u/ivanovserr

Hello everyone!

I think my problem is pretty common but I didn't find any good info about this on reddit.

Once I start to use dating apps, it's seriously chemically motivates me to check my phone again and again.

Because I know it will be a new match and a new messages from current matches and maybe if I don't check now, I will miss a potential date.

And it's totally killings the day: instead of follow schedule and don't use phone all day same before, I miss work session again and again and do only the most necessary work.

I was trying to limit my time in dating apps but it's not working at all because I know have people waiting for my answer on other side of the screen.

And as well watching dating apps fully changing my mood from productive to let's say romantically active, not focused on work and I found my self by talking with girls with whom I even don't wanna talk actually..

Do everyone experience the same? How did you fix it?

There is an interesting observation.

If you are young (18-35), then with a high chance your next relationship will be better than the one you ended.

There is no magic, fate, or anything similar.

You grew in your current relationship. You made mistakes and learned something new. You became a little smarter, slightly better at listening to your partner, better at understanding what suits you, what does not and etc.

You increased what we call in our country “well-watched” - your frame of reference has expanded.

When choosing a new partner, you do it with more experience than you had before. You are choosing new partner smarter + making less mistakes during relationships = you having relationships better.

No magic, just life.