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I’m just curious to know how you beautiful queens met your person cause I’m seriously hoping to find my lifelong partner one day soon sheesh. And I just like hearing about other people in happy relationships 😊

Thank you all for the lovely stories and comments! I love them all! Gonna save this post and look at it from time to time 🥹

Hi!

Something I realized recently, is every date I’ve gone on irl the guy will walk much faster/ahead of me.

Like one time I hadn’t even closed his car door and he was halfway to the restaurant door 😭 my ass was jogging to catch up.

It’s a stupid observation, but no one has just walked with me. I know in part, it could be their nerves too for first dates, but there’s been 2 instances where’s it’s happened to guys I’ve been on 2-3 dates with.

Has anyone else experienced this? I’m lowk it’s more common to bigger bodies than I realize.

I’m on my first solo trip and I booked a trip to a country not knowing it was very fatphobic now I have to complete the whole tour when all I want to do is hide in my hotel room and never come out. I’m getting constant looks of disgust, had one guy blow cigarette smoke in my face, talking loudly about how ugly I looked ,among other things, in my native language (not the language of the country) even had a guard flick the butt of a gun in my direction. I’m trying everything possible to deflect attention (i.e. head down, modest clothing, etc.) but it still is persistent. Does anyone have any tips to survive this? Every time I step foot in my hotel room I just start bawling

No wooplus 🫩 that app is filled with men who are into feederism. Honestly, is it even possible to find someone who isn’t into that? Like, I’ve met guys who are full blown into it or they like to see your stomach shake. I don’t mind if the guy is into tummies, but it feels degrading when they ask you to shake it. I’m not into that.

To all my fellow former fat kids, what kind of experiences defined you? How did being fat alter your perception of other people or yourself?

I remember crying in lane bryant dressing rooms because I didn't want to dress like hillary clinton in middle school.

40f with a mom in her 70s and she still does this!

UPDATE: Wow!! Your responses have made me feel less alone. 🥹 Yes, my mom took me to Weight Watchers meetings with her too, starting at age 7. She would ignore any advice from my pediatrician or relatives who expressed concern about my weight or what I ate, my guess is because she took it as a personal attack on her. I have only ever successfully managed to lose weight (I'm now 180lbs, was 260lbs for most of my teenage years) after I moved out.

I've recently lost my job, and can't afford to go to hair salon/pedicure/manicure as often, I'm trying to save money atm.

I realized how much I relied on all these external services to look and feel "put together".

It doesn't help that I'm in leggings and t-shirts every day either, because I have nowhere to go.

Please share what helps you feel more put together:

- Clothes?

- Accessories (shoes/bags/jewelry)?

- makeup?

- hair, nails?

- something else?

As someone who has perpetually been a major front and back bleeder and usually relies on reusable products because I was never able to find period products that would work for me due to being plus size with an interesting anatomy, I have recently FINALLY found a pad that is long and wide enough at both the front, back, and gusset! That is… Lil-lets maternity pads! I got one from a box of free period products in a public toilet once not realising it was maternity, was never able to find that size again… but here we are!

The maternity ultra pads are about the same length as the long body form goodnight plus pads but are wider all round, with a wide back (absorant core is in a central strip with thinner back ‘wings’ to catch any sneaky leaks).

The holy grail of pads however are the maternity maxi pads. Yes, thick, but so soft and SO wide on the back and the longest UK pad I’ve been able to find. They are also so nice and soft and prevent chafing!

Also a shout out to their orange ‘ultra’ extra protection tampons - really saved my arse recently! They also have pads in this range which I think are the same length as the maternity ultra pads but may be narrower.

I do try and use as many reusables as I can but sometimes, a disposable is needed. Reusables though my shout outs go to TCS Eco custom pads (can get all sorts of lengths and widths), Innersy bamboo period pants, and Lady Days pads (nice and thin).

I hope someone else here can share my excitement… having medication related extremely heavy bleeding issues and having to triple up on products at times but finding these pads has made life so much easier and great peace of mind! £1.80 a packet in boots just now, save the outer packaging and put them through the boots recycling scheme for more points… winner winner! 🙌