r/LGBTQpakistan

I am crying as I write this but I do not know what else to do, where else to go, or who to turn to: there is no one I can - or would like - to turn to.

For the past few weeks (if not months) I have been doing whatsoever I can to disassociate from life. I have been drowning myself in work or playing video games. Heck, I have been putting on podcasts or BBC radio whenever I attempt to sleep in order to keep my mind distracted from thinking about life.

However, it rained and hailed cats and dogs in Lahore today; a city I recently moved to from Islamabad. I got caught in traffic for three hours after work and was left with nothing but plenty of free time to overthink everything that has gone wrong in my life.

I could not help but reflect back on every single instance my heart fell prey to unrequited love and trauma:

(1) fives year of unrequited love for a straight best friend from the age of 14 to 19;

(2) fives years of another unrequited love for another straight best friend from the age of 19 to 24 whose wedding I ended up having to partake in as his best man; and

(3) one year of unrequited love for a bisexual man who led me on and subsequently proceeded to get engaged to a girl.

As a 27 year old man now, who used to be hopelessly romantic, I have given up on love. In fact, a significant part of me has become bitter towards the notion of it. I once used to live vicariously through couples and would feel happy seeing people in love but have now come to a point where I dislike being around them. I'm broken. I am also aware that no one is going to save me; it is something I have made peace with. Therefore, I am trying to save myself. However, healing has been incredibly tough... and lonely.

Most of my friends from Islamabad (the city I have spent most of my life in) and I seldom speak. We are all busy with work and when we make time for each other, I mostly listen to them rant in lieu of letting them in on my life; I feel incredibly uncomfortable ranting to them - in fact, to anyone irl for that matter.

To top it off, I barely have friends in Lahore. I tried really hard to make some friends here; however, most people either turned out to be really weird or narcissistic.

At this point, I genuinely feel alone in a world with over 8 billion human beings. Tonight is definitely one of those nights where it feels like breathing my last would not really affect anyone except maybe my parents.

I am tired... so so tired.

i just cant prove it but like statistically there is NO way this many med boys are straight 😭 but somehow the only options are either straight or emotionally unavailable.

And the few that actually seem fruity are never your type.

Girl i didn’t survive MBBS just to die alone 💔

I am 23 F bisexual. It's one of the nights where I feel extra lonely and feel like I also deserve a partner and love. Although I am bisexual I am more inclined towards women. If you are someone who is looking for something serious. Please reach out. Let's give it a shot!

Lemme give whole story, in 2025 (around January) I met a boy (let’s call him “1”), 1 wanted to date boys for the first time, he said he was gay and first time he dated anyone, he was very charming and honestly I fell so much in love, and I basically came out to him (second or third person irl, 1st and second and still my besties) we lived in same apartment complex, so 1 would often come to my house, I did all the bottom things, sitting on his lap, hugging him and kissing him (only did on neck or cheeks) one day I had to go to another city due to some personal reasons (very very very sad reason involving death of one of my most beloved grandpa, he was super nice to us, he was strict though, but he was a man of principles, never allowed anyone to be wronged, unfortunately his second marriage because he became a widower was with a gold digger) two weeks later I returned. 1 had changed, looking back he was likely in with me for physical attraction (it’s april 2026 by now), suddenly one day he messaged me that I am disgusting, I should move on and that I am lucky for even getting a chance with him, afterwards in the evening, he came with his new boyfriend to my house (my parents thought he was a close friend of me still, and they paid no attention to him bringing someone else with him (let’s call him 2), to be very honest 2 is much much more prettier than me, and 2 is holy cute. Anyways they pressured me to give everything, saying that those gifts should be his, though he gave to me, but still eventually I just gave him everything, it involved them literally going through my wardrobe, they took some stuff which I planned to give to 1 as well. Which makes no sense, afterwards 1 literally spat in my face and left. The gifts weren’t even that expensive, but I planned to give 1, a iPhone 13, he even took that, yeah, pretty traumatic
What pains me the most as of right now is that that iPhone 13 was pta approved, my current phone is far far worse then the iPhone 13 pta. Is it bad that I just wanted to give a gift

