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I dont know how to feel about this
▲ 175 r/PlusSize

I dont know how to feel about this

So, ive been talking to this guy for a while now. we have slept together once before and he has never brought up my weight except once when i brought up my insecurities around being plus size and him seeing me in that way and he just reassured me that he likes plus size women so i never need to worry about that. He calls me beautiful, he encourages me to drink water and take care of myself, he never pressures me to eat or says anything weird.. he makes genuine effort to get to know me as a person and actually tries really hard. He doesn’t objectify me at all and actually is one of the few men that dont. However I brought up the topic of what we are both into sexually so that i could get to know what he likes a little bit more before we sleep together again. I told him not to hold back because I really wanted to know.. and now im not sure how to feel about his response… he loves food himself and loves to eat, hes a gym rat so he isnt plus size but if he wasnt so active i would imagine he would be because of how many calories he can put away lol. Where do i draw the line of this is fucking weird or this is just a kink he has and everyone has them? I mean i like watching him work out and sweat, is that also fetishizing?? idk how to feel. please help!!

u/ominouslemon — 6 days ago
▲ 30 r/PlusSize

I just want to be loved by a man who i connect with and i find attractive. im not overly picky, but yes I want to be attracted to him and i do have standards. ive always wanted to be adored and i dont think i ever will be at this point. i want someone to hold me and kiss me and not insult me. i was in an abusive relationship for 5 years and sometimes i find myself wishing i had stayed, because i would almost rather go through that so that i didnt have to be alone like this. People always tell me im looking in the wrong place, but i join social groups, i work, i go out to clubs.. i never get hit on. many times men wont even speak to me when im out, or if they do and im with a friend they start talking to her as soon as they see her instead… i guess i must be horribly ugly.. i dont know.. it just makes me so sad. i can find plenty of men who want to have sex with me, but none to actually date me. i have been trying to lose weight my entire life. im even on a glp-1 as a last resort and it seems like no matter what i do my body always stalls at the same weight. it feels hopeless and it makes me so sad. i dont know what else to do other than just give up but if i give up then i have to feel this lonely forever. I am not lonely in any other way, i have friends and family and lots of people but romantically i feel awful and alone. ive been to therapy.. lots of therapy.. ive tried everything i can think of. i dont know what else to do

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u/ominouslemon — 15 days ago
▲ 9 r/WoundCareSupport

Two weeks ago I fell down the stairs. I don’t have health insurance but I did go to urgent care when it happened. Cant afford to go back. No broken bones and they told me to keep the cut bandaged up but they didn’t do stitches. problem is, the wound is still open and bleeds profusely 24/7. I have had to keep a pad on it at work (then i use bandage wrap to hold it in place) because otherwise i bleed through my bandages within an hour. I don’t know what else to do with it. Do I need to see a doctor desperately? I really can’t go unless its absolutely urgent.

u/ominouslemon — 19 days ago