u/Valuable-Victory-435

I am 18 year old fem boy and recently one of my dad’s friend started showing interest in me. He is 32, bi, successful and honestly very charming. We first met at a family function and later he texted me on insta. Slowly we got close, started going on dates, movies etc and he is very caring and sweet to me.

But the complicated part is he is also engaged with a girl. He says he loves me and don’t wanna lose me and I also got kinda attached to him.

Lately things getting a bit intense, he keeps buying me gifts, food, shopping etc and also keeps saying I should spend more time with him or even stay with him. I told him I can’t do that because I have classes and I live with my parents and I am not ready for all this.

The thing is our families know each other so it makes everything more messy and complicated.

I feel like I am not that mature yet to figure out what is actually the right thing to do. I do like him but I also feel confused and overwhelmed sometimes.

I just don’t know what to do honestly…

I’m an 18-year-old feminine gay guy/femboy, and throughout my teens I’ve mostly dated older men. My first relationship was at 15 with a 34-year-old neighbor, then at 16 I dated one of my coaching teachers for almost 2 years, and currently I’m with a 31-year-old man.

Whenever I talk about this, people say I was groomed and manipulated. But the confusing part is that my feelings felt real to me. I never felt forced — I felt emotionally connected, comfortable, and cared for.

Now I’m trying to understand: can someone have genuine feelings and still experience grooming at the same time? And once both people are adults, does age gap itself really matter if the relationship is respectful and consensual?

I am 18 femboy and I look so feminine that anyone can guess I am gay so I get so many relationship offers from people I don't know or have met only once or twice and I am more into mature fit tall men.

I started dating a man when I was 15 and he was 34M my neighbor and then at the age of 16 I was with my coaching faculty and we dated for like 2 years and currently I am with a man who is 31 years old and whenever I tell this to someone they say oh sweetheart you have been groomed by men and still you are in the same situation but I also love him they what's the problem in this?? Does age really matter in relationships??

People make me feel like I am a victim but I am not just choosing man with whom I am comfortable...

Hey everyone I need your help...

I am 18 femboy from bihar (hell) and I feel very confined here and also I can't express myself and I want to be independent from my family and live my own life with own money. I am just 12th pass rn and planning to go to Delhi.

But I don't know how I will survive there... I have always lived in comfort zone, never went out alone for anything and I am dependent on my comforts that I am enjoying here rn. And I feel very scared when I think from where I will get some work like I can't do labur class work ewww I will die in the first day if I did that so I have no idea just feeling strucked in my life and my in this city...

Can anyone tell what should I do ??? Please

I was 18 when I fell for him. He was 29—older, calmer, someone who felt like certainty in a world where I had none.

He knew I loved him. I never had to say it out loud.

But he kept choosing other people—girls he tried to build something with, while I stayed in the background, hoping one day he’d choose me too.

When everything with them fell apart, I thought maybe… finally, it would be me.

Instead, he looked at me and said, “You deserve better.”

And then he left.

Just like that.

Now nothing feels the same. I haven’t felt that kind of love again. And the worst part is—I still want him back, even though I know I shouldn’t.

I feel so empty everyday because I don’t have anyone around me🥹

I need some advice from you all

So I met a man 29 and I am 18M and I we dated for 3 months and I fell in love with him but things didn’t worked with us and we got separated and also he was in relationship with some girls but despite knowing this I loved him. And its a year we didn’t talked but now I want him I haven't stopped thinking about him so I texted him back today after 1 year.

I haven't got any man other than him till now and I want him back what should I do?

So My brother is in 4th year of college doing bds and I know about his school friends not college one. So I met a man on grindr and our vibes matched So much and we like fell in love each other. We talked a lot of romantic stuff aur wo wali bate bhi and yesterday I met him we went to restaurant where he told me about his college and everything and when I heard the college name my hands just stopped eating and I got so nervous but I didn’t told him and when I asked my brother after returning home about that guy he said " ye to mere batch me h.... 2nd year tk bhut ache dost the..."

I don't know what I should do just in stress he has my cds pictures and I shared a lot with him 😭😭😭

What should I do now???

still haven’t found that person. no late-night “i miss you” calls, no soft forehead kisses, no one holding my hand like i’m something fragile and worth keeping.

it’s just me — figuring out my softness in a world that keeps trying to harden me. learning how to exist as someone who doesn’t fully fit into the boxes people understand. some days i feel too much, other days i feel like nothing at all.

i see people fall in love so easily, like it just happens to them. and i wonder what that feels like… to be chosen without hesitation, to be loved without having to explain every part of yourself first.

but i don’t want rushed love. i don’t want “almost” love. i don’t want someone who likes the idea of me but not the reality.

i want someone who sees all of me — the softness, the confusion, the quiet chaos — and stays.

so yeah, maybe i haven’t found my person yet. but i’m still here, still hoping… and still refusing to shrink myself just to be easier to love.

