r/OnlineDatingApps

Just thought I’d share because I went three years without ever hearing of either of these. One day someone on this subreddit mentioned Bumpy, and I saw a Facebook ad for Breeze. Since many don't know about these, I figured I'd share my experience.

Bumpy…

Bumpy is very similar to Bumble and Tinder. The main difference is that it’s geared towards international dating. The interface and functions are so clean and user-friendly. If you’re a guy, get on Bumpy and you’ll discover what it’s like to be a woman on dating apps. You get thousands of likes, but, unfortunately, most of the women are far away in countries you’d never fly to. And many of these countries have weak passports, so the women can’t meet you anywhere. However, there are a lot of Brazilians, Colombians and other South Americans, and they can fly to a lot of places, including Western European countries. You’ll also find some matches who are local or nearby.

On the first week of the app, I had a Brazilian woman fly to me for a couple days (she bought her own plane ticket), and I met a cute American across the border in Germany (I’m in France). There are tons of women ready to meet, but most of them expect you to go to them. Understandable. As for scammers, I don’t think there are many at all. The site is very well managed and moderated. Most profiles are verified. They also have location verification. If you're a globe-trotter and into international dating, Bumpy is absolutely great.

Breeze…

This is such an interesting concept and well-made app. Unfortunately, it’s pretty worthless where I live (Paris area). The concept is that they only show you a couple likes each day. If you and another user like each other, then a date is set. You both agree on a date and time, and the app will send you to one of its partner venues for a drink. You need to pre-pay for the date, but it’s only a few bucks, and it includes the first drink. What’s great about this concept is that there is absolutely no texting before the date (it lets you text a couple hours before the start time though just to facilitate meeting if needed).

Unfortunately, for me, there are very few women in my age range on the app here in Paris. It’s constantly telling me to broaden my settings, but I have a wide age range (up to my age) and 150km reach. Many days it only shows me one woman, and she’s almost never interesting to me. I must’ve liked seven women so far, had two matches, and went on one date, which was nice. It’s unfortunate it’s not more popular here. The app is nice and the concept is good.

Following three years of dating, of the seven apps I’ve used, here is my ranking…

1 – Bumble – Great combination of quality and volume. Well managed.

2 – Hinge – Less volume but quality driven. Some of my best dates.

3 – Bumpy – Well designed, thousands of gorgeous women. But international.

4 – Breeze – Such a great idea, but location-dependent. Not very useful in Paris.

5 - Facebook Dating – Not bad but lots of scammers and fakes, and very buggy app.

6 – Badoo – Very low quality, full of ads, badly managed, scammers, fakes, etc.

7 – Tinder – An absolute cesspool. Even for hookups I’d rather use the other apps.

Curvy

This is somewhat a PSA to straight men, but some points are just my preference

- Any sexual innuendo in the bio

- Wearing a hat or sunglasses in their first photo

- Picture of a dog (or with a dog)

- Bad taste in clothing or music

- “blue collar” or any republican signifiers

- Shirtless mirror selfie

- Overweight

- Shorter than 5’8”

- Photos look too staged or manicured

- Bios that contain any negativity (ex: don’t match with me if you ...)

- Posing with any children / not covering their face

- Visibly flexing

- Posing next to a more attractive friend is not a dealbreaker but certainly does not help

Am I the only one who is really sick and tired of the dating market? Im a 22 year old guy. 185 cm. Have a good paying job with a good future, I just bought an apartment also, I will move in September. Im in a lot better situation than most 30 year olds I know.

I have a dating profile with literally professional photos on it. And even with that matches are non existent... are damn expectations that unrealistic for women?

The women that have approached me in real life and talked to me switched to asking my salary and how much money I have within the first 3 questions... damn 19 year old women who never worked a day in their life think theu deserve a damn rich guy... or expect a 20 year old to be rich... the fuck has happened to the world...

The conversations aren't the problem. I'm getting decent responses, people seem engaged, things go back and forth for a few days. Then it just kind of stalls out before we get to the point of actually meeting.

