 months without out it but returned to it. I didn't like the feeling of "porn", there was no reward. Just a small dompamine spike, that I can finaly get now normally. Not just from porn or masterbaustion. My brain just make me think I need it to live.

I started to think more when I look at the screen, "Why am I watching this" "Maybe i wish i could have a connection like that" I have learned alot and even though I have failed, these past week have been my best. I have made more friends at school, I'm still scared to talk to people but stand up for myself now, including for my friends too. I feel a bit more aware which makes me not want to reutrn to porn anymore. Well I wonder what yall think. Peace

Today is Friday, I promised to give you guys a deeper look.

Let me start by saying, this day was extremely difficult. So difficult, I was about to just give up... my mind went there for a second:

"Why could I even care less if I don't post today, why do I owe anyone a explanation" But my mind stopped, when I thought about what I will feel like, if I relapsed. The shame, the clarity after the storm. I thought:

"I genuinely do not know, how deeply ashamed I would be of myself if I lie to God and myself here. The overwhelm of thinking about who I will become, if I continue to stay in the way of degeneracy is too much"

Yes I know, the thinking of "Pass or fail just builds more pressure. On the other hand, if there is one thing I am scared of, it is to break my word. It's like an extra lock to really keep me in check this time. Not that I have never promised myself or God that I'd stop, I did, but I never went so far to tell other people about it, like on this reddit.

Now let me give you some background about me, because any time I read a post about "I made it till day 12" instantly makes me think: "Nah I am not that type of person, I can barely make it 2 days".

Truth is, it's not about the amount of days, the pressure to relapse does not build up over time, you do not have 10x the pressure to relapse after 10 days of abstinence.
I always thought, if I go without pornography for 12 days, I will explode. Not literally, but it would feel like I am, I would have urges constantly. In reality, after the first few days, your body just accepts it and each day starts from 0, no buildup of "not watching porn" from the past days, it's a fugazi. Don't get me wrong, the urges will not be hell, they will be there but it is way easier to say 'no' than before.

Was today harder than the other days? Yes! But not because I am on day 12, but because in the last few days, I replaced the escapist distraction of pornography with scrolling on Social Media, which leads me to the next point...

I realised, the core reason why I watch porn, is because I am running away from something, whether it be from a task or a emotionally challenging situation.

On the path of quitting, which I have been on for about 7-8 years now, I have never (except recently) understood the "why" of watching porn. Why do we do it? Why is it so appealing? Is it because we are naturally prone to sex? Not really, sex is nothing like pornography.
It's more like a quick escape from reality, a high you can only reach artificially, which is so well developed in such a massive industry, that EVERY though or wish you have can be watched within minutes of searching. Is it because we love to have these thoughts to be real? Not quite, more like because it's the perfect escape from reality. Literally, all of your fantasies can be watched within seconds.

It's nothing else than a escapist distraction. Now the question is, how and what do I do, to overcome this? Because once I know how to get rid of escapist distractions, urges will be much more manageable, not draining time and energy.

How? Honestly, I am not sure. Listen, if you made it till here, please know, I am in the same boat as you are. I am not a professional, not completely clean yet, still have work to do, I am just sharing my experience. What I tried are two things:

1. Chunking everything. If feel like not doing something, I simply don't do it. You don't wanna go to work? Don't, slightly move your feet to the edge of your bed. Focus fully on moving your feet to the edge of your bed, only focus on your feet, and the edge of your bed. Once your feet are there, move your fingers to the corner of your blanket, repeat the same thinking and do it until you're sitting in your car on your way to work.
   It helps me to overcome the thought of "ohh this is way too hard to do" by ONLY focusing on the next smallest actionable step that takes me to where I want to be.

2. Changing my mindset. First of all, whenever I feel like I need to escape, I label it, it is just my brain trying to protect me, not a real threat. Then, I go to the absolute worst possible situation and ask myself 'am I going to die'? If the answer is no, there is literally no reason to panic or be scared. Yes, sometimes we are just lazy and tired, my solution for that is to just do nothing then. If I am really THAT tired and nothing helps and I am about to do anything besides what I am supposed to do, I just do nothing. Actually quite relaxing, and it gets boring quickly. If there is no other option besides doing nothing or the right thing, at some point, you will go do the right thing. What's the easiest thing in the world? Doing nothing, not moving a muscle.

Oh yeah and of course, block out all options of escapist distractions. Put your phone in another room, delete Instagram or at least log out of your account on Weekdays. On the other hand, I feel like I also need to learn how to actually not need escapist distractions. No idea how, but I will find it out. Once I made it there, I can have all the apps on my phone because I will simply not be the type of person to escape reality.

All that needs time, simplicity and routine so it's a progress.

Also, never forget, escapist distraction is just a way to regulate your emotions. It would make life a lot easier, if you rest intentionally and start small and simple. If you rest intentionally, there will be less of a need for escapist distraction

That said, I will report back tomorrow, I hope my experience helped someone.

Have a blessed day.

As stated I have a terrible track record with relapses I feel as though it's ruining my relationship ive tried to talk to her about it but she doesn't really know what to do anyone willing to just have a daily check in with me no judgment if either relapses just something to hold us accountable each day

Relapsed. Back on square one.

I've made it 16 days without porn or masturbating. I'm afraid I will relapse today.

Made it three days before I relapsed, gonna try to make it a week now. Does anyone have any advice? Would anyone like to work with me and help keep each other accountable?

Hi Guys!

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I put all my *things* away in a place that isn’t easily accessed and downloaded a bunch of audiobooks. Feeling good.

Wassup friends.

Yes I made it till day 11, as promised, a longer, more insightful post will follow tomorrow.

Today I will leave it shorter.

Day was long, urges are getting stronger, no more social media. Social media really is showing suggestive content for no reason, I don't want to run that risk so I will stay away from it.

I go day by day, the day is almost over, it's really hard but I am not going to negotiate my brain, no way on earth will I even get close to relapsing.

Anyway, see you lot tomorrow.

Best

In the past few days I felt the urges again a few times. :( But I always resisted. Nothing else to say.