Hello 23 from lahore (EME society) looking for people to connect to and be friends with from nearby areas… PLEASE DONT EVEN BOTHER TEXTING IF YOURE LOOKING FOR SEX THANKYOU

I've developed a new fantasy that I want a female to fit on my face, smother me jk while I eat you from below (I'm from lhr)

Same as title

Some ppl (a lot) just jump on developing their feelings and throwing themseleves out there for relationships without knowing the next person at all lol. many people in our country (not lgbt restricted) just say oh i love u, oh i have feelings, ur mine forever after knowing someone for a couple of days or maybe even LESS. Its funny and sad at the same time cuz the sense of lonliness runs deep in many people here. I have heard these stories from a lot of people.

here is my personal opinion on this

if u talk with the intention of dating someone dont rush at all just ask if the other person is single or no and ofc their AGE (important) like say like this 21M (me btw) then take things slow dont jump on saying those cringe words or anything or maybe a little cuz every chat dynamic is different. but dont get attached in a day or a week or so i probably would take 2 months of knowing someone before yk going on a date or smth but yeah everyone is different and might have different timelines. do what suits u best at the end of the day. MUAH

avoid grammatical mistakes i aint checking it all again

So, how did y'all know you're queer?

For me it was me being masculine, hyper independent, non conforming to the core and being a lonely asf child.

in 9th standard I was bullied for being what I am.

(I didn't have any sort of sex education at that time so that bullying was v unnecessary in my opinion)

How did y'all know?

Just got traumatized by a pendu who couldn't take a no for an answer. There's this 19 yo guy I have met a couple of times. But today I was terribly tired of all the travel so I told him No once and then I said it again and then again. But he kept calling and calling, so I blocked him. One hour later I hear knock on my door and I was just about to open before my sixth sense struck me that nobody knocks on door this time and the building caretaker usually leaves around this time so I didn't open it.

I knew it was him, he kept knocking with increasing force and even kept pushing to open the door, I had double locks on otherwise he would have been able to open it. He must have kept knocking for an hour and it was horrible especially being a rape victim. I hated every moment of that hour. I hate being with such pathetic low standard people but it's not about sex, I suffer from touch deprivation and I crave hugs and intimacy too much at times and some days I am too weak to resist. But does it mean someone does this to me?

I hate how these 19yos get to be all innocent just because they are young and everyone is just calling the older guys creep

I hate this country and every fiber of the being of such people. Hey you, if you are reading this, you are gonna be in hell and even without it, you are gonna suffer in this world too. You are never gonna find true love, your children will hate you and throw you on the road because a***holes like you are simply incapable of exhibiting simple human decency. I can't wait for the day I get to spit on the tarmac and leave this **it hole of the country.

Hey, hope everyone on here is doing good. I am just another one of you guys trying to seek a meaningful connection.

Gonna do a lil introduction.

I am from Karachi, somethings that I like are watching movies, listening to music, hanging out (preferably only 1 on 1 hangouts), talking and just over all good calm vibes. I am nothing intense.

The reason I am making this post is mainly because I really want to find a soul connection, a friendship or even more. At a stage of my life where it’s extremely hard to find anyone sincere enough to create a bond. Idk if that makes sense but I am longing for something I have never had and I do believe a lot of it is because I suck at putting myself out, so barely anyone knows of my existence, but hey.. I gotta start somewhere so why not here lol.

Please reach me out if you’re from Karachi as well and trying yourself to find connections or a partner. I would love to have a convo and see where things go. 🫶🏻

there is no country in this whole world where trans people don't exist and there is no history where trans people don't exist so why not society just accept us because there is no way they can escape us

So I'm 20 , and I'm from Islamabad and I'm a bottom , so I need help with something very important , how can I find the man of my dreams , have anyone of you ever found one ?