r/Mattress

About two years ago I was having terrible back issues. I could barely sleep, was in pain all day and at wit's end. Went to a mattress shop at the worst time, and put down $5k for a twin mattress. Over the past couple of years I've trained myself to become a back sleeper, stretch a little more, and do fewer of the exercises that used to hurt my back. No more back pain.

Fast forward to now where I've been on a remote job for a couple of months in a very low budget accommodation, sleeping on what is probably an $80 moderately firm piece of industrial foam. I'm getting the best sleep of my life. Same thing happened when I stayed at my friend's hostel.

I need some other peoples perspective here. 2 months ago I ordered a bed costing a total of £5,200 at Dreams which was only just delivered 4 weeks ago. The deal included the Crowbrough 10,000 spring mattress.

I checked the site today and the mattress alone has dropped from £2,200 to £1,280 (a £920 difference). On top of that, they are now doing a "20% off frame with mattress" deal which wasn't applied to my bundle. Total price gap between my order and today’s price is roughly £1,500. This kinda stings a bit as I’m paying 1500 more for a bed just by being a month late really. The store told me at the time of buying that since that mattress was new then it wouldn’t be going on sale any time soon, which clearly was a lie. I went into my local store to ask for a price match. They called the original store (70 miles away) and the manager wasn’t any help at all. She basically told me me it’s not their policy to match on beds that have been delivered. She said their price promise only applies to undelivered beds, and claimed her staff would never have told me I could price match later (even though they did).

I’m currently on Day 30 of delivery and have the 100-Night Comfort Guarantee. Dreams Customer Service offered 250 as a good will gesture which in my opinion is no where near enough.

Should I just Accept the £250 and feel like I’ve been ripped off. Or should I just Invoke the 100-Night Guarantee and swap it for a Tempur Pro Air (currently £1,816 on sale) so I’d get vouchers for cabinets to match my bed. I’d have been happy to keep my mattress if they price matched, I feel like I should just swap this just cost them some of the profit, although that may be petty.

Am I being unreasonable expecting them to match the £920 at least? Or should I just go through with the exchange out of principle/spite because of the way they’ve handled it? I’ve not even asked to match the 20% off the frame either. Is invoking my right to exchange that much of an inconvenience to them? Or will they not really care either way? My thinking is it would cost them less to price match rather than take a hit on an exchange. I wouldn’t be squabbling over a 200 pound discount but 1500 is rather significant in my eyes.

What would you do?

Strict side sleeper. Boney hips and shoulders. Got a new Beautyrest Queen hybrid mattress after having full size mattresses most of my life and along with that got a new (rather cheap) Amazon Zinus platform bed months ago. I didn't think much of it but I also didn't know much about slats as I slept on an old school box spring most of my life. After two nights the mattress started sagging a bit. Turns out the cheap thin slats this thing came with were a whopping 4.5 inches apart.

I then ordered a set of custom slats, thick, nice. Only 2 inches apart. Next thing I knew I was able to feel pressure points after about 4-5 hours of sleeping through the night. Didn't get one truly great night of sleep for weeks. I had no idea what was actually happening but could only imagine that somehow the slats were pushing up into the coils on the bottom creating the pressure points which as a side sleeper I was able to feel more. That said, I blamed the issue on the mattress and instead got a Sealy Dakota Ridge mattress along with a $200 Sealy flat/wire grid foundation, the ones that look like an old box spring. Sealy and Sealy. What could go wrong, I thought.

Same issue. Same pressure points. Same early morning wake ups feeling like I was being stabbed in the ribs, hips, etc. I then tried a bunkie board on top of the foundation but it turned out the bunkie board was actually slatted inside with just a strong fabric cover. Seemed like getting something completely rigid and flat was near impossible to find out there. Finally I splurged and bought an adjustable base for $400. This time it was a completely flat foundation (wood inside with one break in it where the base moves).

Game changer. No pressure points, no issues.

I'm wondering what exactly happened though and why I was so sensitive to the slats, the wire grid, especially when before all this started I had a box spring which technically is a slatted foundation, though it is constructed a bit differently with actual springs inside.

Hey y’all! Like the title says, I’m currently researching mattresses and I feel like I’ve read about so many, that I can’t keep my thoughts straight lol.

Basically, I’m in my late 20’s and I have rheumatoid arthritis. I used to be a stomach sleeper, now I’m more of a side sleeper. I literally sleep on my couch most nights because my bed sucks these days.