I'm not sure if I'm waiting too long to suggest meeting, or suggesting it too early, or something about how I'm phrasing it. Or maybe it's just normal attrition and I'm overthinking it.

For people who've had success converting Match conversations into actual dates what's your timing like? Do you bring it up early or let it develop first? Any specific approach that worked?

Hey! I’m 20, and I want to be SB but without actual meeting. I mean, long distance.. Someone knows if it’s possible?

Hello everyone!

I think my problem is pretty common but I didn't find any good info about this on reddit.

Once I start to use dating apps, it's seriously chemically motivates me to check my phone again and again.

Because I know it will be a new match and a new messages from current matches and maybe if I don't check now, I will miss a potential date.

And it's totally killings the day: instead of follow schedule and don't use phone all day same before, I miss work session again and again and do only the most necessary work.

I was trying to limit my time in dating apps but it's not working at all because I know have people waiting for my answer on other side of the screen.

And as well watching dating apps fully changing my mood from productive to let's say romantically active, not focused on work and I found my self by talking with girls with whom I even don't wanna talk actually..

Do everyone experience the same? How did you fix it?

Hi everyone,

I’m working on a dating app idea, but before building too much, I want honest feedback from people who actually use dating apps.

After reading a lot of complaints about current dating apps endless swiping, ghosting, meaningless matches, bad recommendations, lack of transparency, and low-effort profiles, I started thinking about whether a dating app could be designed more openly, with feedback from the community.

The idea is not “just another Tinder clone.” I’m trying to build something more like: designed by the people, for the people, with features that try to reduce the worst parts of modern dating apps while keeping the fun/social side.

Here are the core ideas:

⭐ Rating from 0–5 instead of only likes
Users could rate profiles instead of just liking/swiping. There could also be an option to switch back to a simple like system for people who hate ratings.

📸 Instagram-like media feed
Profiles would not just be static dating cards. Users could post photos/media, and the feed would recommend content based on stated preferences instead of a completely mysterious black-box algorithm.

💬 Rate/like/comment on specific pictures
Instead of only liking a whole profile, people could interact with individual pictures or posts, similar to social media.

🧾 Community feedback after interaction
After interacting with someone, users could leave feedback/comments that contribute to a trusted community reputation visible on the profile. The goal would be to reduce fake behavior, ghosting, scams, and disrespectful interactions.

🙈 Anonymous profile review
Users could submit their profile for anonymous community feedback. The feedback would only be visible to them, to help improve their profile/photos/bio without public humiliation.

🗺️ Map with past/future event pins
Users could place pins on a map for past events, like remembering where they met someone, or future events, like setting up a date idea or social activity.

🔎 Semantic search
Instead of basic filters only, users could search naturally, like: “tall guy who likes pets,” “girl into hiking and museums,” or “people nearby who like jazz.”

⚠️ Small rating penalty for not answering match messages
Not to force anyone to talk, but to make people more mindful about matching/swiping without intention. The idea is to reduce meaningless matches where nobody replies.

🔒 One-on-one match mode
When activated, you can only talk to one match at a time. The first person you message becomes your active match. If either person starts talking to someone else while this mode is active, the match is automatically disabled. The goal is to encourage more intentional dating instead of infinite parallel conversations.

I know some of these ideas could be controversial, especially ratings and public feedback. My goal is not to create a toxic “rate people like products” app, but to explore whether reputation, feedback, and more transparent interactions could make dating apps healthier.

So I’d love brutally honest feedback:

Would any of this actually solve real dating app problems?

Which features sound useful?

Which features sound dangerous, toxic, or likely to be abused?

Would you personally use something like this?

Or is this just another potential dating-app hellscape, and I should not waste my time building it?

I’m genuinely open to criticism and suggestions.