1. It's very hard for me to live like a male however I am a fem from inside and with time I am loosing my feminine side which I don't want to do.

2.From where I belong, people judge me a lot on my feminine look and bully me so much and de to this I can't express independently my feelings.

3. I want to do my transition but since I'm not financially independent and society is not acceptable I can't do it.

4. I wanna be miss universe or a supermodel or an actress but sadly I can't do nothing in this birth.

5. I can't see men features in my body like beards and body hairband my private parts that makes me feel irritated everytime I see myself in mirror.

6. I have no friends and done with being judged by everyone.

7. I have started feel jealous and envious when I see girls in their appropriate body living life and having fun.

8. I am too nice for everyone but I have just hatered for everyone around me in my heart. I just behave nicely to everyone so that they don't have me because I am very fragile.

9. I can’t have love of my life and get married (which was my biggest dream)

10. I have done some mistakes too in my life which I regret and can't live happily.

11. My body has just turned against me and I never feel comfortable in it . It's like something is missing in me

12. I have nobody to tell my miseries and my relatives and as same as snakes

13. My actual existence is fading with time. I don't love myself because there is nothing to love and I don't have anyone who love for who I am.

Living in India can feel very judging sometimes.

I keep meeting people, getting close, thinking maybe this could be something real… but it never lasts. Either they’re already married or they say they’ll eventually marry a girl because of family and society.

And I understand the pressure. It’s not easy to go against everything here.

But it still hurts.

It makes me feel like I’ll never find someone who can actually choose me fully. Like I’m just something temporary in people’s lives.

Sometimes I just feel really sad and stuck thinking about it.

I was out at a restaurant with my friends, just eating and talking, nothing unusual.

At some point I noticed this man sitting with a woman (pretty sure they were a couple) kept looking at me. Not just casual glances — like proper eye contact, small expressions, slight smiles. I ignored it at first because it felt… weird.

I didn’t react, didn’t engage, just stayed with my friends.

After a while I went to the bathroom to fix my hair a bit, and somehow he ended up there too. Not inside-inside, but near the entrance area.

He looked at me again, smiled, and started talking like it was normal. Then he asked for my Instagram.

I was so caught off guard, I just said I don’t have an account.

He didn’t push much after that, just kind of nodded, but the whole thing felt off. Like… you’re literally here with your wife/girlfriend and still doing this?

I came back out and didn’t look his way again.

Nothing dramatic happened, but it left a strange feeling. Not exactly scary, just uncomfortable in a very specific way.

Am I overthinking this or is that actually as weird as it felt?

I was at an ice cream shop, just minding my own business, deciding what to order.

This man — a bit older, well dressed, very calm — came up to me. Not in a creepy way, just… polite.

He looked at me for a second and said, “you’re very beautiful.”

I didn’t even know how to react, I just awkwardly smiled and said thank you.

Then he casually said he’d like to pay for my ice cream.

I immediately said no, like out of reflex. But he kept insisting, not aggressively, just really gently. Like “it’s okay, please, I insist.”

And the thing is… he wasn’t weird about it. No strange vibe, no pressure after that. Just soft-spoken, respectful, even a little charming. Honestly, he was very well behaved and… yeah, handsome too.

That somehow made it more confusing.

I still said no in the end and paid for myself, and he just smiled and left. No drama, nothing uncomfortable after that.

But I’ve been thinking about it.

Because it didn’t feel bad. It also didn’t feel completely normal either.

Like… where’s the line between a kind gesture and something that feels a little too personal from a stranger?

I can’t tell if I handled it right or if I just defaulted to being guarded.

I was just standing there, waiting, not doing anything unusual, and this man came up to me out of nowhere.

At first I thought maybe he needed directions or something, but no. He just… started talking to me. Asking where I’m from, what I do. Normal questions, but it didn’t feel normal at all.

There was something off about it. The way he just decided I was available to talk. No hesitation, no reading the situation. I didn’t know how to react.

I answered a bit, kept it short, but inside I was getting more and more uncomfortable. Not scared exactly, just tense. Like I needed an exit but didn’t have one.

And the worst part is, I kept thinking I had to stay polite. Like I couldn’t just walk away or shut it down without feeling rude.

He eventually left, nothing happened, but the whole interaction stuck with me way longer than it should have.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting, but it just felt… invasive in a quiet way. Like my space wasn’t really mine in that moment.