I am looking for a hybrid mattress I think, because I want something with some bounce to it to help my old lady joints get up in the morning, and I also have a hard time rolling over sometimes. I also like a slightly firmer mattress because I hate feeling stuck in my bed and it also makes my joints dislocate if my bed is too soft. But I also don’t want to be on a mattress so firm that I’m having too much pressure put on my hips and shoulders. (You see why I keep having issues with my research? I’m in a Goldilocks situation here haha)

Idk, I’m willing to invest a little bit for the right mattress that will last well and help me sleep, but I’m also a notorious bargain hunter. So deals are appreciated. 👀

One last thing to note is that my bed frame is really low to the ground, and so I am looking for a taller/thicker mattress so I’m not like, stuck on the floor lol.

Any recommendations are very appreciated!!

I have been a terrible sleeper all my life. I got a chilipad 5 years ago and that has been a gamechanger, but still wake up all the time. Whenever I sleep on an air mattress I sleep the whole night through with no problems. Wake up feeling like a million bucks

I have known this about myself for 20 years, but have not switched because it seems lacking in the aesthetic / intimacy department

Does anyone know of any air mattress solutions that still function as an air mattress, but wont make a girl feel like she’s banging a college kid on a squeaky $20 Walmart device?

I'm looking for some guidance. We bought a spring mattress with a memory foam layer 4-5 years back, after spending 2 years on a memory foam mattress that got too soft rapidly. We had opted for a mattress that felt firmer, and the memory foam layer was small-ish (2 inches).

For the last 1 - 1.5 years, my partner has been feeling uncomfortable. The frequency of this being an issue has increased, so I've been trying to figure out if it's related to the base, the mattress, or changes in their sleeping needs. Whenever we'd go to a hotel, they would say the bed was nicer than ours, but that was true whether it was harder or softer.

I took the mattress off the bed frame a while back, made sure everything was level and tight. The mattress is on poplar slats, with a 3 inch gap between each slat. They are supported by a central metal beam with two supports on it, and one horizontal beam with a support on each side of the bear. This didn't resolve the issues.

I've tried removing the bed frame and putting the mattress on the ground, and my partner woke up feeling sore. I tried to find out if this means the mattress is now too firm, or if it's too soft, or if, maybe, they have been cursed by an unknown enemy.

I'm at a lost as to what to do next. I want them to have restful sleep, but I feel like even if we went shopping for a new mattress, we're stumbling blindly here. That would be a 3rd mattress in less than 10 years. Maybe third time's the charm, or maybe we've got no clue what we're doing.

I've been looking at platforms that might have harder slats, or spaced closer together maybe as a potential next step, but this is not a cheap thing to try either...

I'm desperately looking for a way to make my Nectar premier more firm. I know they say it's a one-sided mattress but just wondering if anyone has ever tried sleeping on the "wrong" side. Or any other trick to get it more firm? My back is killing me. Unfortunately we bought it from a mattress re-sale guy who sells the returned mattresses at a discount on fb marketplace. So I can't use the Nectar warranty/trial option.

If I can't find a solution I'll have to sell it and try for a different brand... So lmk if you've found a nice firm alternative. Dreamcloud perhaps??

I've had a foam nectar mattress for 7 years and it's just not a good fit for me. I sleep on my side and stomach and get back pain (under my shoulder blades) because my mattress is too firm, even with lots of toppers. I hate it.

Im looking for recommendations for mattresses for people under 120 lbs who don't share a bed. Probably a hybrid.

2k is the absolute limit but I'd rather find something closer to 1k and be able to also budget a nice frame.

Thank you!!

Has anyone here got experiences dealing with either John Ryan by Design or Latex Sense in the UK? I'm looking at either a full latex mattress or a hybrid mattress and torn between these two sellers. JR sell an all natural pocket sprung model with latex top, latex sense have a wide range of full latex models. Couldn't find a lot of reviews for JR online, found more detailed posts on Latex Sense on reddit.

I've got a cooling gel mattress and am wondering if there is a mattress cover/protector I can get that won't just negate its cooling effect. Any recommendations?

It's a Leesa Oasis Chill mattress & the corners didn't form nicely like in the product marketing photos. The corners have had 10 days to fill out & they look the same as day 1.

Should I get a replacement? Or is this how the cookie crumbles for a vacuum sealed bed?

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Going down the well-trodden rabbit hole of how to not wake up covered in sweat on a Tempur-pedic, in this case on a LuxeAdapt Medium Hybrid...

Can the Tempur-Breeze mattress protector be used on top of a non-Breeze bed, and more importantly, will it do anything to mitigate the swamp ass this mattress has wrought?

Alternative suggestions more than welcome. And yes, my sheets are cotton percale and the room is an igloo! I promise!