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So recently I have received a like in hinge from a girl and we had small Convos and without wasting time I wanted to get out of the app and asked her for insta but her reply was shocking she said they her family everyone uses her profile and can give so if I call they will all be notifies. Felt weird but carried on and instead she wanted to meet in Person after 2 days she says we can talk in google meet before meeting I mean this is my first time someone asked me such thing. It feels crazy and funny at the same time coming from a girl. Vetoed account and we exchanged voice notes as well so confirmed she is a girl and also speaks Telugu language so this is my scenario what to do should I join the call 🙂

So this is gonna be a bit long because there’s a few issues I’m addressing here, wondering if anybody else has run into these as well, and if anyone has any advice.

For context, I am bisexual and in my 20s, and am on a few dating apps soley looking for something casual and I’m open about it on my profile. I’m finding men are extremely clingy, typically like right off the bat. Lots of double texting, wanting more attention etc. When I communicate it to them that it’s coming off as clingy, some of them back off a bit and some continue the behaviour. (If they continue the behaviour I unmatch) I do struggle with fears of abandonment so I’m trying to be understanding here, but it just feels so suffocating.

Even with men in their 30s. I find women respect space and time more, and aren’t constantly blowing up my phone.

With men, I’ve also noticed that they are liking my profiles even when we have the exact opposite dating desires. Men who want life partners are liking my profile despite my intentions for casual being clear. Is it common for men to just be swiping on every girl they see without reading profiles?

I don’t have alot of experience with men, since I mainly prefer women. But I just was curious if this was a common experience or it’s just me/the people I’m attracting.

Btw, obviously not all men are clingy and there is clingy women out there too most likely, I just find men clingier.

This guy can access any snap account you want. He will show you a video how he login to the account as proof before payment is needed. You can contact him on discord or telegram. I will post his discord link in the comments.

Telegram: Zizmo_1

Hey everyone. I recently made a post here breaking down a strategy I used to beat the hidden "desirability scores" on apps like Hinge, Bumble, and Tinder.

Link to original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1suanax/how_i_cracked_the_dating_app_algorithm_a_strategy/

I didn't plan to write a book. When I posted the method here, the response was surprising. I thought maybe a few people would be interested, but it hit almost 700,000 views with 6k+ shares and 95% upvotes. I got dozens of messages from guys who were experiencing the exact same thing. Normal guys who were getting their confidence crushed by a platform designed to keep them paying for boosts instead of actually getting them dates.

A lot of you asked for more details—photo strategies, exactly how the "Block to Filter" method works (I think, it’s still a bit speculative), how to handle the "Newbie Boost" sprint, and what to actually say when you match.

I wrote the book. It’s called The Dating Equation.

To be totally clear: this isn't some toxic "pickup artist" garbage, and it's not about tricking anyone. It's about outsmarting the software that is hiding you, so the real you actually gets a fair chance to be seen.
Since this subreddit is the literal reason this book exists, I wanted to make sure you guys get it first.

A lot of you said “what’s the catch?” When I updated the post to say I was going to publish a book, everyone said “ahh, there’s the catch.” Well for you all, today through May 7th, the Kindle version is 100% free. (This is the longest Amazon allows btw)

After the 7th, it goes to $2.99. If you prefer a physical copy, the paperback officially drops on May 9th for $9.99. I’m not really looking to make a bunch of money off of this, just hoping to get it out there.

You can grab the free eBook here: https://a.co/d/00iVVxJe

Thank you to everyone who commented, shared, and messaged me on that original post. You made me realize I wasn't the only one that was fighting the machine. If you read it, let me know what you think.

Good luck out there.

I’m 23 and want to start getting into online dating however I don’t really have any pictures of myself. I have a disability (which isn’t visible) where I get in a lot of pain when walking / standing for long periods of time. Due to that I don’t really go out very often. I maybe go out once every 2-3 weeks to see friends

I know I shouldn’t just do pictures of me inside and when I go out with my friends it’s just us at a pub or something catching up. So any advice on what type of pictures or anything I could use would be appreciated