Hi! My wife and I have a Tempur-Pedic ProBreeze mattress being delivered in a few days. As the title says, we are looking for recommendations for mattress protectors and sheets that will pair well with our new mattress. There’s a lot of information online about what to use and what not to use, but was hoping to get some clarity and feedback from y’all. My wife sleeps hot, so she’s looking forward to the cooling aspect of it. We want to make sure we don’t use a protector or sheets that negate that effect. Any feedback would be super helpful. Thanks!!

Looking for a new mattress and still deciding. I liked the temper pedic luxeadapt, Element hybrid from dreamstar, diamond Telluride pt wasn't bad, sealy posturpedic high point ii firm or med. I also tried helix because kinda want one but not sure what I would get. Only store that had them had the twilight elite(to firm.. but firm with softness so not the worst), midnight elite(kinda liked it but a bit to soft), and the plus luxe(to firm), and the sunset luxe(way to soft). If I got a helix was thinking the plus elite if it can feel like the ones I liked or maybe a dusk or dawn. If you have any recommendations for me based off what I said let me know, 270lbs ish stomach sleeper 6' and don't like solid beds and need good side support.

About 6 weeks ago, we started sleeping on an adjustable bed with a new mattress (doctors best, soft). We’ve been using the “no snore” position. Husband has sleep apnea and it’s been working wonders for him.

However, I am having some of the worst lower back pain of my life. Sleep store suggested a firmer mattress but our old bed was a cheap Amazon memory foam mattress that was very soft. So I have a hard time believing that would help. We went back and I laid on half a dozen other beds in the “no snore” position and they all hurt.

We can’t upgrade to a split king because we live in a tiny house and there’s literally not room for it.

Throw your thoughts and suggestions at me. I want him to keep getting solid sleep but I can’t take much more of it!

5'9", 64kg side sleeper getting bruised shoulders and hourly arm numbness — what mattress actually works for light people?

I've been through the wringer and could really use recommendations from people who've actually solved this.

My situation:

- 5'9", 64kg (10 stone), side sleeper

- Sleep position: one leg hitched up ("mountain climber") — puts a lot of pressure on one shoulder

- Symptoms: bruising on my right shoulder and waking every hour with numb arms

- I sleep perfectly on my sofa — have done for months at a time. No numbness, no bruising.

What I've tried:

- Several IKEA mattresses → immediate pain, too hard for my weight

- Silentnight 2000 pocket spring → okay for about 100 nights, then back pain + numbness as it started to sag

- Nectar Premier (current, 30 nights in) → bruising and hourly numbness. The high-density foam just doesn't compress under my weight

- Various memory foam toppers including a 10cm one → back pain, and a Panda bamboo topper → didn't stop the bruising with the Silentnight under it.

**What I think I need (based on the sofa clue):**

The sofa works because it's thin and flat — it can't sag enough to cause back pain, but the surface is soft enough that my shoulder doesn't get crushed. I'm thinking:

- A thinner base mattress (12–15cm), something like the IKEA ÅSVANG or Dormeo Memory Silver

- A soft latex topper (2–3cm) on top for shoulder pressure relief

My questions for you:

1. Has anyone else solved this with a "thin base + latex topper" setup? What did you use?
2. Any other mattresses that actually work well for lighter side sleepers (under 65kg)? Everything seems built for heavier people.
3. Any UK-specific recommendations where I can actually return it if it doesn't work?

I'm returning the Nectar now — it's genuinely injuring me — so open to anything. Thanks in advance.

After doing some research, went to a few local stores today to try out mattresses. Helix Midnight Luxe is usually near the top of reviewer's lists so we found a store to try it but weren't very impressed. It was less firm than we were expecting, but even ignoring that it was just kinda ok. They also had the Twilight luxe but that was definitely too hard. We tried the elite version of both which were each a little nicer but still not really what we wanted. Unfortunately they didn't carry the Dusk or Helix Plus which are in-between.

We tried BeautyRest Black, Carrington Chase, Sealy, Stearns & Foster and Tempur-Pedic and found some that were pretty nice. One of the stores had Purple, which I know gets hated on pretty hard on Reddit, but we tried it and found it was equal or better than everything else we tried. Even the cheapest level without any coils, the PurplePlus, felt equal or better than anything else.

Why does Purple get hated on so much? Does it not hold up after some time? It felt really great in the store. Their most expensive one (which was way too expensive) was the most comfortable thing i've ever laid on but was way too much. Can anyone talk me out of Purple?

FYI, some of our favorites were: Stearns & Foster Studio Medium Tight Top, Carrington Chase Midnight Cove Medium Hybrid and a Sealy Medium Hybrid that I forgot to take a picture of the model.